Binge eater needs help! Please help! At wits end!

I would be pretty unhappy on 1300 a day too. I tried it for a few days and honestly I don't know how anyone does it. For me 2000 is much more reasonable. Luckily MFP allows me a very comfortable 2400 and I tend to get a lot of extra calories from exercise. I would suggest getting a fitbit and tracking your activity and see if you can earn yourself some extra calories through exercise.

Also. Don't cut out the junk food cold turkey. Allow yourself a small amount of it every day and just make it a part of your overall calorie intake. That way you don;'t get slammed by the cravings so hard that you sit down and eat an entire tub of ice cream. It is perfectly okay to eat sweets in moderation. If you can't have it around the house just go to the store when you feel the need and buy one portion of something. And enjoy it.

Loosing weight should not have to mean being miserable.

Imo, anyone who has food issues should really try to completely disassociate food from working out. Exercise and movement is for feeling better and more fit. I work out at least 4 days a week, even if I've eaten less than ideally for that week, because I always feel physically better as a result, and it helps my mood greatly. I keep my goals for becoming more fit completely separate from what it is I put in my mouth and my calories. If you love jogging, that is definitely something you should be doing even if you aren't eating to your ideal liking.

Like @shadowfax_c11 says, 1300 sounds a bit low? How many pounds a week are you attempting to lose and how many more pounds are you looking to lose? For bingers and compulsive eaters...the best way to sabotage how we fix our food habits is by heavy restriction. The end goal should be to see all food as effectively the same and as something that won't end up putting us in vulnerable headspaces. It is not an overnight process. It's not even a one month process. It's something that takes months of trying to learn moderation of all foods so you can eventually deal with minimizing those intense, horrible cravings that end up driving you to overeat on specific foods. Are you logging all your food right now?

Just keep at it! You'll get there! I've started endless times and have never been at a average weight but I will do it!
Eating higher fat has helped me get a handle on food and appetite. I don't buy or make "trigger foods regularly. I don't cut them out completly but I plan for them and have them when i'm feeling relaxed and aware rather than tired and stressed. I agree with the other posters about not resticting too much. That is a sure fire way to a binge for me.
Any day at maintence or below i'm happy with. I look for majority of "reducing" and "maintaining" days/weeks vs "gaining". I have a tendency to say "oh well I already blew it" and then continue the binge. I now work on giving myself credit any time i'm able to stop the binge mid-way or get right back on track the next day.
I don't attend regularly but calling in to phone OA meetings has helped me too. Good luck! Oxo

When I first started all this my wife would help my plate. What she put on the plate, that was it.
I would schedule a cheat meal when I hit a certain goal like lose 5 lbs. If I couldn't stand it I would eat an apple or banana or something good for me. When you feel the urge go outside for a walk, or take a shower. Anything to break up the craving/eating habit.
If you do break and overeat , try to eat less calories the next day or exercise to offset the binge.
Get rid of all the junk food in the house. If it ain't there you can't eat it.
If this was easy everyone would be doing it.
You've started which puts you ahead of all the folks who don't even realize they have a problem.
Stay with it. Good Luck!!

I too struggle with this but find a moment of meditation or prayer each morning helps

I have found that rather than focusing on what you cant or are not allowed to eat (which drives the binges) try adding more good stuff in. Simply remove the rules that cause your mind to focus on the "you cant" like all the good stuff but start by adding a lot more good foods, eventually it will force out the bad all on its own.

For me I have to restrict what I actually bring into the house. I'll eat a whole big bag of chips. So I had to just stop buying chips. Now instead if buying and eating about 3 or 4 bags of chips a week ill have maybe 2 a month. Still eat them all but way less often.

I found the more I stressed about restricting calories and not eating the worse I was. Calorie counting can be a binge eaters worst enemy as it may set you up to fail since control is the the problem and you spend a lot of time thinking about controlling the calories you are not supposed to eat. A few things have worked well for me: 1) picking a new way of eating to focus on that can write you and you can take "control" over; like Mediterranean, vegan, whole foods, paleo, whatever works for you,(not a diet, a long term sustainable way to eat), and really researching the food plan, the foods in it, how to eat in-line with that plan, and what your way of eating might look like. Ultimately, I am a flexitarian, but I really got into learning about plant based foods, how what I put in me effects my health and planning out my meals. For me, it replaced the former focus on not eating food and allowed me to still"reward" myself, but with healthy choices, like a smoothie or kale quinoa salad. It sounds weird, but it's about control with eating issues and that is a really hard thing for a lot of people to understand. You have to change your relationship from negative to positive and focus on good foods and stress less about the bad foods. 2) have a cheat day. I left one weekend day open to eat a meal of whatever. If I am really thinking about pizza or donuts or whatever, I remind myself it will be worth it at my cheat meal. 3) none of my cheat foods make it into my house except for my cheat meal in the portion I am going to eat at that time (you don't want leftovers)!

I can completely understand your dilemna. Binging and feeling out of control is awful and so often I feel like tomorrow will be different. I've now had a very good 7 days in a row this is what helped me focus...and they're all things I've read on these community boards
**check the before/after pictures, the ones who are down even 20# look amazingly different!
**the first 5-7 days are the most difficult when getting started...
**for me, the first few days I know I'm better off not having sweets at all. If I have one piece of candy I'll have 20. That's why I know I need to not have any in the beginning. 7 days in and I'm more in control.
Hope this helps!!!