VENT - weight and self hatred issues
cheyenne__brown
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I have always, always loved food, but for a very long time i have severely hateing myself for it. The earliest I remember having confidence issues was when I was probably about 7 years old, I was a very chubby child and I remember talking the issues i had with rolls, a year later I remember all ALL the kids in the changing room calling me fat, like vividly, they were like 'actually Cheyenne, your really fat' and yeah it was horrible, tbh it could have never happened, I could have dreamt it.. Then my stretch marks came in and they were huge, i was scared bc i didnt know what they were, my dad was like 'i thought only pregnant women got them' and my mum was like 'not always' but i could tell she was put out (the other day i was actually talking to her about them and she was like 'yeah they arent normal, not everyone has them, you should get cream') But anyway, I grew up and always had weight issues, but always loved food so kinda had the 'I don't care' attitude but always secretely wishing I was two stone lighter, of the perfect shape or beautiful. Over the years I fluctuated between 10 and a half and 12 stone, maybe getting down to 10 whilst I was doing rowing years ago? I think o should mention I'm 5 ft 11 (so extremely tall) so I know its apparently average for my height but It didn't seem it, and even when I was exercising vigorously I never toned up, it always seemed to be flab, fat fat fat.
Now on to my point, all this time I have been filled with the self hatred that has grown and grown, I hate myself more every day, I hate the way I look, I hate my body and I hate the way I am, everything, no matter what weight I am I look in the mirror and see exactly the same , disgusting girl, I never change, I'm about ten and a half stone now and I want to get down to 9 and a half, 9 if I can, but I can't stop binge eating, I get in to the 'i don't care anymore' attitude and then eat far too much, often averaging waaaaay over 2000 calories a day, and that's why I keep fluctuating between losing and gaining weight, all the while hating myself even more, and I just want it to stop, I want to accept myself but I can't
Now on to my point, all this time I have been filled with the self hatred that has grown and grown, I hate myself more every day, I hate the way I look, I hate my body and I hate the way I am, everything, no matter what weight I am I look in the mirror and see exactly the same , disgusting girl, I never change, I'm about ten and a half stone now and I want to get down to 9 and a half, 9 if I can, but I can't stop binge eating, I get in to the 'i don't care anymore' attitude and then eat far too much, often averaging waaaaay over 2000 calories a day, and that's why I keep fluctuating between losing and gaining weight, all the while hating myself even more, and I just want it to stop, I want to accept myself but I can't
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I think you know this, but self-hate and non acceptance of self, are issues for counseling. You are young, but this has been going on for a long time--it's not going to magically go away on it's own. Don't keep spinning your wheels. You'll find yourself in the same place, or worse, 10 yrs down the line. For your future happiness, do something about it now. Talk to a specialist. Wishing you the best of luck.
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How much is one stone? I don't know this weight. But I know the self hatred. I have always thought that I would have far less life problems if only I wasn't fat.0
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snowflake954 wrote: »I think you know this, but self-hate and non acceptance of self, are issues for counseling. You are young, but this has been going on for a long time--it's not going to magically go away on it's own. Don't keep spinning your wheels. You'll find yourself in the same place, or worse, 10 yrs down the line. For your future happiness, do something about it now. Talk to a specialist. Wishing you the best of luck.
Yeah I know, I've been going to counselling for about a couple of months, but we never really talk about this kinda thing, Its one of the multiple topics I have issues discussing with her, idk I guess I will eventually, but thank you so much for your support and for replying!
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I too suffer from self hatred and binge eating, a lot. It takes time, honestly I have been logging for 48 days and still havent broken my snacking habits. Do you work out? I feel that helps me feel better. You dont get overnight effects but after a week you start feeling better and then a few weeks pass and you can look in the mirror and see bits and peices of progress. Eating your feelings is a lot easier than working out BUT working out gives you such a better feeling and WAY better results. I hope you learn to love yourself soon because you probably have a beautiful body you shouldnt hate yourself. Think of little ways you can improve also cocoa butter everynight for the stretch marks. I do the elliptical 60 minutes a day and feel awesome about myself aftwerwards. It doesnt have to be fast I usually do high levels so a lot of resistance to tone my lower body also drinking a lot of water all helps with being able to look in the mirror. Good luck and I hope you start to feel better!0
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Camarose79 wrote: »How much is one stone? I don't know this weight. But I know the self hatred. I have always thought that I would have far less life problems if only I wasn't fat.
1 stone is 14 pounds or 6.350 kilograms xx
It's a really difficult issue to overcome
but I guess the first step is accepting that weight doesn't influence all of life's problems and accepting who you are 0 -
Ten and a half stone = 147. At 5 foot 11, this is a perfectly acceptable weight (maybe even light?). Keep seeing your counselor, honey. I know you would never say to anyone else the things you are saying to yourself in your head. So, quit being mean to your beautiful self and try being extra kind to that sweet woman inside.0
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"The Beauty Myth" is a great book and addresses all kinds of issues women have stemming from self hatred. Very insightful. If nothing else, it made me want to rebel against the system that fills our heads with the unattainable idea of beauty and the people that make money off of it!!0
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pascalealana wrote: »I too suffer from self hatred and binge eating, a lot. It takes time, honestly I have been logging for 48 days and still havent broken my snacking habits. Do you work out? I feel that helps me feel better. You dont get overnight effects but after a week you start feeling better and then a few weeks pass and you can look in the mirror and see bits and peices of progress. Eating your feelings is a lot easier than working out BUT working out gives you such a better feeling and WAY better results. I hope you learn to love yourself soon because you probably have a beautiful body you shouldnt hate yourself. Think of little ways you can improve also cocoa butter everynight for the stretch marks. I do the elliptical 60 minutes a day and feel awesome about myself aftwerwards. It doesnt have to be fast I usually do high levels so a lot of resistance to tone my lower body also drinking a lot of water all helps with being able to look in the mirror. Good luck and I hope you start to feel better!
I logged for 45 days religiously, at the end my binging increased and then i kinda gave up and didn't for a month (which was when everything fell apart and I gained a lot - everything I lost) but in trying to get back on track now.. I used to work out on the elliptical trainer every day for 20 mins, high resistance and quite fast, but after a while a really lost motivation for everything and I'm finding it difficult to get started again-but hopefully I'll get there. Thank you so much for the motivation, it really helped! And good luck with your snacking habits xx
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Is the counselor you're seeing someone who deals with eating disorders? A lot of what you're saying very much sounds like body dysmorphia. Counselors who deal with EDs specialize in such issues. Like someone else said, you're in a healthy weight range. Hating yourself is just making you miserable
It might be time to try to deal with these feelings, yes? Be a little kinder to yourself, hon! 0 -
You weigh 147 lbs, if I did the conversion correctly. At 5'11", that is a perfectly healthy weight. You are young, and very tall for your age. You are most likely comparing your weight and size to more petite girls your age. You will not be as thin and petite as someone who is 5'3". You will harm yourself physically and mentally if you attempt to be so.
Also, at your age and height, 2000 cals a day is NOT a binge, That is a normal amount of calories for you. You have a very distorted idea of what size you should be. This is not uncommon for girls your age. ALL of us had body issues at that age.
Try to focus on talents, family and friend relationships, and activities that don't revolve around the scale. If you want to firm up, then start some weight lifting exercises. You will build strength, stamina, and can sculpt your body the way you want, without feeling like you have to starve yourself to get skinny like the fake model photos in magazines. You have a long, full life waiting for you. Don't waste another minute of it obsessing over your weight. Focus on health and happiness.
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rachelleahsmom wrote: »Ten and a half stone = 147. At 5 foot 11, this is a perfectly acceptable weight (maybe even light?). Keep seeing your counselor, honey. I know you would never say to anyone else the things you are saying to yourself in your head. So, quit being mean to your beautiful self and try being extra kind to that sweet woman inside.
Yeah I know I wouldn't.. thank you!!xx0 -
"The Beauty Myth" is a great book and addresses all kinds of issues women have stemming from self hatred. Very insightful. If nothing else, it made me want to rebel against the system that fills our heads with the unattainable idea of beauty and the people that make money off of it!!
Ooh okay thanks, I'll check it out!
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Nine stone = 126, which is underweight for your height. It looks like you should be between 135-180 pounds to be in the healthy weight range. Right now, you're 147. That's pushing it a tad low. You definitely have unhealthy body image issues, and I concur that you should talk to your counselor! For now, maybe try lifting weights to "tone up" so that you reduce your body fat percentage.
By the way, you're really pretty! (And I'm not just saying that to get your self esteem up.)0 -
LavenderLeaves wrote: »Is the counselor you're seeing someone who deals with eating disorders? A lot of what you're saying very much sounds like body dysmorphia. Counselors who deal with EDs specialize in such issues. Like someone else said, you're in a healthy weight range. Hating yourself is just making you miserable It might be time to try to deal with these feelings, yes? Be a little kinder to yourself, hon!
She's the generic school counsellor, so I guess she covers those kinda issues too?? I'll try and look in to it, thank you for the advice and support!0 -
DebbieLyn63 wrote: »You weigh 147 lbs, if I did the conversion correctly. At 5'11", that is a perfectly healthy weight. You are young, and very tall for your age. You are most likely comparing your weight and size to more petite girls your age. You will not be as thin and petite as someone who is 5'3". You will harm yourself physically and mentally if you attempt to be so.
Also, at your age and height, 2000 cals a day is NOT a binge, That is a normal amount of calories for you. You have a very distorted idea of what size you should be. This is not uncommon for girls your age. ALL of us had body issues at that age.
Try to focus on talents, family and friend relationships, and activities that don't revolve around the scale. If you want to firm up, then start some weight lifting exercises. You will build strength, stamina, and can sculpt your body the way you want, without feeling like you have to starve yourself to get skinny like the fake model photos in magazines. You have a long, full life waiting for you. Don't waste another minute of it obsessing over your weight. Focus on health and happiness.
All my friends are petit and perfect, and next to them I always feel weird and unproportionate, so I guess that doesn't help,and it kind interferes with everyday life like, it makes me feel *kitten* when I hang around them and try on clothes or look at pictures etc, so that doesn't help..
When I say over 2000 calories its more like 2400(ish) when I binge, I find it difficult to find the inbetween, I guess I just need motivation to exercise more and work on the perception o have of myself.. Thank you so much for your reply, it means a lot!0 -
Geekymonkey99 wrote: »Nine stone = 126, which is underweight for your height. It looks like you should be between 135-180 pounds to be in the healthy weight range. Right now, you're 147. That's pushing it a tad low. You definitely have unhealthy body image issues, and I concur that you should talk to your counselor! For now, maybe try lifting weights to "tone up" so that you reduce your body fat percentage.
By the way, you're really pretty! (And I'm not just saying that to get your self esteem up.)
Thanks for the advice, I'll try! And thanks, but a good filter really does do wonders :') xx
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Thank you all for the replies, the response and support has been overwhelming, I didn't think anyone would read it, I really only posted it because I have nowhere else to vent about this to without the usual 'shut up' i get from my friends, and i dont want to sound whiney.. thank you all so much! I know Lots of people are going through similar things (and i hope you all get he support you deserve and I hope you find a way to overcome your issues) and I know I need to pull myself together and try and sort things out, I just have a lot of issues atm.. But again, you're all so amazing and thank you all so much for everything 0
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I am half an inch taller than you and can tell you that at 10 and a half stone you are not fat. If you feel you are, it could be down to bf% maybe? But all I know is that when I was 10 stone I was super skinny, there were ribs and bones everywhere, at 10 and a half I was skinny but I was happiest at 11 stone (which is my goal weight now) . But I only know this now because I'm looking back. At the time, even at my skinniest I felt fat somewhere!
Maybe because you've been up at 12 stone (which is still fine for your height btw) and your weight issues as a child you see a fat person in the mirror?
I have gained gradually over the last few years, on jan 5th when I started MFP I was 13st 5 and today I am down to 11st 5 and although I know I have lost 2 stone and I know I have lost nearly 2 dress sizes and I know I have lost many inches....I still look in the mirror and can't pinpoint what is different! Taking photos and putting them next to eachother to compare really helps.
Good luck with your counselling, maybe you can bring this up next time seeing as it's not been talked about yet. X
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Cheyenne: I have the same problem of losing and gaining weight. I wish I can weigh 150 pounds. I currently weigh 246 at 5'4". Talking to a specialist about your self hate of your body is great. But u have to get to real reason you hate yourself! It is something else and it's not your weight! Remember you are a Child of God and He made you just the way you are! Embrace yourself and don't give up! I am praying for you! Be blessed and know that Jesus is pleased with you no matter how you feel about yourself!0
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It worries me how much I can relate to your story - even the part about rowing! I'm still fighting to repair my attitude towards food, and what I've learned is that it is possible to like yourself even as you try to improve yourself! Just try not to think of life in terms of 'when I've lost the weight I'll do/wear/be this' etc. as it just holds you back! I hope you feel better soon 0
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Hi Cheyenne (pretty name btw)! I can completely relate to this. My entire life from the age of 3 or 4 has been affected by self-consciousness and criticism, from the first day of school right into adulthood.
I've only recently (in the past three months or so) been able to start completely turning this around for myself - wearing clothes I wouldn't have dared to before, and seeing myself in a whole new way... without losing any weight. It's not a magic switch but it's happening faster than I thought and feels really good!
Here are three things I can suggest that I know help me:
1) You are clearly very healthy physically, and the problem is with how you feel about your body, and not with your body itself. You don't need to change your body at all (can't emphasise this bit enough!) but how you see and think about it!
2) Try making a list, starting right now, of all the things you do really like about yourself (both physical and personality/character/ability-wise). This is not narcissism or new-agey BS, it's necessary to like things about yourself - keep the list somewhere safe, add to it when you think of something else you like, and dig it out when you're feeling down or like you're going crazy over certain things that are bothering you. It's a great reminder of all the things you feel great about, and helps to shrink the problems that seemed overwhelming and put them into their place. Honestly, really do give this a go!
3) This was HUGE for me... realising that what other people think about me and my body, positive or negative, is not my issue - it's theirs. Realising that was like realising the heavy bags you thought you had to carry up the mountain don't actually belong to you, and aren't your responsibility. Leaving behind the heavy bags feels great and frees you up - and so does leaving behind other people's issues! If I'm out and someone shouts to me that my derriere is the size of Russia... so what?! I know I'm healthy, and what they think is entirely their problem, not mine! I actually kinda like my big soft cushy tush anyway. Shaking off the responsibility of other people's judgement of you gives you the time and energy to concentrate on what you do own - what you think about yourself.
I know this stuff isn't the magic potion of self-hatred, and that everything will be squeakily perfect when you've read this, but these things really do help me - I thought that maybe they might do something good to you too. I really do hope you get to feel brilliant being you, asap!!
Eva xx
P.S. Stretch marks ARE common, I have them too and I've never been preggers. It's just from where you've grown quickly. Loads of people (especially tall people) get them from growth spurts in puberty, teenage breast and hip development, and loads of other reasons. If some people don't know that, that's their lack of knowledge and not your problem either!
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Wow! I love this analogy. I used to feel like it WAS my responsibility to carry everyone's bags up the mountain. When I realized the bags were not PART OF ME, I was able to put them down AND move the mountain! Thxoxo for the clear image!Realising that was like realising the heavy bags you thought you had to carry up the mountain don't actually belong to you, and aren't your responsibility.0 -
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Hi there! I have read your post and quick read some of the comments. And I gotta say you look like a beautiful girl and your bmi seems perfect. Now I hate when people tell me that lol because bmi can be sooooo vague. Let me share some things with you.
1. The scale is NOT your friend; it doesnt differenciate against fat or muscle
2. stretch marks ARE NORMAL; and even happen to body builders and tiny girls all around the world. **I had a son 7yrs ago and I was a tiny thing got so many stretch marks that ruined my self-esteem>last yr I did a bodybuilding BIKINI comp and felt great!
3. Food is your friend; its what makes you feel good and energized if you use it wisely
4. 4. Cardio is NOT I REPEAT NOT ALL that's needed to lose weight.
5. DONT DEPRIVE YOURSELF OR YOU WILL BINGE
My advice is get rid of the scale! Like now! Seriously break it throw it away give it away. You should never be weighting yourself everyday. Sometimes I get up I'm so bloated I weigh 2 lbs more than the day before. I too am struggling with my weight right now and I've been at it for a month with 6lbs of change but with a low cal defecit (CLEAN DIET) with some cheat snacks and meals. Weight means nothing when you workout. I weighted 115lbs (depression makes me lose appetite and physcially sick) and was grossly skinny at 5"3 i had PTSD **too long of a sorry to get into** I started working out mainly because I needed an escape ..an outlet out of my reality because the cigarettes and redbulls were taking me nowhere fast. I had nightmares migraines stomach pain and acid I slept all day neglected my full time job to the point I only worked 2-3 days out of the 5. I was destroying my life and working out saved me. But because I started LIFTING with little to NO cardio. As a control freak not being able to control my life at the time caused my chronic depression and PTSD but I gained back my LIFE when I started working out met new people and I'm so happy now. But I wouldn't have been able to do it without professional help. And I read up there that you had counseling but they weren't talking about your issue. Next time I want you to be assertive and TELL THEM EXACTLY WHAT YOU TOLD US. TELL THEM EXACTLY AND ESPECIFICALLY WHAT YOUR GOAL IS. AND I DONT MEAN WEIGHT GOAL BECAUSE WEIGHT ON A SCALE SHOULD NEVER BE A GOAL. BEING HAPPY IN YOUR OWN SKIN! INCHES CAN BE A GOAL, BODY, FAT, BEING ABLE TO DEADLIFT 200LB **WHICH IS MY GOAL0 -
stepherz84 wrote: »I am half an inch taller than you and can tell you that at 10 and a half stone you are not fat. If you feel you are, it could be down to bf% maybe? But all I know is that when I was 10 stone I was super skinny, there were ribs and bones everywhere, at 10 and a half I was skinny but I was happiest at 11 stone (which is my goal weight now) . But I only know this now because I'm looking back. At the time, even at my skinniest I felt fat somewhere!
Maybe because you've been up at 12 stone (which is still fine for your height btw) and your weight issues as a child you see a fat person in the mirror?
I have gained gradually over the last few years, on jan 5th when I started MFP I was 13st 5 and today I am down to 11st 5 and although I know I have lost 2 stone and I know I have lost nearly 2 dress sizes and I know I have lost many inches....I still look in the mirror and can't pinpoint what is different! Taking photos and putting them next to eachother to compare really helps.
Good luck with your counselling, maybe you can bring this up next time seeing as it's not been talked about yet. X
Yeah I know what you mean about looking back, looking back at when I was rowing a few years ago and I was at my lowest weight Im like, wow I was so skinny, but at the time I felt exactly the same as I do now.. I'll try the photo thing, but I have a tendency to avoid cameras.. Thank you for the reply and advice! And congrats on being so close to your goal weight - im sure you are perfect xxx0 -
sweetcheek03 wrote: »Cheyenne: I have the same problem of losing and gaining weight. I wish I can weigh 150 pounds. I currently weigh 246 at 5'4". Talking to a specialist about your self hate of your body is great. But u have to get to real reason you hate yourself! It is something else and it's not your weight! Remember you are a Child of God and He made you just the way you are! Embrace yourself and don't give up! I am praying for you! Be blessed and know that Jesus is pleased with you no matter how you feel about yourself!
Thanks xxx
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armygirl165 wrote: »It worries me how much I can relate to your story - even the part about rowing! I'm still fighting to repair my attitude towards food, and what I've learned is that it is possible to like yourself even as you try to improve yourself! Just try not to think of life in terms of 'when I've lost the weight I'll do/wear/be this' etc. as it just holds you back! I hope you feel better soon
Oh you rowed too?? Thank you! I'll try I hope your attitude to food get better!xx 0 -
Your actually at a normal weight for your height, maybe even a bit too light for that height. So even though you can't see it for yourself right now, your definitely not obese .
If you'd like to look more toned , I suggest lifting weights for sure. You'll see that you can tighten up and tone up by starting a lifting routine. Maybe then you will gain the confidence you need.
We all go through times where we don't like what we see in the mirror, and its especially hard for younger people. talking to a therapist is a good idea . best of luck to you ! Start lifting, you'll see many changes in your body !!0 -
Hi Cheyenne (pretty name btw)! I can completely relate to this. My entire life from the age of 3 or 4 has been affected by self-consciousness and criticism, from the first day of school right into adulthood.
I've only recently (in the past three months or so) been able to start completely turning this around for myself - wearing clothes I wouldn't have dared to before, and seeing myself in a whole new way... without losing any weight. It's not a magic switch but it's happening faster than I thought and feels really good!
Here are three things I can suggest that I know help me:
1) You are clearly very healthy physically, and the problem is with how you feel about your body, and not with your body itself. You don't need to change your body at all (can't emphasise this bit enough!) but how you see and think about it!
2) Try making a list, starting right now, of all the things you do really like about yourself (both physical and personality/character/ability-wise). This is not narcissism or new-agey BS, it's necessary to like things about yourself - keep the list somewhere safe, add to it when you think of something else you like, and dig it out when you're feeling down or like you're going crazy over certain things that are bothering you. It's a great reminder of all the things you feel great about, and helps to shrink the problems that seemed overwhelming and put them into their place. Honestly, really do give this a go!
3) This was HUGE for me... realising that what other people think about me and my body, positive or negative, is not my issue - it's theirs. Realising that was like realising the heavy bags you thought you had to carry up the mountain don't actually belong to you, and aren't your responsibility. Leaving behind the heavy bags feels great and frees you up - and so does leaving behind other people's issues! If I'm out and someone shouts to me that my derriere is the size of Russia... so what?! I know I'm healthy, and what they think is entirely their problem, not mine! I actually kinda like my big soft cushy tush anyway. Shaking off the responsibility of other people's judgement of you gives you the time and energy to concentrate on what you do own - what you think about yourself.
I know this stuff isn't the magic potion of self-hatred, and that everything will be squeakily perfect when you've read this, but these things really do help me - I thought that maybe they might do something good to you too. I really do hope you get to feel brilliant being you, asap!!
Eva xx
P.S. Stretch marks ARE common, I have them too and I've never been preggers. It's just from where you've grown quickly. Loads of people (especially tall people) get them from growth spurts in puberty, teenage breast and hip development, and loads of other reasons. If some people don't know that, that's their lack of knowledge and not your problem either!
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I'm glad you've managed to overcome your issues! Thanks for sharing your story my counselled suggested something similar to the list, so I'll try to keep at it! And yeah I know they are common and I was starting to accept them, I've just had a set back recently.. Thank you so much for your reply, your advice is great 0 -
nancyjay__ wrote: »LONG POST ALERT**
Hi there! I have read your post and quick read some of the comments. And I gotta say you look like a beautiful girl and your bmi seems perfect. Now I hate when people tell me that lol because bmi can be sooooo vague. Let me share some things with you.
1. The scale is NOT your friend; it doesnt differenciate against fat or muscle
2. stretch marks ARE NORMAL; and even happen to body builders and tiny girls all around the world. **I had a son 7yrs ago and I was a tiny thing got so many stretch marks that ruined my self-esteem>last yr I did a bodybuilding BIKINI comp and felt great!
3. Food is your friend; its what makes you feel good and energized if you use it wisely
4. 4. Cardio is NOT I REPEAT NOT ALL that's needed to lose weight.
5. DONT DEPRIVE YOURSELF OR YOU WILL BINGE
My advice is get rid of the scale! Like now! Seriously break it throw it away give it away. You should never be weighting yourself everyday. Sometimes I get up I'm so bloated I weigh 2 lbs more than the day before. I too am struggling with my weight right now and I've been at it for a month with 6lbs of change but with a low cal defecit (CLEAN DIET) with some cheat snacks and meals. Weight means nothing when you workout. I weighted 115lbs (depression makes me lose appetite and physcially sick) and was grossly skinny at 5"3 i had PTSD **too long of a sorry to get into** I started working out mainly because I needed an escape ..an outlet out of my reality because the cigarettes and redbulls were taking me nowhere fast. I had nightmares migraines stomach pain and acid I slept all day neglected my full time job to the point I only worked 2-3 days out of the 5. I was destroying my life and working out saved me. But because I started LIFTING with little to NO cardio. As a control freak not being able to control my life at the time caused my chronic depression and PTSD but I gained back my LIFE when I started working out met new people and I'm so happy now. But I wouldn't have been able to do it without professional help. And I read up there that you had counseling but they weren't talking about your issue. Next time I want you to be assertive and TELL THEM EXACTLY WHAT YOU TOLD US. TELL THEM EXACTLY AND ESPECIFICALLY WHAT YOUR GOAL IS. AND I DONT MEAN WEIGHT GOAL BECAUSE WEIGHT ON A SCALE SHOULD NEVER BE A GOAL. BEING HAPPY IN YOUR OWN SKIN! INCHES CAN BE A GOAL, BODY, FAT, BEING ABLE TO DEADLIFT 200LB **WHICH IS MY GOAL
Thank you for sharing your story! I'm so glad you managed to overcome PTSD and depression, you sound like an amazing person! I will definitely talk to my counsellor about this next time I see her, thank you so much for your advice, you're really so empowering xx
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thorsmom01 wrote: »Your actually at a normal weight for your height, maybe even a bit too light for that height. So even though you can't see it for yourself right now, your definitely not obese .
If you'd like to look more toned , I suggest lifting weights for sure. You'll see that you can tighten up and tone up by starting a lifting routine. Maybe then you will gain the confidence you need.
We all go through times where we don't like what we see in the mirror, and its especially hard for younger people. talking to a therapist is a good idea . best of luck to you ! Start lifting, you'll see many changes in your body !!
Thank you for the advice, I'll try and get motivated!xx
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