Yes or No : would you be pissed

wolverine66

sperkins68 wrote: »

I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.

that's a lot of probablys

that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.

or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.

are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?

Diondk

Yes i will be pissed alot, first of all for not telling me directly that she cheated on me and she kept it a secret for 10 freaking years... But i would be more pissed for the STD..

yopeeps025

wolverine66 wrote: »

sperkins68 wrote: »

I'd be pissed with the std part. The cheateing part after that long ya it would hurt but depending on how far into the relationship I was at the time would determin how upsert I'd be at that. And I personally don't believe in the once a cheater always a cheater statement. She probly was afraid of ruining there relationship so kept it a secret and it was probly eating away at her so she finally let it out.

that's a lot of probablys

that's why i think how this came out matters. was it a woman who buckled under the weight of 10 years of lying? was it a woman who used this as a weapon in an argument? or maybe the guy she cheated with was threatening to tell her husband so she had to tell him before he could.

or maybe he found out from someone else. the OP doesn't say the woman even told him.

are we sure this was the only time? i mean she lied once, what's to stop her from lying more? should he trust her if she says "yes. this was the only time"?

A lost of trust can be repaired in a relationship but what about in a marriage with that much time from the discretion. I don't tolerate either situation.

DirrtyH

Yes - if someone called me at 4:25 in the morning about something that happened 10 years ago, I'd be pissed.

_incogNEATo_

I'd be pissed that he called at 4:25a too!

oberon0124

YES and she would be gone!

_incogNEATo_

yopeeps025 wrote: »

Becka4prez wrote: »

Cheating before you're married, I can let that slide. STD? I would be pissed!!

So you be find if you knew about the affair before marriage?

Letting it slide and being fine with it are two different things IMO. It would definitely "slide" to the back burner until the STD argument was handled first.

Spnneil06

Um, who wouldnt?

InvaderGashloog

I would be angry. I'm the violently angry type, too. It wouldn't be a good moment for them, maybe their last if I got infected with their disease.

PsychoSupport

10 years in i would be hurt about the cheating but it was b4 they got married....from that point i would assume it's not the last time it happened...once a cheater and all that

TheProudDadLife

more hurt than pissed , relationships are built on trust

salembambi

hurt and disgusted that they didnt tell me about it sooner

salembambi

hurt and disgusted that they didnt tell me about it sooner