wife and pregnancy

First of all, congratulations. Second, this is like walking into a minefield; however, I would approach it from the angle of having a healthy pregnancy, a good labor and delivery, and a healthy baby. When you're pregnant you need to be extra diligent about getting the proper nutrients. Giving into cravings once in awhile is fine, but pregnant women still have to eat good foods.

If an appeal to health doesn't seem like a good idea, or it goes over like a turd in a punch bowl, do you like to cook? If you enjoy cooking, prepare your own meals and let her cook one of her rich meals once a week for you to enjoy. Her derailing can't be an excuse for you to lose focus. You are your own person still, so if she isn't in a mental place where she wishes to take be mindful of what she's eating then you can only do you and do the best you can.

jemhh wrote: »

There's no reason, no reason whatsoever that you cannot lose weight and keep it off while your wife eats whatever. My husband has not changed his diet at all and I have lost plenty of weight. As I'm pulling a roast out of the oven, he will stand there and say "that looks good. After [daughter] goes to bed I'm getting Little Caesar's/making cheesesticks/going to McDonald's." I just say "okay", we eat our dinner, get our kid to bed, and off he goes for his other food. Does not affect my weight loss or maintenance at all.

You're my hero. My husband has not altered his eating habits at all either, so I just prepare my food and he can choose to eat it or fix himself something else. I asked him point blank, "don't you care about your health?" He said, "eh, not really". So now every time he comes into the kitchen and I'm making something healthy and he says, "ahhhhh that looks good, can I have some?" my stock reply is, "nope. You don't care about health, remember?" LOL

You can only control you, independent of wife's pregnancy. You can control the portions you eat, and you don't have to eat every time she does, either. For example, if there is too much dinner being offered, take half of it and put it in a container and have it for lunch the next day. This saves money, time and calories since you don't need to buy lunch, don't need to make lunch and you cut the calories you would have consumed at dinner.

As the baby grows it takes up more and more space in your wife's abdomen, so it's very common for pregnant women to just endlessly graze because their stomach is being smooshed down to a smaller size by the growing child. Add in the additional caloric requirements, hormones going all which way, not able to sleep well, heartburn, gas, etc and you have a human being who is really dealing with quite a lot. Not to mentioned unsolicited advice from anyone and everyone, plus people wanting to touch her belly (sometimes without asking) on a regular basis. She's probably also nervous/terrified since this is her first child.

For the first three months after the kid shows up you and your wife are going to be finding out a new definition of terrified and exhausted, it's probably not a great time to suggest a new diet strategy, then, either. Once you get a rhythm established with the baby, it's possible to get back into exercise and better eating.