'coming out' on weight....actual weight and photo's....admitting this is how big I've become

tanny684
tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
edited November 20 in Introduce Yourself
Hi everyone :)
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I'm Tanya. I've been on MFP while but never introduced myself or was active on the boards. I've usually lied about my weight and not let anyone see photo's of me in order to hide to others (and more importantly, myself) that i have a real weight issue. So this is me, coming out! Facing my issue and also declaring it to the world. This is me now.

I'm 5ft 7 and a whopping 220lbs. I hope to lose between 60-80lbs.

Hopefully soon i will be posting new pics of me.....with much less of me!

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  • Deannjay
    Deannjay Posts: 19 Member
    Good for you. I find that it's so freeing to just own your weight. But girl you dont even look 220. You're proportioned well and have a really nice shape and curves. Good luck to you on your journey to become fit. You can do this!
  • peaceout_aly
    peaceout_aly Posts: 2,018 Member
    You seriously look incredible
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    Deannjay wrote: »
    Good for you. I find that it's so freeing to just own your weight. But girl you dont even look 220. You're proportioned well and have a really nice shape and curves. Good luck to you on your journey to become fit. You can do this!

    Thankyou so much, that is so nice of you. I was actually really embarassed about the first pic because you can see how big my belly is but admitting it is the first step to seeing I have w problem and fixing it. Thanks again :)
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    alykief wrote: »
    You seriously look incredible

    Thankyou, thats really nice of you to say
  • DawnieB1977
    DawnieB1977 Posts: 4,248 Member
    I can't believe you're 220! You look great. I was 220 after my 2nd baby and looked like a whale.

    I'm sure you will lose those lbs and look even more amazing!
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
    edited June 2015
    Good luck with your goals!

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  • KCMission
    KCMission Posts: 43 Member
    ^^^^ this
  • arditarose
    arditarose Posts: 15,573 Member
    edited June 2015
    I'm sure your coming out will be appreciated by many
  • Jennloella
    Jennloella Posts: 2,286 Member
    edited June 2015
    TheVirgoddess wrote: »
    Good luck with your goals!

    This. And yes, good luck.

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  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    edited June 2015
    TheVirgoddess wrote: »
    Good luck with your goals!


    It's difficult to explain why I decided to post this, but for example I don't have facebook because I won't post photo's of myself anywhere (and people wouldn't inevitably ask for them). I usually get palpitations when thinking that people may have taken a photo of me when I'm out etc and I thought about it and realised the reason why is because seeing myself in a photo is seeing my size in reality. I do not look like I do in photo's in my head. In my head I'm still the same size I was a few years ago, and the rare photos I do
    Show to people are face only and never full body shots. So this is my way of admitting to the world I am very overweight.....and to myself. Realising and accepting it I feel will give me the motivation to stop eating muffins when I visualise what I actually look like in reality. As I said hard to understand without knowing me but that's it in a nutshell.

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  • LLduds
    LLduds Posts: 258 Member
    edited June 2015

    Best of luck with your health and fitness goals :)

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  • zyxst
    zyxst Posts: 9,149 Member
    I will wish OP best of luck and not post childish gifs.
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  • bbontheb
    bbontheb Posts: 718 Member
    So, I don't think you need to lose any weight. I think you look gorgeous how you are. I look more like a potato so you are lucky to show off your curves!
  • MB_Positif
    MB_Positif Posts: 8,897 Member
    You are stunning and are going to be a knockout when you get to your goal weight!
  • bcschulz
    bcschulz Posts: 95 Member
    Log everything in MFP and stick to your diet. You can reach your goal.
  • Foxxy18
    Foxxy18 Posts: 119 Member
    Holy wow!! You look fantastic!! Wish I carried my weight that well, but I guess that's why I'm here haha
  • moonstonemel
    moonstonemel Posts: 4 Member
    Hi! I just started on here and I weigh 220 also. I'm only 5'5" though, so look fatter than you. You look great to me. I am trying to lose 80 pounds also. Id love some support as I have none in my "real life".
  • karibeargirl
    karibeargirl Posts: 249 Member
    edited June 2015
    billieljaime wrote: »
    ok you are 220

    and yes you need to lose a few

    aside from that dont be ashamed

    you are a very gorgeaous young lady and you dress to your size and have nice taste in clothes.

    FYI you are gorgeous.

    Work on your confidence as part of this journey too.

    Totes agree!
    Confidence is what makes a woman Sexy!!

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  • MelodyandBarbells
    MelodyandBarbells Posts: 7,724 Member
    Sass-ay!! That's what I thought when I saw pic 1 hehe. Good luck on all your goals!
  • Ellicustompumpkin
    Ellicustompumpkin Posts: 6 Member
    edited June 2015
    You gotta do what makes you happy! Only you can make yourself happy, no one else! B)<3

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  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    moonstonemel wrote: »
    Hi! I just started on here and I weigh 220 also. I'm only 5'5" though, so look fatter than you. You look great to me. I am trying to lose 80 pounds also. Id love some support as I have none in my "real life".

    Added you as a friend :)
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    I'm on my way to work so apologise for not replying to all posts personally. I wanted to write however to thank everyone that has posted for all the really kind messages. You guys will never know how much you've helped me.

    I have body dysmorphic disorder and the weight photo issue was not just an avoidance of posting; it was an actual panic attack inducing make me sick to my stomach type feeling. In the mirror I see a monster and I thought posting would help me to face up to being that monster.....that maybe feeling bad would spur me into action re.weight loss. It has had the opposite effect. People being so kind has boosted my confidence; but although I feel good I still want to make healthier choices to not punish myself. I'm a Registered Nurse and usually skip breakfast and lunch and just eat cookies and candy from the break room because other people are my priority. But today I made my lunch at home and promised to eat it....because I have gained from this that maybe I'm not that bad after all. I didn't expect it to be so helpful so again, thank you guys.
  • Sho0gy_D
    Sho0gy_D Posts: 108 Member
    You look great, but you can reach your goal if you commit to it (unlike your ex) he's a jerk. haha sorry!
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    Sho0gy_D wrote: »
    You look great, but you can reach your goal if you commit to it (unlike your ex) he's a jerk. haha sorry!

    Haha, thanks....my goal is to lose weight see him and say this is what you COULD have had....
  • Sho0gy_D
    Sho0gy_D Posts: 108 Member
    Haha that would be awesome
  • SSeitz775
    SSeitz775 Posts: 39 Member
    Girl, You look great and you definitely don't look like 220! Good luck on your journey!
  • truelight_photo_craig
    truelight_photo_craig Posts: 347 Member
    tanny684 wrote: »
    I'm on my way to work so apologise for not replying to all posts personally. I wanted to write however to thank everyone that has posted for all the really kind messages. You guys will never know how much you've helped me.

    I have body dysmorphic disorder and the weight photo issue was not just an avoidance of posting; it was an actual panic attack inducing make me sick to my stomach type feeling. In the mirror I see a monster and I thought posting would help me to face up to being that monster.....that maybe feeling bad would spur me into action re.weight loss. It has had the opposite effect. People being so kind has boosted my confidence; but although I feel good I still want to make healthier choices to not punish myself. I'm a Registered Nurse and usually skip breakfast and lunch and just eat cookies and candy from the break room because other people are my priority. But today I made my lunch at home and promised to eat it....because I have gained from this that maybe I'm not that bad after all. I didn't expect it to be so helpful so again, thank you guys.

    There you go!!! Believe in yourself and you'll be unstoppable!



  • sopia717
    sopia717 Posts: 10 Member
    You Seriously Look Incredible..... <3
  • yellowantphil
    yellowantphil Posts: 787 Member
    tanny684 wrote: »
    I have body dysmorphic disorder and the weight photo issue was not just an avoidance of posting; it was an actual panic attack inducing make me sick to my stomach type feeling. In the mirror I see a monster

    I don’t know what that’s like, so if this advice doesn’t help, just ignore it. :)

    Like everyone else has been saying, you look great already. If you lose some weight, I bet you’ll look incredible.

    Strictly based on your current weight and height, you’re right that losing 60–80 lbs would be a good idea. Maybe less than that, if you gain some muscle mass. But I would suggest losing weight because you want to be healthy and look even better than you do now, not because you are some sort of “monster” when that obviously is not true.

    And if at all possible, try not to be too down on yourself. Some women are never content with their appearance no matter what they weigh. What if you lose 80 lbs and you still have this idea that you’re a monster? That isn’t true now and it won’t be true later. With your body dysmorphic disorder, maybe being happy about your appearance is easier said than done, but let me assure you that you have nothing to worry about.
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