Looking to gain a stone and tone this Mummy carcus up

annemariehalley78
annemariehalley78 Posts: 4 Member
edited November 17 in Goal: Gaining Weight and Body Building
At the age of 36 I have decided to stop moaning about wanting my bikini body back post baby - 3 YEARS ago! - and actually take action. I need to gain a stone. I want to be a size ten with some tone and curve not this shapeless size eight with an *kitten* that has gave up. I never ever gain weight but miss a meal and lose weight.

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  • ladyslena
    ladyslena Posts: 9 Member
    Hello!

    I am posting because I couldn't stand to see so many people look and not answer.

    Your post sounds exactly like mine did. Hopefully one of the great posters full of wonderful advice will be here soon. (Springfield and Terius are great!)

    I was told to add 250 calories to the amount that I currently need to maintain my weight. And to also lift some weights to build up strength and muscle. 250 calories should add half a pound a week.

    I am by no means an expert so wait for those to come along. Cos I think body fat may need to be taken into account but since you are and long size 8 I'm guessing you only have and long belly!

    Good luck!
  • ladyslena
    ladyslena Posts: 9 Member
    That should say since you are only a size 8. Not sure why I have those "longs" in there lol. Silly autocorrect
  • mhealea
    mhealea Posts: 56 Member
    Hey Annemarie,
    Like ladyslena you can add more lean protein and carb into your diet and up the calories. What is your current calorie goals and macros set for? I'm no women but I have been part of a wonderful online fitness family that have awesome recipes, story, and workout challenge groups that would help you. I'm sure you would fit right in and we do a have a few member from Great Britain if that will help you. If you would like just befriend me Andy will do my best to help you out with your needs..
  • GreenIceFloes
    GreenIceFloes Posts: 1,491 Member
    I suggest you do Strong Curves. It sounds ideal for your situation.
  • annemariehalley78
    annemariehalley78 Posts: 4 Member
    Thanks for replying. This is so new to me that I have no clue what I'm doing really.

    I've joined the gym and a PT wrote me a programme that focuses on lightish weights rather than cardiovascular. Also I have ordered protein shake that he advised. Drink one a day as well as trying to consume 2500 calories a day. Right now they are all bad calories but I just want to see some gain before I address the quality of my calories. If that makes sense. So basically along with my calories being upped I guess so is my salt and sugar intake. But that's just for now.

    For toning I'm aso considering swimming?

    What are these groups that u speak off and how do I join them?

    Thanks so much. Have a great day
  • LKArgh
    LKArgh Posts: 5,178 Member
    annemariehalley78 wrote: »
    Thanks for replying. This is so new to me that I have no clue what I'm doing really.

    I've joined the gym and a PT wrote me a programme that focuses on lightish weights rather than cardiovascular. Also I have ordered protein shake that he advised. Drink one a day as well as trying to consume 2500 calories a day. Right now they are all bad calories but I just want to see some gain before I address the quality of my calories. If that makes sense. So basically along with my calories being upped I guess so is my salt and sugar intake. But that's just for now.

    For toning I'm aso considering swimming?

    What are these groups that u speak off and how do I join them?

    Thanks so much. Have a great day

    Lightish weights plus 2500 calories per day means you will get a ot of body fat. If thsi is your goal, awesome. If not, lightish weights is not the answer. If you do not think your body is currently "toned" gaining extra fat does not sound like the way to go. Also consider where do you usually gain fat, because if e.g. whatever body fat you accumulate is stored around your tummy, then upping calories and not getting into serious strenght training will mean just a bigger and squishier belly, not a rounder bottom.
  • juleszephyr
    juleszephyr Posts: 442 Member
    I am also a Mummy who wants tone and shape though don't need to gain weight, I am 3 lbs above my UGW. However I agree lifting is the way to go but I also have discovered a fantastic home exercise DVD XTFMAX90 by Stephanie Oram. I have completed the full 90 days and now am extending it further. It is a mix of cardio and weights and toning and is really helping tighten and lift those 'problem areas' I would be careful about upping cals too fast as you will gain fat but take it steady and eat back any exercise calories you burn.
  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    Tell him you want a progressive lifting program and if he won't do that- get a new PT or drop him and do Starting Strength or Strong Lifts- new rules of lifting or strong curves.

    Don't just blindly eat 2500- you want to be eating at a surplus yes- but a KNOWN surplus over your maintance- dirty bulking (big surplus) is harder for women- for a few reasons- so just go with a clean surplus- which means- 250-350 calories of surplus OVER maintenance- don't worry about where the calories come from so much- do eat your macros reasonably well- don't eat all your calories in ice cream every day- but don't worry about if the balance comes from ice cream- or doughnuts or bagels- what have you- just do what you gotta do to get into a surplus.
  • IsaackGMOON
    IsaackGMOON Posts: 3,358 Member
    annemariehalley78 wrote: »
    Thanks for replying. This is so new to me that I have no clue what I'm doing really.

    I've joined the gym and a PT wrote me a programme that focuses on lightish weights rather than cardiovascular. Also I have ordered protein shake that he advised. Drink one a day as well as trying to consume 2500 calories a day. Right now they are all bad calories but I just want to see some gain before I address the quality of my calories. If that makes sense. So basically along with my calories being upped I guess so is my salt and sugar intake. But that's just for now.

    For toning I'm aso considering swimming?

    What are these groups that u speak off and how do I join them?

    Thanks so much. Have a great day

    Seems your PT is a bit clueless from what you've said.

    You're eating 2500 calories a day? Stick to a 500 calorie surplus per der day; but what are those calories coming from? How many grams of fat, protein and carbohydrates? You need to be SPECIFIC with these things.

  • 3laine75
    3laine75 Posts: 3,069 Member
    Great advice above from JoRocka - she knows her *kitten*, listen up :)

    Are you UK (I ask as you used stones)? If so, PTs here are lame - let me guess, 2 sets of 15 reps? I've wasted so much time over the years listening to them regurgitate this, trying it for a few months, giving up, trying the same thing all over again - definition of madness XD

    If he's also trying to sell you herbalife or some such, ditch him. You can get all your protein from food if you want or shop around for a whey protein.

    250 calorie surplus (it'll take you a while to figure out your actual TDEE/maintenance(it's probably higher than you think)) plus a progressively heavier lifting programme will get you where you want to be.

    Get googling - Starting Strength, Stronglifts, Strong Curves etc. good luck :)
  • stephxo1
    stephxo1 Posts: 191 Member
    Drop me a FR if you want some advice. First off you need to know what your TDEE is and go from there. It took me a few months to figure out my maintance calories and since then I've been eating in a surplus of 300 calories a day and gaining around 2lbs a month. I've completely changed my body shape over the past 9 months by following Power Muscle Burn 5 day split but you need to know the basic lifts before attempting such programmes. And please don't stick to 2 sets of 15 reps continuously, I did this for years and it got me nowhere in regards to adding muscle mass. Eat big, lift heavy! But you gotta know your stuff, it's not an excuse to randomly pig out and make up some random calorie goal.
  • ladyslena
    ladyslena Posts: 9 Member
    Aah the experts have arrived. These guys know their stuff!

    Lifting heavy is the way to go. I also thought cardio was needed to help tone before I started researching and came to this board. When in fact I realised that is why I am skinny fat.

    I've only been on a strength training programme for 3 weeks but I am seeing changes in my strength already. Not really on the scales as yet but slightly in my body. Not much but just slight!

    Remember patience is key!
  • pebbleslaura1
    pebbleslaura1 Posts: 146 Member
    Also trying to gain and sick of people telling me eat junk and rest need to gain 14lb but lost wat to do (ed recovery) also sick of gyms saying 3 sets of light weights ect
  • annemariehalley78
    annemariehalley78 Posts: 4 Member
    I ate practically constantly last week. Totally focused on gaining. Nothing else considered. All that happened is I felt like crap because my diet was basically high calorie junk. And my every bloody thought was about having to eat more. It feels like an unhealthy chore.

    Been at the gym twice a week the last few weeks. Juat started. Light weights. Rep's. And this week just trying to consume 2500 calories per day. To be honest I struggle with even that amount. Still feel like I am obsessed with trying to consume more. It's not a healthy way to be.

    Scales say I've gained three pounds but don't feel it. Still feel like a whippet. 8 stone 8. 5 ft 6.
    I just want to go up a dress size.

    Hope ure doing better with ure endeavours.

    Talking to most people it's the "Oh what a shame u want to gain wait" glazed over patronising look. This is just as bloody real as someone who isn't happy with their size and wants to lose weight. X
  • Springfield1970
    Springfield1970 Posts: 1,945 Member
    You should be happy you've gained. You're nearly there by the sounds of it. I'd rather be under than over, it's a much much better experience!
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