Losing weight, but cant tell...I guess

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rscunu
rscunu Posts: 37 Member
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I'm a big woman, I get that. But you would think after losing nearly 30 lbs someone would notice?

I mean I feel better about myself, I bought some new close for work because I'm down a pant size, shirts, new jeans etc. Not that I'm phishing for "you look hot" but "hey, are you losing weight?" or even "new shirt? it looks nice." It would just make my day, you know?

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  • megsta91
    megsta91 Posts: 92 Member
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    Trust me, I know the feeling! It's like you're so excited to see the scale dropping, and you want it reciprocated through your friends and family. I remember my best friend was losing weight, about 40lbs total, and I honestly couldn't tell a huge difference until she bought new clothes. Then I seen her walking through work parking lot and I'm likr wtf?!?! It's like she got skinny overnight!
  • SeriouslySta
    SeriouslySta Posts: 458 Member
    edited April 2015
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    Yep, I know: I'm at 32 pounds lost and not one person has noticed.

    Not one.

    (I haven't bought new clothes, but I'm wearing 'new' old ones.)

    Still,
    the dog gets excited when I put on The Socks and The Shoes that mean we are going for a nice, long walk,
    and
    I don't get tired going up and down the stairs - and I can carry the overloaded laundry baskets, to boot,
    and
    I can do lots of little things that I didn't even realize that, somewhere along the way, I had quit being able to do...

    So, hang in there! One of these days, someone will be shocked to suddenly notice how different you look - and that will be nothing, compared to how different you feel!
  • kimfalardeauramirez
    kimfalardeauramirez Posts: 3 Member
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    Do not feel sad about it! You are loosing the weight for yourself, not for the others. Be happy! :)
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
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    I started at 232 - no one really noticed until I lost about 40 pounds. I would suggest you focus on how you feel and find happiness in that, rather than needing someone else to notice/comment. I don't mean this in a mean way at all (I feel like it sounds mean). I just mean that throughout this whole process, no one is going to care what you're doing really. You have to find those feelings in you.

    Good luck.
  • memedandy1
    memedandy1 Posts: 10 Member
    edited April 2015
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    Sometimes it can also be more difficult for people that see you everyday to really notice because they have been watching the changes that have been slowly taking place. It is when you see someone that you haven't seen in awhile that can really have them notice the changes. My favorite quote from my sister-in-law was, "It's like someone put you in the dryer and you shrunk." Don't worry you'll get that feedback, that is oh so nice to hear, as long as you keep doing what is good for you and your health!
  • JessieLMay
    JessieLMay Posts: 146 Member
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    I know that all too well. Very discouraging. but then I gain weight and people can tell, but THEN they ask if I'm losing weight. Very weird lol. But yes, I lost 20lbs once and no one mentioned it at a family gathering. I gave up hope and ended up stopping, and gained it all back. I figure as long as my clothes are getting looser and I can tell, I am going to stop expecting people to notice or mention that they notice.
  • dbienz
    dbienz Posts: 188 Member
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    kimfalardeauramirez wrote: »
    Do not feel sad about it! You are loosing the weight for yourself, not for the others. Be happy! :)

    ^^ THIS. YES YES YES THIS! :smiley:
  • gle8442
    gle8442 Posts: 126 Member
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    Don't worry, it just takes time. I think people also tend not to say anything unless they are really sure you have lost (otherwise it might be awkward!). No one at my job noticed until I had lost 40 lbs!
  • blossomingbutterfly
    blossomingbutterfly Posts: 743 Member
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    I've lost 45 lbs and only two people have said anything. Though, this is my second time around losing weight (first time on MFP for it) and I have to say, a lot of people are probably scared to say something. Think of it this way, imagine they were to say something but you weren't actually losing weight or whatnot, they might think that they might accidentally offend you. I'm sure they just don't want to be nosy or pry into your business too much or whatever. One person that told me I was was at work, she told me she's been trying too and I'm her hero. She also told me others have noticed but are scared to say anything to hurt me or offend me or don't know how to approach it.

    Don't worry about others - you are doing this for yourself! ;) Be proud of your accomplishment thus far!
  • thatguynick
    thatguynick Posts: 106 Member
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    You are awesome and doing great! Don't get discouraged by the Captain Oblivious' in your life!
  • sandyskw1967
    sandyskw1967 Posts: 59 Member
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    I've so far lost 52 and only 2 persons have said anything. I know I'm losing for me and I do feel great but even if a couple more people said something it would just feel like really all this work was actually accomplishing something. Personally I know it is because I'm down several sizes, you,d think several sizes would be noticable. It's weird because part of me would like people to notice and part of doesn't. I always felt a little out of place and not noticed, part of me likes it that way and part of me likes to be noticed more (but not too much)
  • Afura
    Afura Posts: 2,054 Member
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    lol I understand it. You worked hard, so come one people, look at what I've done! Which sounds terrible narcissist but in this case it isn't. :smiley: The thing to remember is that some people don't want to embarrass you by bringing up weight, so they may not say anything. But you still know it. Awww yeah.
  • RodaRose
    RodaRose Posts: 9,562 Member
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    Take a lot of pictures today so you can look back in four weeks. Keep taking pictures. <3
  • DaneanP
    DaneanP Posts: 433 Member
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    I was thinking about this the other day. I look and feel so much better now, why hasn't anyone noticed? Then I asked myself, "When was the last time I asked someone if they had lost weight?" "When was the last time I complimented someone on their appearance?"

    Now I'm focusing on saying positive things to others I come in contact with. Not lies, just little nice things that will hopefully make them smile. What goes around, comes around.
  • jaliving
    jaliving Posts: 57 Member
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    extremelygrumpycat wrote: »
    ...a lot of people are probably scared to say something...

    +1

  • steph2k10
    steph2k10 Posts: 1
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    I lost 42 lbs when my husband was away for basic training and he said he couldn't tell a difference. Before i jumped the gun and got hurt over it, i realized i was only down 1 or 2 pants sizes and that's kinda difficult for the average person to notice. Unfortunately people tend to only pick up on drastic differences most of the time.... That being said, keep up the hard work and some day soon someone is going to say "WOW" :blush: don't rely on others to make you happy, you are doing amazing! :)
  • kristen6350
    kristen6350 Posts: 1,094 Member
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    I've lost 17lbs since December and no one has noticed. Size 12 to an 8. 6 jeans. But I didn't do it for people to notice I did it because I felt like crap.

    Even my BF after 15lbs said he couldn't see a difference. For him, he's noticing my clothes are much smaller and they fit, so therefore I must be smaller.
  • dopeysmelly
    dopeysmelly Posts: 1,390 Member
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    I lost over 60lbs, which is a LOT for my 5'2" bod. NO one noticed (or commented at least) until I'd lost about 25-30lbs. Not even DH.

    After about 40lbs, I couldn't shut people up. It was like my weight loss was the ONLY topic of conversation in the office. Became a bit overwhelming TBH, especially at conferences where I had about 40 people coming up to me within the space of an hour to talk about my weight!

    I still get comments but I've learned to be more gracious.

    So my advice? Enjoy the peace while you can!!
  • HealthyFitJess
    HealthyFitJess Posts: 16 Member
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    DaneanP wrote: »
    I was thinking about this the other day. I look and feel so much better now, why hasn't anyone noticed? Then I asked myself, "When was the last time I asked someone if they had lost weight?" "When was the last time I complimented someone on their appearance?"

    Now I'm focusing on saying positive things to others I come in contact with. Not lies, just little nice things that will hopefully make them smile. What goes around, comes around.

    -THIS! I lost 14lbs and recently hung out with two people I hadn't seen in months but they said nothing about the weight loss. Meanwhile, one of them showed me pictures of someone else who had lost a lot of weight and it was quite noticeable and I realized that (1) it may be difficult for people to see changes that aren't drastic like in the photo that was shared with me (2) I should compliment the woman in the photos for her transformation and (3) remember, that I am doing this for me and I feel pretty good. That's all that matters!
  • dawniemate
    dawniemate Posts: 395 Member
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    hi, i have lost 17lbs and feel better and even though i cant tell to look at me i thought other people may notice...no one commented!... However the other day i saw a friend at work who had lost a considerable amount of weight and i told her how well she looked for it etc,,, then everyone in the place i work said they had noticed i had lost weight but didnt say anything in case it upset me !!!!! They said they didnt want me to to think i was fat to start with... i was fat lol.......i think what im trying to say is that people notice but dont always comment in case they upset you or maybe they are jealous!! have a great day !!!!

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