Friending/unfriending etiquette

I have no idea what others see if you decline their requests, but I dont imagine they see anything. I dont think you should feel guilty for not adding just anyone. I start to unfriend people once they have been inactive for 2 months or more. A lot of people unfriend after a month, but I went on a 6 week trip to another country where I had very little internet access.

swirlybee wrote: »

try2again wrote: »

If a person in your group of friends who is otherwise active doesn't interact with you in any way other than maybe hitting "like" on your posts, would you keep them on your list?

This is entirely up to you, but I like getting "likes" so I keep them as friends. It is kinda shallow to some extent but it motivates me.

I'm not looking for cheerleaders, and nor am I one, so I like the 'likes' I receive. It's a matter of preference. There are no guidelines, really. Some people get butthurt over getting unfriended, others don't. Depends on the person.
You can always mention on your profile what criteria you want potential friends to meet, that will help with the filtering.

If you send a message with the request, I will accept. If you become inactive for more than 5 days...you get the boot.

What about when peeps request your friend"ship" but don't interact with you at all, as in no likes, no comments? Are these friend hoarders? I wonder why they asked for friendship but don't interact?

try2again wrote: »

I'm a person who's concerned about the feelings of others, even on a website full of strangers. I know these questions will make some roll their eyes- and no need for you to post, right? - but if you are the same way, maybe you can share your thoughts:

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• If someone sends you a friend request, and you just don't think they're a good match for you, do you just hit "decline" or provide a reason? What, if anything, does the other person see if you decline?
• How long do you wait to unfriend inactive members?
• If a person in your group of friends who is otherwise active doesn't interact with you in any way other than maybe hitting "like" on your posts, would you keep them on your list? Again, if you unfriend someone, would they be notified of this, or would your feed quietly slip off theirs?/list]
  
  Thanks everybody!
  

Im mean...apparently

I ask for a small note for friend requests...no note declined (unless special circumstance like interaction in the forums from a new member)
I decline with no reason given
I wait typically 14 days for new friends...some friends have a lot of leeway (2 years of friendship)
Yes I do keep non interactive people on my list within reason.
When you unfriend no notice is sent.

I keep people with similar values and motivations and interests as me...we all seem to be on each others friends list...

I don't keep people who under eat, log certain things as exercise, get snotty when I ask them about something they posted....etc. Oh and typically locked food diaries...I don't look but really if you want to be on my list and see my diary best be opening yours too.

try2again wrote: »

[*] If someone sends you a friend request, and you just don't think they're a good match for you, do you just hit "decline" or provide a reason? What, if anything, does the other person see if you decline?

I decline if I don't feel like adding them. No reason provided. They won't know.

[*] How long do you wait to unfriend inactive members?

Usually about a few months if they've interacted with me. About a month of inactivity - I'll leave them a note to see what's up, if they don't come back, they're deleted off my FL... or I'll unfriend in a few days of inactivity if they didn't even interact in the first place. No notice is given.

[*] If a person in your group of friends who is otherwise active doesn't interact with you in any way other than maybe hitting "like" on your posts, would you keep them on your list? Again, if you unfriend someone, would they be notified of this, or would your feed quietly slip off theirs?/list]

I like to "like" and comment on my friend's posts, I like that they do the same... If that never happens from their part, I just take them off, no notice. They won't notice I'm gone from their FL since they never interacted with me anyways. It's not like I'm offended or hurt or whatever, but what's the point of having people on my FL if we never interact in any way? I'm not a friend hoarder.