I too have now experienced "diet sabotage"

PoisonIvy088
PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
in Motivation and Support
From my dad.

He brought home 2 containers (250grams each) of homemade cookies, and 500 grams of fudge.

According to him, I now have to eat all this, and he's put a week timeframe on it because apparently they will "spoil". (He's diabetic). When I told him I'm losing weight and watching what I eat, he just laughed it off.

I don't mind treats, but they should be treats, I shouldn't have to live off them for the next 5 days.

I'm not touching them. I'll even trash them if they just sit there and HE doesn't eat them. So, technically he didn't sabotage me because I ate nothing. But it pissed me off none the less .

Rant over. :|
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  • fallenoaks37
    fallenoaks37 Posts: 9
    Alternatively, you could freeze them and enjoy one every once in awhile.
  • FatFreeFrolicking
    FatFreeFrolicking Posts: 4,252 Member
    You do realize that eating ONE cookie a day isn't going to ruin your weight loss, right?
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    fallenoaks37 wrote: »
    Alternatively, you could freeze them and enjoy one every once in awhile.

    I don't have that kind of self control. When I buy treats I usually go out to buy them, and I only buy one single serve.
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    I'm thinking perhaps I should give them away secretly.
  • joepratt503
    joepratt503 Posts: 191 Member
    Accidentally drop them in the bin...no apologies
  • Jruzer
    Jruzer Posts: 3,501 Member
    Look at it as an opportunity to build your self control.
  • Dragn77
    Dragn77 Posts: 810 Member
    Give them to the neighbor and say its from your dad lol Seriously? Thats just mean. And strange...2 containers of cookies and you *must* eat them? Gross. And thats from someone who loves homemade cookies.
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    The fudge I got can be frozen for months. Can your fudge not be frozen?
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    @Jruzer, does a weight lifter put a 300 lb weight in the middle of his living room to exercise his muscle power? Or does he build up gradually within his capacity? It's the same with "will power". If a dieter knows they have will power for one treat, then that's their capacity. No reason to set themselves up to fail.

    @PoisonIvy088, I'd be half tempted to give them all away publicly. Shame on your dad.
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    Dragn77 wrote: »
    Give them to the neighbor and say its from your dad lol Seriously? Thats just mean. And strange...2 containers of cookies and you *must* eat them? Gross. And thats from someone who loves homemade cookies.

    I know! I love homemade cookies too but that's a bit much.
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    teagirlmedium wrote: »
    The fudge I got can be frozen for months. Can your fudge not be frozen?

    Not sure to be honest. As I said I normally don't buy so much sweets. I just buy one, eat it, and then its done.
  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,148 Member
    Send them to me.
  • Pipsg1rl
    Pipsg1rl Posts: 1,414 Member
    I agree with either sharing or freezing.
    By sharing you show how much you love and appreciate that they are so amazing you have to let other people experience them!
    By freezing you really REALLY have to want one to get it out of the freezer, thaw or heat it, then eat it. That's a lot of work for 150-200 calories in 4 bites.
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    zyxst wrote: »
    Send them to me.

    If I didn't live overseas, I probably would.
  • mumblemagic
    mumblemagic Posts: 1,090 Member
    Your dad probably thinks he's doing something nice for you. Try 1, give the rest to your neighbour, and tell your dad that you appreciate the thought but as you're trying to watch what you eat you gave the rest away to avoid temptation.
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    You know the sweets wasn't that bad, but the part that angered me the most, was him laughing in my face when I said I'm trying to lose weight.
  • ashleezona
    ashleezona Posts: 20 Member
    I'd throw them out and not give it a second thought. I throw out birthday cake (my absolute favorite thing in the world) all the time. A birthday (or a gift of cookies) lasts ONE day, no more.
  • yesimpson
    yesimpson Posts: 1,372 Member
    I'd eat a couple of cookies and a few bits of fudge, and give the rest away or bring them into work with for me to bribe my colleagues with when I want a hot drink but can't be bothered to get up and fill the kettle ;)
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    yesimpson wrote: »
    I'd eat a couple of cookies and a few bits of fudge, and give the rest away or bring them into work with for me to bribe my colleagues with when I want a hot drink but can't be bothered to get up and fill the kettle ;)

    Haha nice trick.
  • silentKayak
    silentKayak Posts: 658 Member
    I don't generally like to eat high-calorie foods I haven't chosen for myself. If you don't want them, feel free to give them away or throw them away. If you want them, I agree that you could put the fudge in the freezer and have a little at a time when you want a chocolate fix.

    He definitely doesn't sound supportive. My family is very supportive of my efforts. They don't eat foods I've labelled as "mommy's diet stuff" (like the low-cal protein bars I like). They don't pressure me to eat junk food, and they make sure I have time for fitness. You can definitely do it without support, but it's going to be a harder road.

    My mother showed love through food (leading to my sibling and I both being overweight). Your dad may be the same - perhaps he genuinely thinks he's being nice.
  • dopeysmelly
    dopeysmelly Posts: 1,390 Member
    PoisonIvy088 wrote: »
    You know the sweets wasn't that bad, but the part that angered me the most, was him laughing in my face when I said I'm trying to lose weight.

    Then I would definitely spend a while picking The One I was going to eat and throw the rest in the trash.
  • Artladyla
    Artladyla Posts: 5 Member
    Put them down the garbage disposal and don't look back.
  • Rubie81
    Rubie81 Posts: 720 Member
    I'll message you my mailing address. Mmm...cookies
  • allie_00p
    allie_00p Posts: 280 Member
    edited February 2015
    PoisonIvy088 wrote: »
    You know the sweets wasn't that bad, but the part that angered me the most, was him laughing in my face when I said I'm trying to lose weight.
    In this situation, there's always the somewhat less mature but more satisfying reaction of smiling sweetly at him as he watches you dump all of it in the trash.
  • RibStabsHeart
    RibStabsHeart Posts: 71 Member
    Figure out which one you really like, and pack them up into single-serving ziplock bags. Eat a bag when it fits into your macros, and take the rest to work. Share the pain!

    My wife is an amazing baker, which makes dieting hell. The best thing I can do is share the caloric load and take the goodies to work and get them the hell out of my house!
  • PoisonIvy088
    PoisonIvy088 Posts: 107
    RibStabsHeart wrote: »
    Figure out which one you really like, and pack them up into single-serving ziplock bags. Eat a bag when it fits into your macros, and take the rest to work. Share the pain!

    My wife is an amazing baker, which makes dieting hell. The best thing I can do is share the caloric load and take the goodies to work and get them the hell out of my house!

    Mm. I wish that was an option. But from past experience, I'm better off just giving it all away at once. Because one bag will lead to another, and another, and another. And before I know it, its gone.

    That's just me. It bothers me until its not there anymore. When I buy cookies I usually buy those little packs of 4. That way, I can eat them all and then its finished. There's no going back for more because there is no more. :smile:
  • teagirlmedium
    teagirlmedium Posts: 679 Member
    PoisonIvy088 wrote: »
    teagirlmedium wrote: »
    The fudge I got can be frozen for months. Can your fudge not be frozen?

    Not sure to be honest. As I said I normally don't buy so much sweets. I just buy one, eat it, and then its done.

    Ya for the cookies I am going to go with the giving them away idea. I mentioned freezing the fudge because after freezing the fudge it has to be cut into smaller pieces to eat. I got a half pound of fudge last month and I cut it into smaller pieces and let a piece soften before I eat it. Because it takes a while to soften I was thinking you could cut a serving off and use that as your piece of fudge for the day. This only works if you like your fudge soft though and if you can freeze the bigger chunk of fudge.
  • Virkati
    Virkati Posts: 679 Member
    jgnatca wrote: »
    @Jruzer, does a weight lifter put a 300 lb weight in the middle of his living room to exercise his muscle power? Or does he build up gradually within his capacity? It's the same with "will power". If a dieter knows they have will power for one treat, then that's their capacity. No reason to set themselves up to fail.

    @PoisonIvy088, I'd be half tempted to give them all away publicly. Shame on your dad.

    THIS ^^^
    You don't need to freeze them. You don't need to give them away secretly. You don't need to have more willpower. You need to do what is right for you and if that means they get buried in the trash, then that's what you do. You would not bring home things that your dad has a hard time NOT eating, out of respect for his dietary needs and restrictions. You trying to lose weight is no different. He needs to respect the decision you've made even if he doesn't like or agree with it.

    And just so you know, you'll have the last laugh in due time. Your dad's jealousy and insecurities have no place in your dieting plan. Tell him if he brings the stuff home, HE needs to eat them or they will go to waste. Since he CAN'T eat it, he's wasting his money. He won't do it often if he sees you're sticking to your plan. And I'm proud of you. You keep it up and don't quit! And the laughing...that was mean. But when you reach your goal, your dad will be proud too. Jealous, but proud.
  • Soggynode
    Soggynode Posts: 1,179 Member
    yesimpson wrote: »
    I'd eat a couple of cookies and a few bits of fudge, and give the rest away or bring them into work with for me to bribe my colleagues with when I want a hot drink but can't be bothered to get up and fill the kettle ;)

    Yep. The breakroom table at work is my go-to drop off for treats that need to be adopted. They can eat them, toss them or take them home I don't care. Take a few if you trust yourself otherwise drop off the whole lot. Do whatever works best for you.

    ... Also no laughing at weight loss, -1 point for dad.

  • jennifershoo
    jennifershoo Posts: 3,198 Member
    Don't be ungrateful. Your dad thought of you. Just say thank you and explain him the situation politely.

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