Seeking: Someone who will tell it like it is
srazamora
Posts: 4,523 Member
I don't need a fitness pal who will just give me a "Like" when they see I've checked in a couple days in a row. I need someone who crosses the line if necessary, who asks the tough questions like "Why exactly did you think it was okay to eat cake for breakfast?" or "Do you think by not logging your foods, you won't get any of their calories?"; and picks apart my eating and nutrition habits. I need you to tell me the truth, ESPECIALLY when I don't want to hear it.
And I want to be that person for you!
Let's quit making excuses and start keeping each other accountable!
Who's with me??
And I want to be that person for you!
Let's quit making excuses and start keeping each other accountable!
Who's with me??
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lol! I don't know if I can be that person, but I admire your guts!0
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bhahahaha!0
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Not YET, anyway!!
Also, a sense of humor is required for this fitness pal position! 0 -
Sounds like what I'm looking for too !!!0
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Why do you need such tactics?0
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That was funny. feel free to look at my profile. If it is for you, then friend me. I myself, am easy going.0
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i can be brutally honest.0
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I love this idea! I have the craziest weight fluctuations, i lost 50 gained 20 and now im ready to kick my *kitten* back into gear and be the me i want to be! I would love to be that reinforcer for you! And you for me! Wanna kill it together!?!?
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Um, yes please! I would love a friend who actually looks at what I log (or don't log) and says something about it instead of just liking my updates! I can commit to checking in on you at least once a day, and I would love it if you'd do the same.0
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Social support is great, but remember that just having people pester you is not going to solve the underlying problems. If you're making bad eating choices (cake for breakfast, for example) the important thing is to understand why you're doing that and address it. Maybe you're starving yourself and it's leading to cravings/binging. Or maybe you have some emotional eating issues you need to work on. Or maybe you just need to be more organized with meal planning, learn to cook healthy foods, and make sure a sensible choice is always conveniently available.
The "boot camp/iron willpower/no mercy" approach works for a while, but I've never met anyone who can sustain it forever. If you don't solve the underlying problems, you'll just regain the weight as soon as nobody is yelling at you about it. The people who succeed in weight loss (and maintenance) are the ones who find ways to make it sustainable and enjoyable.0 -
Social support is great, but remember that just having people pester you is not going to solve the underlying problems. If you're making bad eating choices (cake for breakfast, for example) the important thing is to understand why you're doing that and address it. Maybe you're starving yourself and it's leading to cravings/binging. Or maybe you have some emotional eating issues you need to work on. Or maybe you just need to be more organized with meal planning, learn to cook healthy foods, and make sure a sensible choice is always conveniently available.
The "boot camp/iron willpower/no mercy" approach works for a while, but I've never met anyone who can sustain it forever. If you don't solve the underlying problems, you'll just regain the weight as soon as nobody is yelling at you about it. The people who succeed in weight loss (and maintenance) are the ones who find ways to make it sustainable and enjoyable.
I appreciate you "telling me like it is"! I understand where you're coming from. I still see value in being pestered though-- in the way that it would cause me to answer for my actions and bring some of those underlying problems to light. i.e. "I didn't care if it was okay to eat cake. I didn't come to work prepared today because I spent all night in the MFP thread "Can you keep it going asking ONLY QUESTIONS?" and apparently someone had a birthday yesterday so it must be fate they left it here for me to eat for breakfast."
In forcing myself to answer those questions, I can deduce that I need to devote time to meal preparation! See what I mean??0 -
I'm happy to join!
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idk, whats wrong with cake for breakfast?0
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I'll join you on your journey, if only so that we can laugh at what each other had for breakfast (PS, coffee has no calories if you drink it black).0
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I would really welcome some friends like this!! I have a bad habit of not logging my dinner or closing out my day. I am dedicated to working out and go almost everyday...but having some real fitness accountability friends would be great!0
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Homer: From now on, I'm gonna be just like Krusty and tell it like it is. Marge, you're getting a little fat around the old thighs!
Bart: Dad!
Homer: You too, Bart!
Marge: Oh, knock it off, Homer, you're the fattest one in the car!
Homer: [shocked, hurt] You didn't have to tell it like it is, Marge!
- "The Last Temptation of Krust", 5F100 -
Lolz.0
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I can be pretty tough if I see one of my "friends" is floundering or making bad choices or not logging.
But cake for breakfast? If it fits your calorie goals and you properly weighed and logged it, then I see no problem. After all cake is the perfect food. It has milk and eggs and flour and sugar. That's all of the food groups right there.
I will say that the way the feed is set up it is rather time consuming and cumbersome to keep up with everyone so I might not open someone's diary every day. But I do try to check in occasionally and read posts and will comment some.0 -
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yopeeps025 wrote: »Why do you need such tactics?
Could this be a hint to another lovely thread I'm participating in consisting of solely questions?? Or are you just really curious? Lol
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I can always use a good laugh and kick in the butt, add me!
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I would probably delete a friend if they asked me why it was okay that I had cake for breakfast.0
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Im awesome at that stuff, but the problem with these things is people lose interest or they start asking for direct advice, then get upset when they get it as you are being too direct and mean. Ive seen it end in tears a lot of times. It can also be seen as interfering or just rude to even comment on what soemone else is doing, some people are hyper touchy and sensitive. Hence it just being a pain.
Be clear in what you want before you take people on.
Id suggest you can do yourself a favour by understanding how weight loss works, then putting some effort into organising a plan you can follow and lets you have a consistent deficit.0 -
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asflatasapancake wrote: »Seems a bit too brutal for me. I'm a sensitive soul.
lol agreed!
Plus, it would be hard to remember who you need to be tough with if you have a lot of friends here. And I know I'm not eating my best right now so already saved you some time I am pretty accountable since I have 900+ day streak.
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Sensitive soul who doesn't eat cake for breakfast? Is that an accurate description on you?asflatasapancake wrote: »Seems a bit too brutal for me. I'm a sensitive soul.
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