im trying to lose 80lbs and husband isnt helping!

You can still have pizza and burgers. Just fit them into your calorie goal. Everything in moderation. Don't make yourself miserable by cutting things out. You got this.

Hang in there! I know how that goes. My husband eats like there is no tomorrow. It is tough to not grab something when we go out. Often, I am not even hungry, but I order and eat it anyway.
I was lean and watched my foods, after having lost 40lbs. But, after keeping it off for 3 years, I have put it back on! I am in the battle again.
Welcome aboard and congratulations for taking the first step!

You have to get to the point where you can be around that food without it bothering you. He's obviously not going to change, so you have to change your mindset. It can be done. I've done it myself. I live in a house where there is always yummy food around, but I've also learned to manage portions and make this food fit within my calories here and there. That way I'm not denying myself and binging on it later. Also, as others have said, you can still have pizza and burgers. Just learn to eat them in smaller portions. Is it fair that he can eat a triple cheeseburger, while you are stuck with a 4 oz. burger or that he can eat a whole pizza while you are eating 2 or 3 slices? No, but it is what it is. Focus on your goals and what you're eating, not him and what he's eating.

I make things rather easy!! I make only one meal- if no one likes it ....oh well!! They can always cook themselves!!

My husband also eats big and unhealthily. I was raised with dad gets more because he works. So as an adult I told myself I work as hard as my husband so I *deserve* to eat the same as him. Evenings were the worst; the tv would go on and out would come the junkfood. I'd down 250g chocolate, a big bag of crisps, and 1 litre of coca-cola.

Now I workout in the evening's while he eats and watches tv (so I'm not tempted). Now I tell myself I *deserve* to look and feel great.

I have pizza twice a week, tamales 1-2 times a week, lasangna, cocunut shrimp, even Nutella (once every 2 weeks) I've lost 50.. You have to be realistic with the goals you make.. I can't only eat salads the rest of my life.. It's just not realistic. Put foods you like into your new "diet" & make sure the way you choose to eat while your losing is how you can eat the rest of your life. I love fiber bars I have one every other day they are delicious. If your in a store & you see something that would really tempt you at home don't get it! I can't buy "cinnamon fiber bar cakes" because I would eat the whole box. I buy something I enjoy but I can still control myself.

DMLC2014 wrote: »

I make things rather easy!! I make only one meal- if no one likes it ....oh well!! They can always cook themselves!!

Same here. Nothing in my marriage vows says that I am the only possible cook in the household and have to pander to every whim.

Use it to your advantage. You eat a 1/4 of a pizza and he eats the rest so there are no leftovers to tempt you later !

My husband eats what he wants even though he is overweight. It does take will power but I just let him get on with it. If I am cooking a meal that he considers "diet" food I leave him to do something for himself. There are a lot of foods that both of us can eat so that is easier. I don't bake cakes anymore but that doesn't stop him buying them. I've stopped buying biscuits unless they are just plain and simple. I suppose I am lucky in that I don't like pizza and I really have to fancy a beefburger. I agree try not to give up things that you like just try to build it into your calorie allowance. Good luck.

Sorta been here. I dated a guy (honestly a couple guys, but one that was really bad) that ate a ton of crap and being around him, going on dates, hanging out, definitely led me into eating bad things I normally never touched. I had to turn things around, just for myself and didn't try to suggest or force him into changing his personal diet. You just have to take control over yourself. Before long he started wanting to eat my stuff and became self-conscious about the health of his diet when he saw me changing mine and shying away from the super calorie-heavy stuff that I'd normally share in with him. I started saying 'no' a lot more, cooking just for myself every day, choosing lighter options on dates. Just work on you. Relationships come and go in life, sometimes people don't stay together forever even. You can't let a partner get in the way of what is right for you.