ok... I'm feeling guilty

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  • segacs
    segacs Posts: 4,599 Member
    suefairy123 wrote: »
    Thank you guys... this is all new to me... so I'm gonna get over it and be happy... goodbye guilty feeling

    Excellent. You've got this!
  • Lounmoun
    Lounmoun Posts: 8,423 Member
    suefairy123 wrote: »
    As I stated in my earlier discussion today was gathering by grandma's house... I did manage to eat a little of everything and from my logs I did manage to remain in my calorie goal.. but oh boy I feel guilty..feel like crying... I have been excellent for the past 3 weeks and I felt like I failed today...

    You ate some of everything and stayed in your calorie goal. Not even close to failing.
    Guilt is not productive.
  • Lovefastball99
    Lovefastball99 Posts: 53 Member
    segacs wrote: »
    You should be feeling proud of yourself, not guilty. Enjoying family occasions and still staying within your calorie goal is what we would call winning at life.

    This.
  • suefairy123
    suefairy123 Posts: 52 Member
    Lounmoun wrote: »
    suefairy123 wrote: »
    As I stated in my earlier discussion today was gathering by grandma's house... I did manage to eat a little of everything and from my logs I did manage to remain in my calorie goal.. but oh boy I feel guilty..feel like crying... I have been excellent for the past 3 weeks and I felt like I failed today...

    You ate some of everything and stayed in your calorie goal. Not even close to failing.
    Guilt is not productive.

    ok I will try to eliminate guilt at all cost.. thanks
  • dragon_sla
    dragon_sla Posts: 42 Member
    Why are you upset and getting down on yourself. Look at good points instead of the bad. You ate in moderation stayed in your goal limits. Like others have said you used moderation. So give yourself credit. Yesterday, I went over my calorie goal. It happens and tomorrow is a new day. Your on the right track. I have one day that eat what I want in moderation. We all need one. Consider it your cheat day and move on.
  • LovingLife_Erin
    LovingLife_Erin Posts: 328 Member
    Don't feel bad! I have found a way to work sweets in my diet so I stay within my calorie goal, and I've lost over 60lbs. So long as you are also eating nutritious food, some treats are fine, especially when you are staying within your goal. If you go over occasionally, it probably won't result in you even gaining weight as you'd have to go over by approx. 3500 calories to gain even a pound. Just keep things in perspective, and remind yourself that you don't have to have a "perfect" diet to lose weight. :)
  • rybo
    rybo Posts: 5,424 Member
    Wow, that is not a very healthy attitude towards eating. You might want to work at changing that or getting help. Even if help is just talking it out on these boards.
  • AmyRhubarb
    AmyRhubarb Posts: 6,890 Member
    Guilt for staying IN calorie goal? Why? You're in goal, and you went to grandmas and enjoyed a little of everything - WIN!

    If you feel guilty for eating foods you like, you have some issues you need to work out beyond losing weight.

    Heck, I was over goal all weekend, by several hundred cals both days. I ate pie, lots of pie, and rank wine and lemon drops on Saturday, and Sunday drank beer, and ate 4 slices of pizza, and a little slice of Saturday's pie. And guess what - I don't feel guilty, I didn't gain 5lbs since Friday, and my clothes still fit.

    This is for life - unless you plan to never eat certain foods ever again, with birthdays, holidays, vacations, weddings, meals out etc - you need to learn to do just what you did at grandma's house - eat what you like within goal, or close to it, and move on. Ditch the guilt, it's not worth it. B)
  • crystalnichols395
    crystalnichols395 Posts: 68 Member
    Do stress about it. Everyone deserves a cheat day every now and then. But tomorrow is a new day!!!!
  • davis978
    davis978 Posts: 103 Member
    You said you are "finally" seeing results after being "excellent" for three weeks. I'm not sure if you've only been at this healthier lifestyle thing for three weeks, but from your post, it sounds like that's the case.

    Although I know it feels like a victory (and it is!), three weeks is a tiny amount of time.

    In my opinion, the best thing you can do is start thinking about eating healthier as something you are going to do forever. The rest of your life. There are going to be some celebrations in life, get together's with family. Figuring out how to do celebrations and then get back on track (whether you eat over your goal on celebration day or not) is imperative to your long term success. Feeling awful and guilty is usually, for most people, not the way to get back on track.

    Don't try to eat "excellent" every day for the rest of your life or you will be sure to fail. Figure out how to get some non-excellent but super fun and rewarding days in there without letting it take you off the rails.
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