Binge eater needs help! Please help! At wits end!

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  • bethweathersbee
    bethweathersbee Posts: 19 Member
    fairy2b wrote: »
    I found that starting out on my weight loss journey, having self control around trigger binge eating foods was non existent, so I had to remove the temptations. If you can't eat the cake and chips in moderation (I couldn't, moderation was never my forte!) then don't buy it to begin with. You will eat what you have in your house. Make a list when you go grocery shopping based on what meals you'll be making during the week and don't even go by the aisles that have that tasty junk. Stick to your list, no exceptions! If you have people in your household who bring those things in, you need to have a conversation that they can't be leaving it in communal kitchen areas. Eat it elsewhere. I also had to become somewhat of a hermit and stopped dining out for the first 6 weeks until I got a better understanding of nutrition and what I was doing. Otherwise, it was too tempting to just say F * @ K IT! and just order the foods I liked to binge on. There are so many aspects to binge eating and I feel your struggle, I know this is only part of it. I have been there and I know how hard it is. Best of luck, we are cheering you on!

  • bethweathersbee
    bethweathersbee Posts: 19 Member
    bethweathersbee wrote: »
    fairy2b wrote: »
    I found that starting out on my weight loss journey, having self control around trigger binge eating foods was non existent, so I had to remove the temptations. If you can't eat the cake and chips in moderation (I couldn't, moderation was never my forte!) then don't buy it to begin with. You will eat what you have in your house. Make a list when you go grocery shopping based on what meals you'll be making during the week and don't even go by the aisles that have that tasty junk. Stick to your list, no exceptions! If you have people in your household who bring those things in, you need to have a conversation that they can't be leaving it in communal kitchen areas. Eat it elsewhere. I also had to become somewhat of a hermit and stopped dining out for the first 6 weeks until I got a better understanding of nutrition and what I was doing. Otherwise, it was too tempting to just say F * @ K IT! and just order the foods I liked to binge on. There are so many aspects to binge eating and I feel your struggle, I know this is only part of it. I have been there and I know how hard it is. Best of luck, we are cheering you on!

  • bethweathersbee
    bethweathersbee Posts: 19 Member
    Thank you so much for the encouragement!
  • bethweathersbee
    bethweathersbee Posts: 19 Member
    jgnatca wrote: »
    I wish you all success. If you change your thinking about control, I believe the habits will follow. There's an internal tug-of-war, leading you to try to control ever tighter, leading to breakouts of behavior. You are interpreting every breakout as a loss of control and try and rein it in even tighter. You have to loosen the reins a bit and give your body the lead. Trust it. When your inner self is convinced that you will never allow yourself to be deprived, I suspect you will loosen up and be able to maintain control around trigger foods.

    In the meantime, control your environment. Have a small amount of treat in controlled portions and lower calorie available when you really need it. Maybe store it in the freezer and take out one a day.

    http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/jgnatca/view/riding-the-elephant-736034

  • bethweathersbee
    bethweathersbee Posts: 19 Member
    Great advice. Thank you so much!
  • Angelszophia
    Angelszophia Posts: 127 Member
    joshperson195 wrote: »
    scotvalkyrie wrote: »
    Everyone here has said some really good things. Sometimes I feel like, "what's the point?" in particular if I've overindulged on something high-calorie -- like I meant to only eat 1/2 cup of the gelato and then ate the whole darn container, so I figure, "well, heck, I just blew my calories out of the water, let's attack the cookies too." So believe me, I do understand. However, I once heard something that gave me pause:

    "If you drop one egg on the floor, do you automatically throw the rest of the dozen on the floor too?"

    We're all going to drop an egg from time to time. But we don't HAVE to throw the rest of the eggs down too! It's okay to drop an egg; it's how we deal with the fact we dropped an egg that makes a difference. So it's okay to slip up -- we are human after all -- but the point is to take a breath, log in the goody we just ate, and keep the rest of the eggs on the counter.

    Good luck!

    love that quote!!!

    This give me hope! Tyvm!
  • cheekydeeky
    cheekydeeky Posts: 146 Member
    For me, I have to identify WHY I'm binging in the first place in order to stop. I'm working on that. I have learned some of my triggers - stress, loneliness. Sometimes those triggers can't be avoided and I need to learn other ways of coping with them. Shifting my focus. It is very hard. But I think once we are able to move past the reasons for why we are sabotaging ourselves then we can heal and get healthy. I do know restricting calories and foods make things difficult for me as well spending all my time wondering about what I'm going to eat etc. I'm really trying to just eat healthy and move more. Good luck to you. :)
  • ggeise14
    ggeise14 Posts: 387 Member
    I struggle with this also. I can go great for a few days and then "wham" I don't just fall off the wagon, I jump! The others have some great suggestions and being mindful does help when I listen to my body -- am I hungry or do I just want to mindless chew/eat? We can do this -- best of luck!

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