Help!! i can't lose weight..

Start with the smallest steps you can identify. Maybe just logging your food. Or just getting out for a walk each day. Pick one small thing that you can focus on. Do it, no matter what. Allow yourself to feel awesome for doing it. And, when it starts to feel easier, pick another small thing to add.

You'll start to feel empowered and inspired and motivated, and before you know it, you'll be feeling like you can put all the pieces together to start your losses back up again!

Sometimes we don't "feel" motivated. But that actually doesn't have to stop us from *doing* what needs to be done. And the nice feelings will follow, if you let them. Focus on the positive -- if you do one right thing, praise yourself. Don't start a running commentary about all the things you didn't do, or could've done better, or shouldn't have done, etc.

To help myself with this, I started a private journal on Journalate (it's free). Every night, I go in, and I write. Sometimes just a little, it doesn't have to be fancy. One rule: It has to be positive. "I took three walks today and pushed myself to do my pilates, even though I was feeling like skipping it. And I saw a huge improvement on my bridge modifications! Plus, I had some really great food today." <-- Acceptable. "I took three walks today, but they weren't really fast or anything. I did my pilates, but my burpees felt really weak. And I overate, I shouldn't have had that turkish pizza, or that ginger snap." <-- Not acceptable. Both describe my day yesterday though. But I make the choice to list all the positive things, and NOT to touch on the negative. No "venting". I find "venting" really just fuels the negative, it doesn't let it out and transform it into something good. No. Forcing myself to see the good things, however small, is what allows the good things to grow. Fight to build yourself up, not pull yourself down.

I mean, you've lost 64 lbs in a year! That's amazing! You are amazing. Two months of not being in a deficit was maybe a break you/your body needed. And there's absolutely no reason you can't go after the next 40, and hit 100 loss. You're so capable! Don't focus on what you haven't been doing perfectly for a couple months. That's okay, and it's behind you now anyway. Ease forward, get going, you'll feel great once you do! (And maybe set your goal modestly to start. 1 lb a week? Forward is all you need, does not have to be full speed.)

set your ticker for small goal of 10lbs and walk as much as possible ...dont look at the bigger picture...it has really helped me to do it this way..perhaps it will be better for you as well..good luck add me if you like

quote="futuremanda;32179365"]Start with the smallest steps you can identify. Maybe just logging your food. Or just getting out for a walk each day. Pick one small thing that you can focus on. Do it, no matter what. Allow yourself to feel awesome for doing it. And, when it starts to feel easier, pick another small thing to add.

You'll start to feel empowered and inspired and motivated, and before you know it, you'll be feeling like you can put all the pieces together to start your losses back up again!

Sometimes we don't "feel" motivated. But that actually doesn't have to stop us from *doing* what needs to be done. And the nice feelings will follow, if you let them. Focus on the positive -- if you do one right thing, praise yourself. Don't start a running commentary about all the things you didn't do, or could've done better, or shouldn't have done, etc.

To help myself with this, I started a private journal on Journalate (it's free). Every night, I go in, and I write. Sometimes just a little, it doesn't have to be fancy. One rule: It has to be positive. "I took three walks today and pushed myself to do my pilates, even though I was feeling like skipping it. And I saw a huge improvement on my bridge modifications! Plus, I had some really great food today." <-- Acceptable. "I took three walks today, but they weren't really fast or anything. I did my pilates, but my burpees felt really weak. And I overate, I shouldn't have had that turkish pizza, or that ginger snap." <-- Not acceptable. Both describe my day yesterday though. But I make the choice to list all the positive things, and NOT to touch on the negative. No "venting". I find "venting" really just fuels the negative, it doesn't let it out and transform it into something good. No. Forcing myself to see the good things, however small, is what allows the good things to grow. Fight to build yourself up, not pull yourself down.

I mean, you've lost 64 lbs in a year! That's amazing! You are amazing. Two months of not being in a deficit was maybe a break you/your body needed. And there's absolutely no reason you can't go after the next 40, and hit 100 loss. You're so capable! Don't focus on what you haven't been doing perfectly for a couple months. That's okay, and it's behind you now anyway. Ease forward, get going, you'll feel great once you do! (And maybe set your goal modestly to start. 1 lb a week? Forward is all you need, does not have to be full speed.)[/quote]

Awesome post, I so needed to hear this!! I focus on the positives in other areas of my life, but when it comes to weight loss, I am famous for focusing on the negative. Misery loves company, so the negative becomes a topic of conversation with my friends and co-workers (everyone chimes in with their poor decisions and it becomes a pity party instead of an encouraging conversation!). I will choose to focus on the positive and try to be more encouraging! Great advice, thank you!