Sinking ship.

We're going to need more information to help you. How many calories are you eating each day? What foods (besides pickles) are you eating? Are you logging them?

I used to be on a see-food diet. Anything I see, I eat, be it bread, biscuits, 2nd helping of lunch, dinner, dessert. You get the picture. Sometimes we just graze which is not healthy at all as this can lead to serious weight concerns. Remember, you are beautiful, you are unique, you are worth while, you have the power to achieve anything you want. Have you thought of seeing a different doctor or a dietitian? Maybe a second opinion would help. Good luck finding a solution that is best for you. I seriously think a second opinion would be really helpful.

Get a new Doctor, you pay them to take care of you! The Doctor should have been concerned by your complaints
Do you have high blood pressure?
You may want to look into hormone testing too
Depression can cause those symptoms too.
These are things that can contribute to what your describing
If your job is not active I would start exercise at a slow rate like walking 10 minutes and building up as you can.
Taking vitamin B 12 can help too
A lot of insurance companies offer obesity/weightless counseling
Every journey starts with one step

stutba wrote: »

Baby steps! Start with small goal. It wont feel so daunting.
- Park further away than normal.
- drink glass of water instead of glass of soda
- walk up steps vs taking elevator
- Plan out what your meals will be. It makes such a huge difference and takes a little bit of time.

Think small, start small... it will escalate and soon you will be motivated to act BIG!
Once you see and feel a small difference in yourself, it should help with motivation.

Park further away is the easiest start. The hardest part of any exercise or race is starting. The first mile in any race is the same length for everyone. It's the roads that get you to the starting line that can take longer. Until you really want this, nothing will work though. That's how it was for me and a lot of other folks on here. one day I decided I'd had enough and started exercising. That was 16 years ago. I may not be slim, or fast, or the strongest anything, but I'll be the first toeing the line.

I think of the exercise like work... As in, you HAVE to go to work 5 days a week for the next 40 years right? So, you HAVE to do some exercise every week. No excuses. Even if you don't want to or don't feel like it, just go. After a few weeks, very slowly, things will change. Keep doing it. Forever. The time will pass anyway. In 3 months, 6 months, a year, you'll look back on the time that passed and there will be a difference.

I think the best thing you could do for yourself is just focus on improving your eating habits first. Set yourself a calorie goal, log every bite you take, weigh and measure your food. Once you start to see your weight come down, and it will if you eat at a deficit, you will be more motivated to add a fitness routine. Calorie restriction is for weight loss. Exercise is for fitness. You don't have to exercise to lose weight (not saying that you shouldn't, just take a step at a time).

I see a lot of good advice here!

I started at roughly the same weight you are, 350 pounds. I was depressed, eating *kitten* food all the time, wasting my life sitting on the couch watching TV and wishing things were different.

I started by getting help for my depression. After that, other things in my life seemed to become easier for me. I started to walk 10 minutes a day. When I could walk for 10 minutes and not feel too tired, I walked for 15. I started to log my food again. I was over lots of days, but it gave me a good starting point. I learned to plan and prepare my meals the night before for the next day. I logged everything and didn't take any extra snacks to work so I could only eat what I brought. I stated drinking more water. I relied ALOT on my MFP friends. I have only met a handful of them in person, but I knew they were always here for me. They still are.

I lost almost 60 pounds on my own, then I relapsed and stopped logging my food. I stopped working out. I gained back 30 pounds and it was scary for me.

I know that I am the only one that can take care of me. So, 58 days ago, I started again. At square one. I started logging my food. Every single bit. I started walking on the treadmill. At least 20 minutes. About 30 days in, I started to struggle again so I signed up with a personal trainer. I see her 3 times a week for 60 minutes. I knew that I needed something else to hold me accountable. She kicks my butt, and I've lost 10 pounds in 3 weeks.

If you want to add me, I would love to try and support you the best I can. I know you CAN do this!!

So much good advice. It sounds to me like you're somebody who's very hard on themselves. I wish I could give you a BIG HUG. Sending lots of love your way and a friend request.

I think that the baby step idea sounds good. And if you fall off the wagon with that one small task, DONT YOU DARE BEAT YOURSELF UP. Just give yourself the gold star the person above was talking about if you can do it. If you can't, think seriously about why, then try again tomorrow!

XOXOX

mwyvr wrote: »

It all starts with you, you have to want to improve yourself. No one else is going to do it for you[1]. Coming here to vent is a good sign that you really do want change but its up to you to take the next step.

The best advice I've seen here is for you to take a small, measurable, first step.

Do that walk as suggested, 15 minutes a day. If you can't manage 15, start with 10 and keep it up until you can add 5 more. There are all sorts of tricks you can play on yourself to ensure you spend the time at it. For example if you drive, park 5, 7.5, or 10 minutes away from where you live or work to force you to walk back to your car for the next trip. Increase the distance as you improve. Sooner than later you won't have to trick yourself because you'll see and feel real progress and you'll want to do it... more than want, you'll feel like you need to, must do it.

While you take those first steps, log all your food, even the pickles. If you are feeling tempted by something, add it to the log BEFORE you consume it. At some point this will help you say no. Review past days, don't just ignore them , because you can and will learn from your past.

It won't take long to develop a new outlook on your life and future if you just start. Many of us have been there and emerged out the other side and you can do.

[1] You might find a more supportive and compassionate doctor. Your doc won't fix this for you, only you can, but why visit an unhelpful physician?

The advice on logging before you eat something is golden. I usually log my meals in, and then if I want something else, I log it and see if it's worth it. Whenever I eat mindlessly and add later, I always regret it and go waaaaaay over my intended intake.

It's so much easier to stay under my calorie goal when I eat thoughtfully.

Your post describes how I feel today, exactly. I am so disappointed in myself. I am overweight, I look horrible, I am exhausted, and I can't stick to any of my weight loss/exercise goals.

You are not alone. I know that this unhappiness I am feeling is my own fault.I want to lose weight but I don't want to give up the delicious cookies, candy, buffalo wings food. I don't want to stop sitting on the couch to go exercise.

But I want to feel good.

I know something has to give, because I want to be happy. And right now, I am not happy with myself. I don't want to be on the verge of tears or stressed out because I have all this weight to lose. So I know I have to just do the exercises and give up the food. I just have too.

Put the pickles down and let's get happy!!