Living with Discipline and apparently annoying everyone else

Pats on the back for you guys!! UGH My hubby dosent like that I have given up processed foods and basically breads and grains LOL I made tacos last night for dinner and use cabbage leaves instead of the taco shells and he didnt even try it.
I told him I wasnt gonna buy, cereals, tortillas, breads of any kind any more and he was like 'wtf am I supposed to eat then' I totally laughed because there are plenty of other foods out there to eat!!

STAY STRONG!!

Don't let them get to you, you're doing great!

Sometimes I feel like this sort of judgement comes from people who aren't ready to face their own health and fitness issues. Everyone knows that a big mac and fries isn't healthy, but it's a part of reality for most people. It's so hard to be happy and supportive for someone when we're not ready to own up to our own status. Congrats for making a healthy change, and as long as you're being smart with your choices, and doing good for your body, then don't worry about everyone else!

There are a lot of foods that I love I refuse to keep in the house. Now on the other hand I have a junk food junkie husband and has to keep sweets, chips, soda all the bad stuff. My biggest problem is the sweets. He even will bring me some knowing I am trying to stay away..... ugh!

What about your discipline is frustrating them? Are you making negative comments about the food they're eating or their portion sizes? Are you talking a lot about your special diet and the things you will/won't eat when no one has asked about it? Are you asking people to change plans to accommodate you? Do you go to restaurants/family dinners and say, exasperated "There's *nothing* I can eat here!"?

I used to follow a really, really strict diet, and I know I drove everyone I know crazy with all my needs and requirements. I was a real pain in the butt - I admit it!

If you're not doing any of the above things, then I would guess people might just be jealous. When they see your success, it might make them think of their failures. Their behavior might just be a defense mechanism.

My husband and I have given up soda, most fast food, and have replaced all our "side-dishes" with fruit/vegetables. We feel so much better and have more energy!! I think when people respond negatively to your new goals, it is probably just because they feel challenged to do the same- and that feeling isn't a good one when they aren't ready to change their own lifestyle- when they just aren't " in that place"- . Just be as subtle as you can about the good choices you're making for yourself and try to show your friends that you support them- regardless their choices. My family started making diet changes about a year ago, and I've gotta say... I felt threatened. I wasn't ready, and every time they "preached" to me about healthy eating habits, it would just piss me off and alienate them from me. But, eventually, when I was ready, and they quit pushing me, I began to enjoy the positive peer pressure... and now family gatherings are not stressful, because I know there will be healthy options! Hang in there with your friends!! We all need each other.

I understand where you're coming from.

3 years ago I was overweight, drunk all the time, a pack a day smoker and a fast food junkie. I met my husband around this time and despite being the heaviest I'd ever been in all my life, he fell in love with me. I quite smoking cold turkey. I decided to try to start exercising more. I gave up some fast food, but not really for good and I definitely didn't get strict with myself until this past year. I keep everything in moderation. I rarely drink. I'll have a couple of glasses of wine with dinner once a month or less. I am running in races, and taking karate and participating in volleyball at work. I made a promise to myself to keep moving no matter what and I'm sticking to it.

I've lost 60 lbs over that time and I really am proud of myself. I'm always looking for ways to improve just like you said. I don't think I'm better than anyone.

I work in a gov't office. Almost 80% of my co-workers are overweight and eat like they don't care. I want to be a positive influence on them. I want to be the person who inspires someone to get off of their butt and go for a walk at lunch. I get the feeling, however, that I'm having the opposite effect. I get negative comments from some people. I get scolded like a child because some of the women in my office think that I don't eat enough. I eat plenty. They don't buy it. I bring salmon, brown rice and asparagus to work for lunch and they turn up their noses and call it "that healthy stuff". It's FOOD. What is the problem here? Why can't people see it as inspiration to also be healthier. Why is being healthy so threatening to people who aren't healthy?

It's so weird. It's frustrating. I want to help others gain fitness and health, but my enthousiasm comes across as preachy or just a crazy obsessed person trying to push her healthy food on others. I don't get it. I'm not forcing anyone to do what I do. I have my days when a burger is the only thing that will hit the spot.. the other days, I stick to lean protein and fish and veggies and fruits. It's not rocket science.


ps. I was a vegetarian for about 2 years right after college and my parents never once tried to cook a vegetarian meal for me. They would cook a normal meal and I'd have to eat the sides. Holidays were a disaster. Everything would somehow have meat in it. I think sometimes people don't realize how much something means to you because they aren't going through the same thing. To them, eating healthily is a choice you've made and they don't understand why you won't eat fast food "just this once since we're on vacation" because they themselves don't see the problem with the food in the first place. They think you're trying to be difficult instead of seeing it as a positive life change for you. I wish I could tell you that it gets easier, but I haven't seen any evidence to support that.

My mother has a vendetta against anything that I cook. I love cooking healthy, but admittedly it takes some practice to properly modify recipes so they're healthy and tasty. So there have been some duds, but mostly successes.

Well, I made some modified oatmeal raisin cookies recently using brown sugar substitute, soymilk, olive oil butter, applesauce, bananas, whole wheat pastry flour, and a touch of wheat bran. I loved the dough, but wanted a second opinion. I asked my mom to try some, and she made a face and told me it was awful... then proceeded to tell me to use 'butter, eggs, and sugar' next time. This is a woman who will nix the salt and trade butter for margerine in a pastry recipe and proceed to brag about how healthy she's being! :explode:

Well, I was so disheartened that I didn't bake the dough... just stuck it in the fridge. My brother and dad came upstairs later, tried it, and finished the whole thing! Then dad (who hates healthy subs on principle) told me it was the best dough he'd ever eaten. I didn't tell him that I'd altered the recipe at all, and he loved it!

Moral of the story: haters be hatin'.:drinker:

My immediate family and friends generally share my beliefs on fast food Meaning...avoid fast food whenever possible. Although, as my parents are getting older I get those phone calls describing perky medical problems and I get the occasional "Your father and I decided to eat at McDonald's the other night and rushed home to use the bathroom....worse than a colonoscopy!" drops in conversations.

Most fast food doesn't go well when you have IBD or food intolerances. Y'know, then you really will be running to the bathroom. I had major issues as a kid and teen eating that stuff and never put two and two together until later in college that I had digestive problems.

So yeah, in a weird way I'm lucky...save for the TMI phone calls, maybe.

Though, I'm not gonna lie, if I'm out on the road driving and need a pit stop, McD's has great bathrooms.

I can so relate to this. My co-workers are always inspecting my meals I bring, which is always lean, healthy and alot of veggies and of course I can tell you how much calories each item has. They get upset when they order out and I say no thank you! Or I won't eat that cake that was brought in, I always hear "How can you stand to eat like that. are you ever going to stop your diet" I smile, tell them no its not a diet its my new lifestyle......which I have been doing since Oct 2009. I can tell you I cook two separate meals because my husband and kids will not eat like me, which is ok. So good luck to you and your husband and continue on with your healthy eating habits. :bigsmile: