Gaining Weight, loosing fake friends

As they say in some circles, "haters gonna hate". Don't you worry about them, buddy. You are doing right for yourself. Try to find some like-minded individuals on bodybuilding forums or, of course, here on MFP. You can have the weight I'm trying to lose, I can't do a thing with it. I'm rooting for you!!

It's always better to have a few good friends than 20 fake friends

Yeah, just hang in there and do what you have to do for your health. My friends and family have tried to be supportive, but there is only so much another person can do to carry you through--you have to find the motivation from within.

It is especially hard for others to be supportive when they are in the same psychological space that you were in before. This might not be the case with you, but many people who had unhealthy attitudes and behaviors toward food and activity learned those behaviors from family members and gravitated toward a friend group that shared their tendencies. For example, for years I was morbidly obese and ate poorly, had sedentary hobbies. etc. I learned these things from my family who still is that way, and shared these traits with a social group who still is that way. They see what I'm doing to lose weight as positive, but they don't "get it" or know how to be helpful since they are not in that same space I am and don't want to eat the food I eat or talk about the activities I now enjoy. They think I must be miserable and using horrific amounts of discipline, having to exercise and eat healthy food and awful stuff like that (yet I love being this way). I am still slightly overweight and want to lose more, but people are discouraging me, saying I don't need to lose weight and the BMI chart lies because it doesn't account for muscle mass. (For the record, I do understand the limitations of the BMI chart for those with low BF% but 'overweight' from muscle and know there is no magic in crossing 1 pound over that line... but trust me when I say that the people telling me this are NOT heavy from muscle and freakishly big bones, though they seem to think they are. Nor am I with my 36ish BF%. And it does mean something psychological to me to have a weight that is called 'normal' for the first time in my post-teenage life).

Since you are trying to gain weight, perhaps you hang around with people who don't focus much on food or on bodybuilding? Maybe they even think bulky = fat or bad or unattractive (instead of healthy or strong or buff). Or think eating a lot is a weakness or gluttony or something unpleasant you are forcing on yourself, rather than understanding it is part of the process of meeting goals that are important to you and maybe you even enjoy? If they are like that, it means you are trying to change into someone not only unlike your old self, but unlike THEM! There will be pressure to conform back to being "normal" (normal for them).

Brianisation wrote: »

I am alone in this adventure.:'(

Yes, you are alone. You are responsible for your own well being. There will be no cheerleading squad patting you on the back for improving yourself.

Two thoughts here: yes, my health and well-being are my responsibility alone. I am an adult and do not need a cheerleading squad. And. . . I select my friends for pleasure, intelligence, good humor, kindness, and shared experiences. If I choose well, they do not disappoint.