I'm desperate.

gbwms618
gbwms618 Posts: 7
edited November 2024 in Health and Weight Loss
hello,
I started my fitness pal to help me lose my "stomach pooch" before summer. I really REALLY want to be rid of this thing. Thing is I have like zero self control!! I'll do well with my eating for like two days, and I feel amazing, but on day no. 3 I'll mess up just a little and then, thinking I've ruined the entire day, just flat out binge. On a "good" day I'll eat around 1,100 calories, on a "bad" one I can go 2,500-ish, give or take a few.
I'm 5 ft 5" and around 137. I'm not looking to lose, just get rid of the belly fat and tone up.
I feel like such a failure because my friends have turned into health nuts and have really gotten fit and toned. I feel so horrible and guilty when I'm around then now.
Please if anyone has any advice, I'd love to hear it.

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  • snowflakesav
    snowflakesav Posts: 649 Member
    I think you know what to do. You are super close to your goal. When day 3 comes put together a plan of what you are going to eat and do.
  • Chrysalid2014
    Chrysalid2014 Posts: 1,038 Member
    Have you identified the thing that triggers you to "mess up just a little"? Is it hunger, or boredom, or social situations, or perhaps a craving for something sweet (or salty) and thinking you can have just one (famous last words)?
    The technique you will need to use to overcome this will depend on what the real cause is...
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Make sure you are not completely avoiding foods you love. chocolate, chips or whatever it may be. You will have less chance of cravings/binging if you can still incorporate these things into your diet while still staying within your calorie goal.
    Simplest advice, eat a little bit of everything, Just keep a close eye on your calories :smile:
  • Graceraeg
    Graceraeg Posts: 84 Member
    I use to have that problem. I realized I was restricting myself too much on "good" days. You have to find a good balance that can keep you consistent.
  • malibu927
    malibu927 Posts: 17,562 Member
    With so little to lose, it sounds like 1100 is an unsustainable goal for you. Aim for half a pound a week and begin some form of strength training if you haven't yet.
  • gbwms618
    gbwms618 Posts: 7
    Chrysalid2014 wrote: »
    Have you identified the thing that triggers you to "mess up just a little"? Is it hunger, or boredom, or social situations, or perhaps a craving for something sweet (or salty) and thinking you can have just one (famous last words)?
    The technique you will need to use to overcome this will depend on what the real cause is...

    It is usually social situations. Once I get the ball rolling, I can usually keep it rolling, but there's no way for me to avoid going to these events and not seem "stuck up". So the pressure is always put on there. Sometimes it'll be an actual craving, but not very often.
  • Chrysalid2014
    Chrysalid2014 Posts: 1,038 Member
    christinev297 wrote: »
    Make sure you are not completely avoiding foods you love. chocolate, chips or whatever it may be. You will have less chance of cravings/binging if you can still incorporate these things into your diet while still staying within your calorie goal.
    Simplest advice, eat a little bit of everything, Just keep a close eye on your calories :smile:

    For some people (like me) it's the opposite, especially when it comes to sweet things. I'm a sugar addict and a little taste is worse than none at all. If you repeatedly tell yourself you're going to have "just one..." and find it triggers a binge, you're probably better off taking a complete break from whatever the trigger food is.
  • gbwms618
    gbwms618 Posts: 7
    christinev297 wrote: »
    Make sure you are not completely avoiding foods you love. chocolate, chips or whatever it may be. You will have less chance of cravings/binging if you can still incorporate these things into your diet while still staying within your calorie goal.
    Simplest advice, eat a little bit of everything, Just keep a close eye on your calories :smile:

    That's a really good idea, I was thinking of getting some dark chocolate to have occasionally.. Chocolate is pretty much the only craving I really have haha :)

  • Chrysalid2014
    Chrysalid2014 Posts: 1,038 Member
    edited April 2015
    gbwms618 wrote: »
    Chrysalid2014 wrote: »
    Have you identified the thing that triggers you to "mess up just a little"? Is it hunger, or boredom, or social situations, or perhaps a craving for something sweet (or salty) and thinking you can have just one (famous last words)?
    The technique you will need to use to overcome this will depend on what the real cause is...

    It is usually social situations. Once I get the ball rolling, I can usually keep it rolling, but there's no way for me to avoid going to these events and not seem "stuck up". So the pressure is always put on there. Sometimes it'll be an actual craving, but not very often.

    I know exactly what you mean. Yeah, I hate those kind of situations. You could try using some evasive tactics. Say "Oh that looks amazing but I'm really full... can I have a piece to take home?" (and then discard later). Or if it's a buffet or food is being passed around at a party just take one of whatever it is and put it on your plate and stand there holding it... then put the plate down later when no-one's looking. No-one will actually notice if you eat it or not. That works with drinks, too. Make a game of it, just for yourself. (:-)

    p.s. I've recently noticed some of my 'naturally thin' friends do things like this all the time... and it never occurred to me before. People really don't notice as long as something is on your plate.
  • purplishblue
    purplishblue Posts: 135 Member
    I think most people would end up binging if they only ate 1,100 calories a day. What made you chose that number? Why does it need to be that low? You'd probably be able to sustain your diet much better if you just raised it higher.
  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    edited April 2015
    malibu927 wrote: »
    With so little to lose, it sounds like 1100 is an unsustainable goal for you. Aim for half a pound a week and begin some form of strength training if you haven't yet.

    Maybe even half a lb per week?

    OP don't be so hard on yourself. Weight wise you're quite small already. If tightening up is your goal, would you be willing to lift heavy things? There's an excellent stickie on the forum you should read - "So you want a nice stomach"

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1161603/so-you-want-a-nice-stomach/p1
  • gbwms618
    gbwms618 Posts: 7
    Graceraeg wrote: »
    I use to have that problem. I realized I was restricting myself too much on "good" days. You have to find a good balance that can keep you consistent.
    Yes, perhaps that may be the cause of the bingeing?? I'll try bumping up my calories a little and keep it consistent.
  • Christine_72
    Christine_72 Posts: 16,049 Member
    Chrysalid2014 wrote: »
    christinev297 wrote: »
    Make sure you are not completely avoiding foods you love. chocolate, chips or whatever it may be. You will have less chance of cravings/binging if you can still incorporate these things into your diet while still staying within your calorie goal.
    Simplest advice, eat a little bit of everything, Just keep a close eye on your calories :smile:

    For some people (like me) it's the opposite, especially when it comes to sweet things. I'm a sugar addict and a little taste is worse than none at all. If you repeatedly tell yourself you're going to have "just one..." and find it triggers a binge, you're probably better off taking a complete break from whatever the trigger food is.

    If i cant have something, it makes me want it even more. Then when i finally cave, i end up eating a lot more than i would have, had i just had the damn chocolate to begin with!

    Aaaaahhh losing weight can be such a mental game ;)

  • gbwms618
    gbwms618 Posts: 7
    purplishblue wrote: »
    I think most people would end up binging if they only ate 1,100 calories a day. What made you chose that number? Why does it need to be that low? You'd probably be able to sustain your diet much better if you just raised it higher.

    Honestly I just got frustrated. I can't remember a time I wasn't self conscious about my body, and just really wanted to get rid of the fat once and for all. Really I try to shoot for 1,300 but I usually end up eating too many or too few.
  • gbwms618
    gbwms618 Posts: 7
    JaneiR36 wrote: »
    malibu927 wrote: »
    With so little to lose, it sounds like 1100 is an unsustainable goal for you. Aim for half a pound a week and begin some form of strength training if you haven't yet.

    Maybe even half a lb per week?

    OP don't be so hard on yourself. Weight wise you're quite small already. If tightening up is your goal, would you be willing to lift heavy things? There's an excellent stickie on the forum you should read - "So you want a nice stomach"

    http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1161603/so-you-want-a-nice-stomach/p1

    Thank you, I've just skimmed the article, I will definitely be reading it more thoroughly tonight :) I'm assuming heavy weights as in serious lifting, but a gym membership is not really an option right now. Are free weights affective as well? I've been using 5 lbs as that's the heaviest I have, but I've been wanting to bump it up to 8 or 10 lbs

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