Should I cancel or not???

DESIREE1210
DESIREE1210 Posts: 177 Member
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
Okay my husband and I had a rough year. The past 3 months we got back what we lost and have been doing terrific.
He had back surgery 5 weeks ago, it was pretty excessive. His Birthday is the 31st and I booked a hotel for the 29th& 30th to RI
where we got married on the beach.
He's been up and about and feeling good but if he does too much he's down for a few days.
I already booked the place and can cancell this weekend without losing $$$.
I'm wondering if maybe I should just go there Monday till Tues. Just a night away or I'm pushing it.
Maybe I should just tell him tonight and it wont be a surprise like I had hoped, but I can let him make the decision. What do you guys think.

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  • vartanfan71
    vartanfan71 Posts: 62 Member
    ask him how he has been feeling and tell him it was meant to be a surprize (it still will be) and ask him if he feels up to it!
  • jlewis2896
    jlewis2896 Posts: 763 Member
    I would ask him what he thinks, tell him you wanted it to be a surprise but you don't want him to hate it.

    :( Kind of sucks, but that would be better than paying money for a miserable time.

    Great job planning a getaway, though!! Very sweet and thoughtful of you!
  • amazing_grace♥
    amazing_grace♥ Posts: 620
    I'd probably tell him and let him make the decision. I know that particular weekend is special, but could you postpone it and do it a few weeks later when he is feeling better??
  • NoExcuseTina
    NoExcuseTina Posts: 506 Member
    I would not give him all the details...but ask him about going away and the car ride

    Good luck!
  • fitnessjch
    fitnessjch Posts: 449 Member
    Ask him what he thinks - he may need it as a boost, but he may just be too tired and worn out. Whether you go or not, he will appreciate the gesture, and you can always postpone it and then have something to look forward to.

    I had back surgery a couple of years ago, and having something in the future to look forward to made a HUGE difference in my mental wellbeing! :P

    Just make sure theres no pressure on him to do anything other than relax. He may worry that he's going there, and it means a lot to you, but that he cant do what he would normally do on a holiday. If you stress that you dont mind and you just want to spend relaxing, quality time with him then it may be just what the Dr ordered!
  • DESIREE1210
    DESIREE1210 Posts: 177 Member
    Ask him what he thinks - he may need it as a boost, but he may just be too tired and worn out. Whether you go or not, he will appreciate the gesture, and you can always postpone it and then have something to look forward to.

    I had back surgery a couple of years ago, and having something in the future to look forward to made a HUGE difference in my mental wellbeing! :P


    In June if he is really feeling much better than he was before surgery were scheduling a cruise to the Bahamas for the end of Sept. between that and waiting to ride his Harley again, he has incentives going on.
  • DESIREE1210
    DESIREE1210 Posts: 177 Member
    Ok I told him and he said the way he's been feeling with the rain the past few days he would rather cancel and play it by ear and maybe go to RI for a night.
    If not we'll go in July for our anniversary.
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