Yes or No : would you be pissed
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Yes. Off with their heads!0
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Going crazy!!!0
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I didn't care when I found out about my ex and a similar situation... we were doomed anyways lol.0
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RedRockChic wrote: »So out of curiousity... what brought it up at 425 am? Or really I guess my question would be what happened last night to generate this disclosure? Obviously he (the friend) hasn't figured it out on his own in 10 yrs, so there must have been something said or something that happened that caused this conversation to occur.
this is what i was wondering. why would she tell him now? were they fighting and she said this to hurt him?
it's a complex question, because while it was 10 years ago, it's just a few hours ago to him. and he'll have to ultimately come to the realization that it was a long time ago, and whether or not that matters. And what was the context of the cheating? was it with a co-worker or someone she hangs out with to this day? or some random person, and does that matter.
the STD... what was it, is it treated, is he still at risk, is he getting tested... all that.
how old was she 10 years ago?
honestly, i wouldn't be "pissed." i would be terribly disappointed. i would have to do some major thinking about the marriage, and if i could continue in it not only because she cheated and may have given me an STD, but because she lied about it for 10 years and the marriage began in a cloud of deception.
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I'd be livid...sure it's 10 years in the past...but that's no "minor" detail (in most relationship) to not tell someone.
The not telling is just as bad as the act IMO. I have a list a mile long of stuff that I'd feel guilty about NOT telling my wife before not telling about getting an STD while cheating on her before we got married...0 -
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I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.0
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Cheating before you're married, I can let that slide. STD? I would be pissed!!0
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PISSED, HURT, DEVASTATED. all in caps.0
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Becka4prez wrote: »Cheating before you're married, I can let that slide. STD? I would be pissed!!
So you be find if you knew about the affair before marriage?
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sperkins68 wrote: »I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.
that's a lot of probablys
that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.
or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.
are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?
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Yes i will be pissed alot, first of all for not telling me directly that she cheated on me and she kept it a secret for 10 freaking years... But i would be more pissed for the STD..0
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wolverine66 wrote: »sperkins68 wrote: »I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.
that's a lot of probablys
that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.
or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.
are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?
A lost of trust can be repaired in a relationship but what about in a marriage with that much time from the discretion. I don't tolerate either situation.
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Yes - if someone called me at 4:25 in the morning about something that happened 10 years ago, I'd be pissed.0
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I'd be pissed that he called at 4:25a too!0
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YES and she would be gone!0
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yopeeps025 wrote: »Becka4prez wrote: »Cheating before you're married, I can let that slide. STD? I would be pissed!!
So you be find if you knew about the affair before marriage?
Letting it slide and being fine with it are two different things IMO. It would definitely "slide" to the back burner until the STD argument was handled first.0 -
Um, who wouldnt?0
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I would be angry. I'm the violently angry type, too. It wouldn't be a good moment for them, maybe their last if I got infected with their disease.0
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10 years in i would be hurt about the cheating but it was b4 they got married....from that point i would assume it's not the last time it happened...once a cheater and all that
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