I fell off the wagon, trying to get back on, any advice?

Yep, what Liftng said. You have to want it more than you want to eat. It has to be more important.

You don't need help getting back on...JUST GET ON. And some days you may fall off a bit...DONT STAY OFF. GET BACK ON IMMEDIATELY. Don't fall for the "Oh I screwed up this day this week this month is a loss, I'll start again tomorrow, Monday, the first of the month..." NO! Just get back up dust yourself off and keep moving forward.

You do have to want it so bad you can taste it. You have to want it more than the binges, more than the pity parties, more than ANYTHING.

You have to do it, nobody else can do it for you.

Oh and take "hopefully" OUT of your vocabulary. You CAN do it. You don't need to "hope" for it...you have to make it happen.

Now get your butt back up there and get moving!

My advice is this:

Tune in to yourself mentally. Find out what makes you binge and make bad choices and then attack the cause of that.

For instance, when I open the fridge, I wanna grab something quick and easy. I don't want to cut up a bag of peppers or carrots. Or spend extra time weighing them out. So, on the same day I purchase my produce (usually Sunday) I cut up everything. Celery carrots peppers cucumbers and cherry tomatoes and I make "veggie snack packs". There are about ten left in my fridge now. This means the rest of the week when I go to open the fridge, it is easier for me to say yes to a low calorie, nutrient dense food.

Now, I have a hard time with peer pressure and I live with my big family. The other day there were literally five boxes of paczkis at my house.

My brother danced as he shoved it into his mouth, and knowing I was trying not to eat any, he taunted me with it. I shoved my earphones on, played that problem song by that grande girl and made up my own lyrics to the paczkis. "I got one less pound without you", "I shouldn't want you but I dooooo, I got one less pound without Ya". I sang and danced through the kitchen, ignoring everyone else around me eating veggies. I may have looked like a complete dork, but I never had a paczki.

Here's the thing though. I didn't just wake up one day with this kind of self control. It took me about five months to really get to know what was causing me to binge. And STILL I fail sometimes. My next weakness to conquer is social binging. And I've done it all in baby steps.

Once you can figure out how to control your behaviors you will find you can do anything. Like quit smoking, run for 5 miles, and take a dance class.

It won't happen over night. You will have bad days and it is ok to feel bad about binging. But don't wallow in that guilt. Draw strength from it. Tomorrow is a new day, and you can conquer this. Because this journey is not just about counting calories and losing weight, it's about being healthy and eating to live another day.

If you need some friends for extra support, feel free to add me.

Also, join some challenges on the forums, exercise, go to the gym and chat with people. AND most important MAKE IT FUN!!!!

Try taking the weight loss one day at a time. Just focus on one meal or time period at a time. When I quit drinking, it was impossible for me to think of never having alcohol again in my entire life (which was going to be a loooong time). So I just looked at the next hour and said I wouldn't drink for that hour. Then it became two, then three, then a whole day, week, month, etc. Just baby steps. And like others have said, don't beat yourself up and quit just because you slipped once. It's a process, and you may have many stops and starts. That's ok. Be kind to yourself, but bring some discipline into the picture. You can do this!

wizzybeth wrote: »

You don't need help getting back on...JUST GET ON. And some days you may fall off a bit...DONT STAY OFF. GET BACK ON IMMEDIATELY. Don't fall for the "Oh I screwed up this day this week this month is a loss, I'll start again tomorrow, Monday, the first of the month..." NO! Just get back up dust yourself off and keep moving forward.

You do have to want it so bad you can taste it. You have to want it more than the binges, more than the pity parties, more than ANYTHING.

You have to do it, nobody else can do it for you.

Oh and take "hopefully" OUT of your vocabulary. You CAN do it. You don't need to "hope" for it...you have to make it happen.

Now get your butt back up there and get moving!

I fell off the wagon (I totally *hate* that expression, it makes it sound as if it wasn't my choice - of course it was up to me!) last year. This year I am doing much better. People have given you a lot of great advice, here's the top three that work for me, in order of importance:

1. Don't eat too little. If you restrict yourself too much, it's easier to give up. If you eat a variety of foods and enough of them to feel satiated, there's much fewer excuses.

2. If you fall, get up IMMEDIATELY. As people have said above. Getting back on track right after a fall will actually boost your confidence a lot and will make it less likely you fall again.

3. LEARN EACH LESSON DEALT. So you binged. Why was it? Honest self examination, you don't have to tell anyone but you have to find it and tell yourself. Not in general, that particular time, why did you binge? Learn that lesson, apply it better in the future. If you binge again, find out why you did that particular time, learn that lesson. You cannot expect changes if you do the same thing again and again, you have to make changes to get changes and you cannot make them "blind", at least for me.

Good luck!

First off, don't stress yourself out. You shouldn't rush yourself to lose all the weight in record speed. You should strive for a healthier lifestyle. Believe me, a few years ago, I lost 60 pounds in 4 months and, surprise, I gained it all back plus 20 pounds. Start with small goals.
Here's a few tips:
*Prepare your meals and snacks ahead of time. I know whenever I get busy with work, school, etc., by the time dinner rolls around and if I have nothing planned, I'll get fast food.

*Don't drink your calories. Quit the sodas (even diet ones), be careful with drinks that contain a lot of sugar; juices, teas, even gator are.

*Start slow with your exercising: don't burn yourself out. Start with 20-25 minutes of cardio for 3 times a week. If you feel comfortable with that after a few weeks, add 5 minutes to your time each day, or bump it up to 20 minutes/4 days a week.

akirah11 wrote: »

I read this and this helped me . I am an emotional eater and when my husband went to the hospital I ate everything because I was stressed. I need to be healthy and u have to stay on track. This post was what I needed to read.

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