Second day and I'm not doing so well.... :(

oracle4one
oracle4one Posts: 3
edited September 27 in Introduce Yourself
It's amazing what you begin to realize about yourself as soon as you start to write down everything you eat. I just signed up at myfitnesspal yesterday and I've decided to be 100% honest with myself this time...no lying about what I've eaten, no pretending I worked out, when I didnt, and definitely no DENIAL! With that said, this is HARD!!!!! I can't believe that this is actually what I've become... :( Anyway, I'm hoping that this will help! I don't want to feel the way I do TODAY about myself anymore! My goal at the end isn't just about weight, although I need to lose some; and it's not just about dress sizes, even though I would love to see single digits; but for me, this is really about wanting to feel good about myself, physically, mentally and emotionally. So...here we go!! :)

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  • jmruef
    jmruef Posts: 824 Member
    One thing MFP does well is make you ACCOUNTABLE to yourself. ;) It's not pretty at times, but you know what - it teaches you how to be kinder to yourself over time, too.

    This isn't about kicking yourself for how you got here - what's done is done. It's about moving on from here.

    Good luck!
  • It is hard for everyone in the beginning, but stick with it and it will definitely pay off! Good luck to you!
  • stariera
    stariera Posts: 224
    You've taken a good step. The motivation and support you find here will help tons. I find that putting every single little thing down helps me tons to stay on track. Love that this site makes it so easy for me to keep track of it all while also getting support and advice when I really need it. Good Luck on your Journey and please feel free to add me.
  • hroush
    hroush Posts: 2,073 Member
    Nobody expects you to be perfect when you first start out. Heck, nobody expects you to be perfect after you've been doing this for a long time. It takes time to adjust to the new lifestyle. Set mini goals for yourself and achieve them. My biggest tip is to eat half of what you could, you'll find this will help you meet your calorie goals immensely.
  • gcumpson
    gcumpson Posts: 39
    Its your second day so yes you are doing great. If it was easy it would be called something like Smiling :) Good luck ! I look forward to seeing you day three
  • micki59
    micki59 Posts: 25
    Don't be so hard on your self! I was totally amazed (horrified) how much I was eating when I started tracking it and by then I WAS watching what I was eating..so I can only imagine how much it all added up to when I wasn't tracking and just eating whatever I felt like. It isn't easy, but I'm hoping it pays off if I do what I am supposed to. From what I've seen on this site - IT DOES!!! Stick with it and when you don't feel like put it out here and just get through it. Good luck!
  • dbanks80
    dbanks80 Posts: 3,685 Member
    Yeah it is hard in the beginning especially when you see the calories adding up so quickly. But stick to it and you'll see big results! Then you will be happy of what you can accomplish!
  • Egger29
    Egger29 Posts: 14,741 Member
    ONe of the mantras we used when I worked at Goodlife Fitness is "IT takes 21 days to form a habit".

    IN other words, your changes require a long-term committment that eventually will become your natural habits....good or bad.

    Using the journals help keep you accountable and see what habits you might currently have, so that you can make changes for the better along the road.

    It's all about the journey towards the destination....not just the final goal.

    All the best to you!
  • jennywrens
    jennywrens Posts: 208
    want to know what my biggest achievement is since starting here?

    I had a bad Easter, ate chocolate and then a massive pizza the following day! Old me would have said "oh well, I've ruined it now, might aswell give up". New me said "ooh, bad few days, they're over now. I enjoyed them but lets get back on track" ..... and I did!

    It's not about 'failing' - you only fail when you stop trying! It's about putting it behind you as quickly as possible, not beating yourself up and getting back on track!
  • Xaspar
    Xaspar Posts: 726 Member
    This is about learning how to make the changes, not beating yourself up. So, hang in there, keep staying honest, and the first thing is accept that this is where you ARE, not where you will always be. Use the information to make positive changes. Even one small change at a time will be a small victory as well!
    Welcome to the site and take advantage of the opportunities to find support and advice and motivation, and in no time you will find that you are worth every bit of the effort you are making!
    Good luck and kudos for a big important first step victory.
  • nlsalvatore
    nlsalvatore Posts: 519 Member
    You can do it! It's so hard at first but gets easier as you stick with it. I started Jan. 19 and am down 21 pounds. Keep going!!!!

    A friend at work sent me this quote from Confucious - Our greatest glory is not in never falling but in rising every time we fall. You can do it!
  • lmk1978
    lmk1978 Posts: 7 Member
    I think that's it's importan to remember that you and everyone else on this site is trying to change their lifestyle. It's not something that is gonna change overnight, it's a work in process.
  • rachelowow
    rachelowow Posts: 47
    Keep it up!!! It gets easier, some days are hard but just work though it!! :)
  • alleyag
    alleyag Posts: 142
    want to know what my biggest achievement is since starting here?

    I had a bad Easter, ate chocolate and then a massive pizza the following day! Old me would have said "oh well, I've ruined it now, might aswell give up". New me said "ooh, bad few days, they're over now. I enjoyed them but lets get back on track" ..... and I did!

    It's not about 'failing' - you only fail when you stop trying! It's about putting it behind you as quickly as possible, not beating yourself up and getting back on track!

    So had a running related injury like 5 days ago. I got a little depressed the anxiety kicked in I had one peep and then bammmm! Before I knew it I had eaten a box of prepared and taco bell till my stomach hurt. Really felt like just giving up. Woke up next day beating myself up about the 3000 calorie binge. Rather than starving myself and only leading me down to another binge session. I had had my healthy breakfast and moved on. It's tough sometimes and things will happen thatwill be discouraging. Just get back up and tell yourself I will not be destructive to my body or my mind. :)
  • leshagen
    leshagen Posts: 36
    Give yourself a little more time and try not to get discouraged. I joined about 2 weeks ago and gained a pound that first week! So now I am back to ground zero, but feeling better about my choices and more focused about what I need to do. I know it's a long hard road for us all, but we can do it! Just takes baby steps...feel free to add me as a friend for support :D
  • smkey
    smkey Posts: 121 Member
    It's not about focusing on what you do badly or wrong, or where you fail... although those things count, it is FAR more important to focus on what you do right and the pride you can have when that happens. Learn from the mistakes - and don't make them again. Success is right around the corner - look for it!
  • danstvguy
    danstvguy Posts: 46
    "I can't believe that this is actually what I've become"

    I think what you've become is something very special! You've chosen to join this program and post this note. You and I are now taking control of our lives and becoming accountable for our food and exercise choices. Our mindset is changing.

    I started a week ago and realize this approach (my fitnesspal) is alot more like real life. In life, as adults, everything is about what choices we make. We choose our relationship with food and exercise. And now you and I have chosen to take control back.

    Right now I'm 25 lbs away from my goal and I definately need this daily involvement ... sometimes 4 or 5 or more times a day .. This can't be a bad thing ... for what is more important than our health? This website is NOT JUST ABOUT WEIGHT ... its about HEALTH and fitness. So the daily planning and recording our food and exercise should be our highest piority. Indulge yourself in the this program! I am.

    Wishing you and I both success!
  • danstvguy
    danstvguy Posts: 46
    <SMKEY>

    Super work!!! Keep it up. Goal is in site now!
  • Wannabeachday
    Wannabeachday Posts: 122 Member
    I just started myself this week and I really was sick with what I put in my mouth. My whole side of my fathers family has a weight problem and I do myself. I battle with it everyday, but I decided to try harder and stop making excuses. You took the first step by signing up so you are on the right track of making a change. I am trying to make a game out of it, I am eating the foods I know will give me a "good score" :) good luck and stay strong!!!
  • sam363
    sam363 Posts: 204 Member
    It's amazing what you begin to realize about yourself as soon as you start to write down everything you eat. I just signed up at myfitnesspal yesterday and I've decided to be 100% honest with myself this time...no lying about what I've eaten, no pretending I worked out, when I didnt, and definitely no DENIAL! With that said, this is HARD!!!!! I can't believe that this is actually what I've become... :( Anyway, I'm hoping that this will help! I don't want to feel the way I do TODAY about myself anymore! My goal at the end isn't just about weight, although I need to lose some; and it's not just about dress sizes, even though I would love to see single digits; but for me, this is really about wanting to feel good about myself, physically, mentally and emotionally. So...here we go!! :)

    Take it day by day. Make one goal that you can accomplish that day and stick to it. Pretty soon it will be an old habit! When starting out a great goal is to track all foods. Don't worry about what the total calories are just write it if you bite it. Then after one week look back at your journal and think about what you would like to change. You don't have to change all at once to be successful. Celebrate the little things and everything will fall into place. Good luck.
  • FluffyCorky
    FluffyCorky Posts: 96 Member
    It's the numbers and the reality of things in front of my face that helps keep me on the right path. Like others said....it's too late to fix the past but a great time to fix the future. Just keep up with things and as much as you hate the reality checks they are what's going to help give you the extra kick in the right direction. You can do it!!
  • ldezara
    ldezara Posts: 4
    It's my second day too! I know it's so hard at first but I'm sure we'll both get the hang of it real quick. I keep telling myself that if I cheat I'm only cheating myself. I've already realized one of the reasons I have trouble losing weight isn't the amount I eat, but when I eat. Just keep at it and don't give up, after all it is only your second day. It will get easier, don't worry.
  • oracle4one
    oracle4one Posts: 3
    WOW! I had no idea that there was so much support out there! THANK YOU SO MUCH!! You're comments and encouragement have really helped!!
  • sugarbeans
    sugarbeans Posts: 676 Member
    This is only your second day and the fact that you can write about what is bothering you is a huge step.. Congrats on holding yourself accountable for everything after all this is all about you in the end.

    MFP does hold you accountable for everything but it's funny because the more you use it the easier it gets and you can look back and see the progress =)

    I found with MFP that I started to actually see and realize what my patterns were and are, sometimes I cave into the cravings but I know tomorrow is another day, if I have something that's loaded with sodium and I feel bloated the next day I can go back and see what i've eaten and say OH RIGHT!!! and drink more water.

    I commend you for being honest and letting everyone on here know. Taking one day at a time is sometimes the only way to do it at the beging, the only difference between now with MFP and before is that we are here to support and help you. If you have to vent we are hear to listen and give you insight if needed.

    Welcome and enjoy!!
  • lecia125
    lecia125 Posts: 126 Member
    I have been on here for 30 days and I am loving it! I love the accountability and I can NOT stand to see my food diary in the red! I have made a "game" of it of sorts. If I get into the red it is time to work it out! There is a lot of great people on this site and if you have any problems or questions just put them out there, someone will have an answer for you. Best of Luck and add me if you like!
  • Hey C. It is hard when you see reality in black and white. I started out because I also wanted to be, not only physically healthy, but emotionally healthy as well. I have struggled with this aspect of my emotional health for a long time. You are off to a great start. Honesty is key to the process and coming out of denial is a good thing, albeit painfull. So happy your here and can't wait to see how God uses this to bring change and healing for you. It's nice that we don't have to be on this journey alone.
    Hugs, L.
  • oracle4one
    oracle4one Posts: 3
    Thanks Lisa! I hadn't done it in a couple days because I was afraid to see what I HADN'T done :( but today I'm starting again and I even went running this morning...so, here we go! :) Thanks again for everything yesterday and these last few months. The impact its had on my life is UNBELIEVABLE!!! :)
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