I hate men....

It's like people who start off wealthy. They have an advantage and can blow money (calories) that we can't, so it's easy to be jealous of them. I don't hate wealthier people or men, but I still shake my head when my brother downs an entire pizza and still looks like Shaggy while I'm struggling to fit one piece into my macros.

On the flip side, that makes them less prepared if they do have to struggle with their metabolisms. How many guys do you know, after a knee injury and growing older, went from being naturally fit to significantly overweight? Even though they can still eat more than we can, they're not used to having to control it. And what's more, some have been culturally conditioned to thinking that "eating rabbit food is for girls".

There are pros and cons to both sides. Still jealous of you guys when we go out to eat, though.

isulo_kura wrote: »

I wonder what would happen if I started a thread saying 'I Hate Women?'. I'm sure it would rightfully get pulled. So why is this title acceptable?

It's not. But it's effective click bait, considering the number of people on here. And unfortunately, the stereotypical perception of "I hate men" is a bunch of wives shaking their head over what their husbands do, while the stereotypical "I hate women" forum is assumed to be serious, and therefore draws an angry mob.

Not justifying it. Just explaining it.

Just to chime in cuz....why not?! I'm 5'2" and my husband is 6' and I'll be honest that I don't really struggle with the fact that he can (and should!) eat more than me (although the "it's not fair he can eat a candy bar and I can't" feelings do sometimes factor in) as much as the fact that he doesn't understand that he can and should eat more than me. He wants to share everything 50/50, to the point where he gets suspicious that I might have given him the bigger 1/2. If he's hungry but I say I don't want anything, then he'll say he won't eat if I won't eat. So frustrating!!!! I don't want him to starve but I also don't want to blow up like a blimp! =P

On the "it's not fair" note, I don't think tall people do really understand (based on the comments here). Yes, a tall person does still feel hungry eating at a deficit, but eating is only partially about hunger....it's also about taste and you do get a lot more tastes of different types of things than we do (while staying on track).

Last thought, it is also frustrating when you taller folks give weight loss advice to us smaller folks. It is different! We're working with much smaller margins. So, for example, when a poster above said to cut out a sugary drink/day....well....I can't remember the last time I had a sugary drink. Likewise, when my husband tells me I should follow his (incredibly unhealthy and for me likely ineffective diet plan of eating pickles all day followed by a big but healthy dinner, which would end up more calories than I eat now) because he lost 20 lbs in a month doing it and then I'd be done with this whole diet thing.....well, that's not helpful! There's no way I would ever lose 20 lbs in a month! And then, it just feels (yes those pesky feelings again!) like you're not doing a "good enough" job because you're not achieving the same results.

Sorry for the super long post! Guess this one hit a nerve. lol In sum, we just all need to learn to understand each other better. Either that, or just but out!

LeslieB042812 wrote: »

Ju
On the "it's not fair" note, I don't think tall people do really understand (based on the comments here). Yes, a tall person does still feel hungry eating at a deficit, but eating is only partially about hunger....it's also about taste and you do get a lot more tastes of different types of things than we do (while staying on track).

YES. Really good point. I'm here because for years my eyes wanted more food than my stomach needed. I don't NEED as much as my taller friends, but that doesn't mean I don't WANT to taste more throughout the day.

jaga13 wrote: »

LeslieB042812 wrote: »

Ju
On the "it's not fair" note, I don't think tall people do really understand (based on the comments here). Yes, a tall person does still feel hungry eating at a deficit, but eating is only partially about hunger....it's also about taste and you do get a lot more tastes of different types of things than we do (while staying on track).

YES. Really good point. I'm here because for years my eyes wanted more food than my stomach needed. I don't NEED as much as my taller friends, but that doesn't mean I don't WANT to taste more throughout the day.

Yes, and this also applies to eating out. It's harder to be social and work in a glass of wine or a meal with friends (when you can't control exactly how much oil went into the meal, etc.). My husband can afford to have a meal out without having to starve (as in not eat anything else) for the rest of the day. For example, a typical "healthier"/moderate-sized restaurant entree (think: a lightly dressed salad with salmon or chicken with rice and veggies) has 700-1000 calories (there's butter hidden everywhere!); add a glass of wine for about 150 calories and there's your 1200 calories for the day! Spent on one meal...... If I know we're going out for dinner, I'll only eat lettuce (or spinach) with tuna on it because that will help stave off the hangry until I get to eat (typically about 7ish pm.....a long time to wait through a whole work day, getting up at 7 am!).

Yes, it sucks and is not fair, but you should be very happy they are trying to do something about their weight before it gets worse.