I have a deadline for getting my BED under control. Help?

Have you been getting help with the ED? Are you seeing a counselor? You need to figure out why you are binging, and also what triggers it.

You need to work with a specialist. Counselour, therapist, psychiatrist, whatever it is called where you live. Good luck.

Get professional help.

It's a mental issue that needs to be addressed. To not get treatment is similar to having a broken arm and hope it goes away instead of going to the hospital - that will not work. I think the best success rate for this was having a "team" of people - psychiatrist, nutritionist, ED specialist, etc. working together with you. It's not a will power issue but a mental health issue that surfaces through BED - go get the help you need.

""While there are many things you can do to help yourself stop binge eating, it’s also important to seek professional support and treatment. Health professionals who offer treatment for binge eating disorder include psychiatrists, nutritionists, therapists, and eating disorder and obesity specialists.

An effective treatment program for binge eating disorder should address more than just your symptoms and destructive eating habits. It should also address the root causes of the problem—the emotional triggers that lead to binge eating and your difficulty coping with stress, anxiety, fear, sadness, and other uncomfortable emotions.

If obesity is endangering your health, weight loss may also be an important goal. However, dieting can contribute to binge eating, so any weight loss efforts should be carefully monitored by a professional."

Definitely see a counselor. Their are therapeutic interventions and medicine options that may help. In the meantime, why not focus on self help and exercise? If you're going to New York their will be A LOT of walking, so start walking now! Even if you're overweight you can still increase your endurance and hopefully keep up with your friend. It would be a shame to miss out on Central Park or sightseeing bc you can't walk that far.

A big part of BED is the perfectionist attitude you expressed in your post. Stop focusing on weight loss or what your friend will think. She's your friend, she does not care if you are fat.

Get moving to improve your quality of life and to enjoy your vacation. Get professional help and be proactive in your care. Learn how to relax and focus on all the fun you will have. Maybe read some nutrition books and books on anxiety. Small steps

Read the book, Brain over Binge and learn to meditate. There are awesome guided meditations on youtube to teach you how to get into it. Find new hobbies that busy your hands that aren't food related that you can do when the urge comes, like sewing, knitting, crafting, etc. Find a community. Don't suffer alone. It's time to pick up, forgive yourself and move on to become YOUR greater vision of you. Realize that you help yourself by helping others too. You can do this.

Your weight, your eating disorder, don't know what a calendar is. It does not understand the artificial guidelines that you set for yourself. They don't know who your friend is, what America is, and why you need to do this thing by that date. They know none of that.

You cannot lose weight for your friend, you cannot control your ED for external reasons. It needs to come from inside of you.

You're young, you're beautiful, you're worth taking care of.

JoKessho wrote: »

See if you can get your hands on a book called "Brain over binge" by Kathryn Hansen. It's great! She also has a blog: http://brainoverbinge.com/
Also, check out http://www.bulimiahelp.org/posts/ The main focus is bulimia, but there's an aspect of binge-eating, too.

I also suffered from binge-eating and I've recovered now. I also keep myself busy by colouring (I bought a childer's colouring book and work on that so that I don't boredom-eat).

Feel free to PM and friend me, if you need more help/tips.

Edit: Do not set a deadline for yourself.

I have brain over binge, good book! Distractions are key when trying to overcome binge eating. It's important to have a routine as well. Plan set meal times and do NOT eat outside of those times. I know this is WAY easier said than done. Keep telling yourself "I can have that later, I just ate X hours ago. My next meal is at X, I can have what i'm craving (in moderation) then." Eating slow, drinking between bites, chewing well are all important. Try to make each meal last 20 minutes. It helps me to sit at the table for a little after so i don't get up and eat more. put away leftover as soon as you feel it's safe (aka your not going to binge on them).

Hot tea at night helps me with night eating (something I'm currently working on). If you "mess up" Don't throw the day away and binge. Stop, assess where you are at and move on. Do NOT punish yourself with Purging, Over Exercising or restricting. Self hate talk is NOT ok. We all make mistakes and you will mess up multiple times. Get up and try again. It's not over till you stop trying.