What do you do when someone gives you diet advice (that you never asked for) you disagree with?

NiqueKristan
NiqueKristan Posts: 152 Member
edited November 13 in Health and Weight Loss
smile and nod or tell them your opinion?
I'm basically tired of people saying "You HAVE to eat before 6 in order to lose weight" or "drink only warm water or drink only cold water" or "clean eating is the only way to lose weight" Or "eating 5-6 small meals a day is the way to go".
Obviously I believe in CICO, iifym. I guess I get annoyed because I don't ask for advice and people give it to me. What do you do?! Am I just being cranky?!
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  • terar21
    terar21 Posts: 523 Member
    Depends on how they offer it. If it's just a passive suggestion, I'll smile "oh that's interesting...mmhmm." If it's an aggressive assertion, I tell them it doesn't work like that. Keep it simple. I'm not trying to argue unless they're looking for an argument.
  • EvanKeel
    EvanKeel Posts: 1,903 Member
    I think my reaction might vary depending on my mood from smiling and nodding to withering glare. Everyone's on their own journey and all. I just don't want to be part of it. Start wearing headphones more often.

    Treat it like any polarizing topic: Politics, religion, etc.
  • Alatariel75
    Alatariel75 Posts: 18,328 Member
    "I'll keep that in mind for if what I'm doing stops working"

    It's a lovely little passive aggressive swipe that acknowledges that you're succeeding, acknowledges that they have said their peice and that you aren't planning on continuing the conversation.
  • sofaking6
    sofaking6 Posts: 4,589 Member
    Boop their nose.
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
    I'm way too awesome for anyone to even bother giving me diet advice. Most people come to me for advice given where I was just 2-3 years ago (<<<that horrible profile picture) and where I am now.
  • Need2Exerc1se
    Need2Exerc1se Posts: 13,575 Member
    It depends on who it is and my mood at the time. And whether they seem like they want a rational discussion or are just spouting advice and have no intention of listening to opposing viewpoints.

    If they told me I had to do something that I wasn't already doing to lose weight, I'd likely just say "And yet I am losing weight" and walk off.
  • Tigger422RM
    Tigger422RM Posts: 6 Member
    I think it depends who you're talking to. If you know them, you probably have a good idea of their personality. Are they trying to seem more knowledgeable and spouting off cr*p or are they genuinely trying to be helpful. If their genuinely trying to be helpful, I'll take the time to educate and say "that's not quite how it works. some people have found that tip helpful, but it's actually for x,y, and z reasons. not how I roll, but if it works for you, great!". If they're just trying to seem smart, I won't bother because I can more easily waste my time and frustrate myself talking to a brick wall.
  • juggernaut1974
    juggernaut1974 Posts: 6,212 Member
    Religion...politics...weight loss

    What are three things I do my best not to discuss with other people?

    I get a lot of questions about how I 'got fit'. I tend to answer very broadly (ate less, started working out more) and then quickly change the subject.
  • yolo9752
    yolo9752 Posts: 69 Member
    Smile and nod, LOL or if it is worth it, discuss!
  • sdado1013
    sdado1013 Posts: 209 Member
    sofaking6 wrote: »
    Boop their nose.

    lol
  • snarlingcoyote
    snarlingcoyote Posts: 399 Member
    Smile, nod, say something non-commital, get away as fast as possible. :)
  • SilverRose89
    SilverRose89 Posts: 447 Member
    Smile and nod but do an inner facepalm usually.

    Or sometimes I will politely correct. This doesn't usually go well.

    So I return to smiling and nodding and inwardly facepalming.
  • SLLRunner
    SLLRunner Posts: 12,942 Member
    NiqueKristan wrote: »
    smile and nod or tell them your opinion?
    I'm basically tired of people saying "You HAVE to eat before 6 in order to lose weight" or "drink only warm water or drink only cold water" or "clean eating is the only way to lose weight" Or "eating 5-6 small meals a day is the way to go".
    Obviously I believe in CICO, iifym. I guess I get annoyed because I don't ask for advice and people give it to me. What do you do?! Am I just being cranky?!

    They have a right to their opinion. So, I just listen and don't give advice unless they ask for it. If they ask for advice, I share my experience only, which is to eat less and move more. If I'm better friends with someone, I might tell them about the tools Iuse.
  • LB30
    LB30 Posts: 109 Member
    I work with the Chief of the Food Police, so I have an idea of your frustration. But for me, it is not so much that said chief gives advice, it is more the passive spouting of (often incorrect, or at the very least, matter of opinion) information on what works and what does not. What is good and what is bad, etc. I'm constantly treated to comments about how so & so doesn't 'eat healthy', even though I don't think she even knows what so & so eats. When the subject of food comes up I want to run. Fast. And with scissors! I hate conflict so I usually bite my tongue, but I have stated my opinion on more than one occasion. Her knowing what I think hasn't eased my pain one bit! Suffice it to say, I cringe a little every time I hear the phrase 'eating healthy', no matter how benign or well placed it may be. :s
  • SilverRose89
    SilverRose89 Posts: 447 Member
    edited February 2015
    SLLRunner wrote: »

    They have a right to their opinion. So, I just listen and don't give advice unless they ask for it. If they ask for advice, I share my experience only, which is to eat less and move more. If I'm better friends with someone, I might tell them about the tools Iuse.

    I think opinions are fine. If someone is saying "this worked great for me" then, even if I think it sounds a bit weird, it's fair enough. It's when people try and give you unsolicited advice based on their odd theories (especially when they've not even used it themselves) :neutral_face:
  • NiqueKristan
    NiqueKristan Posts: 152 Member
    SilverRose89 wrote: »
    SLLRunner wrote: »

    They have a right to their opinion. So, I just listen and don't give advice unless they ask for it. If they ask for advice, I share my experience only, which is to eat less and move more. If I'm better friends with someone, I might tell them about the tools Iuse.

    I think opinions are fine. If someone is saying "this worked great for me" then, even if I think it sounds a bit weird, it's fair enough. It's when people try and give you unsolicited advice based on their odd theories (especially when they've not even used it themselves) :neutral_face:

    THIS!!!!
    If they say it like "this works for me" great, but disapproval and unsolicited advice are a no no. The lady who is roommates with my grandmother (I have to call her aunt) judges me whenever I eat something other than salad and fruit. "eat a salad." "try to eat earlier" "aren't you supposed to be on a diet? That's not diet food" etc. my dad tells me every time I see him to eat 6 small meals a day or I won't lose much weight.

  • WeddedBliss1992
    WeddedBliss1992 Posts: 414 Member
    ceoverturf wrote: »
    Religion...politics...

    ...and the great pumpkin

  • Hornsby
    Hornsby Posts: 10,322 Member
    I take off my shirt, flex and tell them that their point is moot.
  • canadjineh
    canadjineh Posts: 5,396 Member
    I think it might depend on if they have a rockin' awesome bod or not, lol, and are they following their own advice?
  • cwolfman13
    cwolfman13 Posts: 41,865 Member
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  • Lasmartchika
    Lasmartchika Posts: 3,440 Member
    Just

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  • DEJAnoVU
    DEJAnoVU Posts: 37 Member
    Depends on who it is and if the advice is warranted.
    I had a very good friend who is health conscious tell me I should never eat out, stop eating sugar, and avoid all sodium.
    She truly believed any weight I've lost so far(17pounds) is water weight because I've been doing all 3.

    At first I disagreed, but she literally wouldn't shut up until I agreed.
    Take the easy route and just smile and nod.
  • Greenbomb
    Greenbomb Posts: 89 Member
    It depends...if it's something crazy or unhealty I might disagree. But if it's just something like "don't eat gluten! gluten is bad!!!" then I say I'm glad that works for you.
  • DEJAnoVU
    DEJAnoVU Posts: 37 Member
    It's worse when you live with someone who always suggestion food advice.
    My boyfriend literally gives me unsolicited advice every time I cook something.
    I'm not as nice to him though
  • dakotababy
    dakotababy Posts: 2,407 Member
    Yeah...I find it odd when someone asks how much weight I have lost (as most people know I am looking to lose 100lbs) and I will say "92lbs" and then they go on some rant about how lemon water "melts fat" and how they knew someone who has lost 10lbs doing that.

    I just keep my mouth shut, I do not agree nor disagree then I duck out of the conversation asap.

  • CooCooPuff
    CooCooPuff Posts: 4,374 Member
    Okay and then I change the subject.

    If it's a certain person that I'd like to drop from my life but am unable to, I'll ask how it's been working out for them or correct them.
  • AllOutof_Bubblegum
    AllOutof_Bubblegum Posts: 3,646 Member
    Nobody really does, actually. My friends and family know I'm a dietetics major and a fitness fanatic, so they're usually the ones coming to me.

    How do I respond when they ask asinine questions about Atkins, cleanses, smoothies, and "but Dr. Oz said...", though?

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  • 2snakeswoman
    2snakeswoman Posts: 655 Member
    Say "let me know how that works for you."
  • ROBOTFOOD
    ROBOTFOOD Posts: 5,527 Member
    I just nod my head. Maybe respond with ya, cool, hmmmm, ok. I'm also totally day dreaming during it too.
  • jgnatca
    jgnatca Posts: 14,464 Member
    Smile and nod.
    Two southern ladies joke.
    The flood of misinformation out there, what, could fill the Pacific several times over? It's more satisfying to demonstrate your knowledge than to talk about it.

    Then if the armchair experts ask for your secret, tell them it was a fluke.
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