Arguing with bf - really want to eat something!

Dump him and have a cookie!

You will instantly lose quite a large number of pounds by the Dump Boyfriend cleanse. Guaranteed to cleanse your soul of emotional and controlling toxins!

Life is too short for manchildren, but just long enough for something sweet every once in a while. Take a nice long walk, absorb some universe, come back and have a nice cup of tea and a couple of cookies.

I would advise communicating about it when you both aren't extremely emotional, but it's hard to do when he (and you?) shut off communication completely.
The "I'm not speaking to you today" and "I won't call you today" is very toxic in a relationship.
When either one of you feels hurt or lied to, the best thing to do is talk it out - not shut them out. The relationship sounds like it's in bad shape -- if he is unwillingly to work with you on improving the communication then it's likely to fall apart.

I hope for your sake and his that you guys find a way to improve the relationship. If all he is doing is dragging you down and you feel improvement is hopeless, then do what is best for YOU and walk away.

Good luck!

Liftng4Lis wrote: »

Dump him and have a cookie!

What she said.

ObtainingBalance wrote: »

I would advise communicating about it when you both aren't extremely emotional, but it's hard to do when he (and you?) shut off communication completely.
The "I'm not speaking to you today" and "I won't call you today" is very toxic in a relationship.
When either one of you feels hurt or lied to, the best thing to do is talk it out - not shut them out. The relationship sounds like it's in bad shape -- if he is unwillingly to work with you on improving the communication then it's likely to fall apart.

I hope for your sake and his that you guys find a way to improve the relationship. If all he is doing is dragging you down and you feel improvement is hopeless, then do what is best for YOU and walk away.

Good luck!

I agree with this, communication is key. I'm in a long distance relationship myself. Childish games need not apply in this situation. Shutting off because of anger is never the answer. Its normal to get in fights, talk about it when you are both cooled off a bit and address the issue.... if you feel there is a spark that is keeping you feeling its worth it don't give up.

Well said booksandchocolate!! Most men take a long time to grow up and mature when compared to their GF or wife. Emotional eating is awful b/c that's what I do. Try to take a walk or exercise instead, which is a positive habit to practice.

Sounds like a normal relationship except the sexes are reversed

Like he is over thinking something minor.

I think you're telling yourself there's a really good reason for overeating. I understand the reaction - I've done it - but it's really just that: a story you tell yourself; a rationalization. "I'm so mad. Now I just HAVE to pig out." Even after you "dump" this boyfriend, if you do, something else will come up that makes you want to overeat. That's really what you have to deal with here...IMO. Find a different way to deal with your feelings, because you'll be having negative feelings all your life - including negative ones.

Now if you're hungry because you've been severely undereating, the answer is obvious: eat, within your calorie goals.

do not give him the power over your choices, that is what he wants with the pouting/ to make you feel bad/ I would say do somehing for you, and maybe a better life. Walk, take a hot bubbly bath. If you want to eat something do it because you want to, maybe a baked apple or something that aligns with your goals, or treat yourself. Do not eat over him. It will not help anything, it will just give him more power. IMHO

It's very easy for us to say "dump him". And I'm not saying you shouldn't. Only you know that. How long have you been in this relationship? Other than this sensitivity and moodiness, how is he? Meaning, do these characteristics dominate his personality, or are the bouts of moodiness few and far between?

When I met my husband, I could see what a great guy he was: generous (everyone who knows him says he'll give you the shirt off his back without hesitation)....kind....great with kids...hard working, etc.

But he was also moody, and I could see that his behavior was encouraged by his mother, who treated him like The Prince. If The Prince was unhappy, everyone had to tiptoe around him and speak in hushed tones until he was feeling better. When he was a kid, if he felt like sleeping late on Christmas morning, his younger brother and sister, who were chomping at the bit to open their gifts, had to wait until The Prince was ready to grace everyone with his presence.

Unfortunately, I am not kidding.

But I figured out pretty quickly to say, "F--k that sh-t!" You say you wanted to give your boyfriend a piece of your mind, but you didn't. I found it best to call my husband out on that kind of behavior right away.

Like I said earlier, we've been married for 23 years. Those bouts of moodiness have all but disappeared.

Only you can know if your guy is worth the effort of getting him to change this behavior. And I admit it will be harder to do long distance than it would be if you saw him all the time. Good luck!

Long distance relationship with a very moody person sounds depressing. Not trying to put something in this that is not there..

But it sounds like a bit of control trying to take over and trying to drag you down by making you feel a certain way that serves his moods etc... having someone not living with me or at least in the same city sounds very hard to do ..

Us girls need someone that compliment us not drag us down. We need compliments and sharing and conversation that motivate us and keep us going especially when it comes to giving and receiving love. And not having personal intimacy (touch) is very hard long distance..

I would write down the pros and cons of this relationship (all aspects) and see if this all positive and worth staying in.. Perhaps you deserve better if the cons out weight the pros in this situation. Just my 2 cents on this... I am in a loving relationship and been married for 15 years at the end of this month...

Edited to add... do not let a person make you eat something... he then has won his "control" and who ends up suffering from this.... YOU... don't give in that...

Liftng4Lis wrote: »

Dump him and have a cookie!

^^This. Well, I don't give relationship advice to strangers on the internet. But seriously, I'd go for a long walk to relax/clear my mind, then make some cookies, eat one (or two), and freeze the rest.

I have this posted on my bathroom mirror: "At your absolute best, you still won't be good enough for the wrong person. At your worst, you'll still be worth it to the right person. If the feelings are mutual, the effort will be equal."