can a fat man get a girl friend

I was fat when I got my girlfriend (now wife). She supported me when I was fat, and supports me now, so yes. You don't need luck; you need confidence and self respect, and of course to meet the right person.

No Doubt Brother..

I know a lot of big guys with beautiful girls. It's just meeting them.

I agree, confidence is key! I've always liked my guys on the larger side...my husband is actually really skinny and it took me awhile to get used to lol...if ur a confident guy and know what u want that's what girls like, u will find the right girl

Sure, there are lots of fat women out there.

you know. From an artistic point of view, men such as are in magic mike are beautiful to look at. Artistically they are a lot of fun to draw or sculpt and I can appreciate them from that standpoint, but to be completely honest, I really prefer guys with a bit of padding to cuddle with. Too obsessive about their looks and so forth is a bit boring for me since it's not something I am into except for what I do here. I personally would prefer someone that treats me well and shares tons of interests with me. Confidence is, as others have said, a good indicator. A person HAS to be comfortable in their own skin. You have to feel you have a life and that you have value in yourself before you can really try sharing a life and yourself with someone else.

Honestly, it has little to do with physical physique.

I had very recently met a woman. She runs, she studied kinesiology, she plays basketball. She's very fit and is super cute.

Me? I've got no muscle, I've got a pretty large gut, I'm 6' and 240 lbs and I'm the polar opposite of "photogenic".

However, she's crazy about me. Why? Probably because of my personality and confidence. We've only been on a few dates so far, but we're like two peas in a pod.

What did I do to meet her? Nothing. I wasn't even looking. I had been single for 5+ years and very, very content with my single life. I just happened to be bored one day, hopped on a social networking site for the first time in 6 months, and she was the second woman I messaged.

My suggestion for you: Stop looking for love, you will not find it that way. Just focus on you. Do what you can to make your life better, make yourself better. Accept your single-ness and embrace it. You are free. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want and you never, ever have to think of how to incorporate someone else into your plans. your have financial freedom too. You want to blow your bonus on a motorcycle? Go for it. No one will say no.

Be yourself and do what you love. When the time is right, and when you least expect it, the right woman will simply fall into your lap.

Until you've mastered being yourself and being happy with your life, women won't find you so attractive. Confidence and happiness is key and if you go around looking for love (aka, happiness), women will see this and it will turn them away. When you are ready, and you may not even know when you are, then start talking to women, but don't talk to them in hopes of finding your soulmate. Just chat. Just be friendly. Have zero expectations.

When you meet the right woman, you will know in your head. You don't need your heart to tell you that.

chivalryder wrote: »

Honestly, it has little to do with physical physique.

I had very recently met a woman. She runs, she studied kinesiology, she plays basketball. She's very fit and is super cute.

Me? I've got no muscle, I've got a pretty large gut, I'm 6' and 240 lbs and I'm the polar opposite of "photogenic".

However, she's crazy about me. Why? Probably because of my personality and confidence. We've only been on a few dates so far, but we're like two peas in a pod.

What did I do to meet her? Nothing. I wasn't even looking. I had been single for 5+ years and very, very content with my single life. I just happened to be bored one day, hopped on a social networking site for the first time in 6 months, and she was the second woman I messaged.

My suggestion for you: Stop looking for love, you will not find it that way. Just focus on you. Do what you can to make your life better, make yourself better. Accept your single-ness and embrace it. You are free. You can do whatever you want, whenever you want and you never, ever have to think of how to incorporate someone else into your plans. your have financial freedom too. You want to blow your bonus on a motorcycle? Go for it. No one will say no.

Be yourself and do what you love. When the time is right, and when you least expect it, the right woman will simply fall into your lap.

Until you've mastered being yourself and being happy with your life, women won't find you so attractive. Confidence and happiness is key and if you go around looking for love (aka, happiness), women will see this and it will turn them away. When you are ready, and you may not even know when you are, then start talking to women, but don't talk to them in hopes of finding your soulmate. Just chat. Just be friendly. Have zero expectations.

When you meet the right woman, you will know in your head. You don't need your heart to tell you that.

They need a "like" button or something on here. This is pretty much what I was trying to say myself. Take care of you first. Make your life happy, make YOU happy. Make sure you are the person you want to be and are presenting that to the world. When you are ready the right woman will be attracted to you and you will know enough about yourself that you will be attracted to the right kind of woman. In the original post he did say "girlfriend" rather than hook-up so I really hope that is what he is looking for. So many young people seem fixated on the physical side of human interaction and there is sooooooooo much more of value to things than simply fitting body parts together.

Yes mate you will be fine. As many of the girls state in the Polls that are produced a good sense of humour seems to be top of the list of attraction and you only need to loose a bit of weight to fit into what has been described by the media as the Dad Bod range. Apparently this is like hitting the Jack pot for woman to find you attractive. The people have spoken, being slightly amusing and slightly out of shape means that men are at the peak of their attractive allure to the ladies. Who knew.

slideaway1 wrote: »

Yes mate you will be fine. As many of the girls state in the Polls that are produced a good sense of humour seems to be top of the list of attraction and you only need to loose a bit of weight to fit into what has been described by the media as the Dad Bod range. Apparently this is like hitting the Jack pot for woman to find you attractive. The people have spoken, being slightly amusing and slightly out of shape means that men are at the peak of their attractive allure to the ladies. Who knew.

I think Dad Bod is a conspiracy by pudgy male-run media outlets. I don't find chubby dudes completely unattractive and have definitely been involved with men who were out-of-shape, but that was because they had great personalities/senses of humor/other attractive qualities. And I hate Dad Bod because women are bombarded with images of super-fit women asking new moms "what's your excuse?" and men are getting this nonsense.

(I also find that the fitter I get, the more I appreciate a muscular man. I know how much work has gone into his appearance and it's a turn-on.)

But on topic: OP, if you aren't having luck, it's not the women. It's you. Either you're going for the wrong girls or you're doing something to turn off the women in your life. Do you have female friends who can give you honest feedback? It might be that you just haven't had a lot of confidence in your interactions with them, and that can sometimes read as "he's not flirting with me because he sees me as a buddy." There was a boy who hung around me all through middle school and high school and I didn't know he liked me. I thought we were friends. I never picked up on it until he told me via facebook years later. We're not that brilliant, okay?

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barbecuesauce wrote: »

slideaway1 wrote: »

Yes mate you will be fine. As many of the girls state in the Polls that are produced a good sense of humour seems to be top of the list of attraction and you only need to loose a bit of weight to fit into what has been described by the media as the Dad Bod range. Apparently this is like hitting the Jack pot for woman to find you attractive. The people have spoken, being slightly amusing and slightly out of shape means that men are at the peak of their attractive allure to the ladies. Who knew.

I think Dad Bod is a conspiracy by pudgy male-run media outlets. I don't find chubby dudes completely unattractive and have definitely been involved with men who were out-of-shape, but that was because they had great personalities/senses of humor/other attractive qualities. And I hate Dad Bod because women are bombarded with images of super-fit women asking new moms "what's your excuse?" and men are getting this nonsense.

(I also find that the fitter I get, the more I appreciate a muscular man. I know how much work has gone into his appearance and it's a turn-on.)

But on topic: OP, if you aren't having luck, it's not the women. It's you. Either you're going for the wrong girls or you're doing something to turn off the women in your life. Do you have female friends who can give you honest feedback? It might be that you just haven't had a lot of confidence in your interactions with them, and that can sometimes read as "he's not flirting with me because he sees me as a buddy." There was a boy who hung around me all through middle school and high school and I didn't know he liked me. I thought we were friends. I never picked up on it until he told me via facebook years later. We're not that brilliant, okay?

I agree, I was slightly joking/being sarcastic about how every poll/research into woman's attraction seems to always have the same clichéd answers. Good sense of humour, confident (but not arrogant), normal body (working out means he's vein, but being fat means he's lazy etc), but the reality of the world is totally different. Nobody seems to mention looks, money, power etc as driving forces behind attraction because it does not reflect well on the person to find such "shallow" qualities desirable.

Yes, a fat man can get a girlfriend. It's all about personality, confidence and a sense of humour. Personally, I could not care less if a man has a six pack. I am more interested in whether he is brave, clever, funny, adaptable, hard working. Good luck and do not settle for any less than you deserve. You get back what you give out, so work on yourself

jorinya wrote: »

Remember the Nutty Professor? He got the girl in the end. It can happen for you. Personally I don't like really thin men because I feel they can't protect me. My husband wasn't too thin or too fat when I met him and now he got himself a tummy but he still looks like he can protect me. Big men have big personalities and an even bigger sense of humour. Good luck.

Brilliant.