'coming out' on weight....actual weight and photo's....admitting this is how big I've become

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  • sunnydays851
    sunnydays851 Posts: 116 Member
    Deannjay wrote: »
    Good for you. I find that it's so freeing to just own your weight. But girl you dont even look 220. You're proportioned well and have a really nice shape and curves. Good luck to you on your journey to become fit. You can do this!

    This. You are seriously gorgeous! Don't even THINK about being ashamed! You would be beautiful at any weight! :-)
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    yellowantphil wrote: »
    tanny684 wrote: »
    I have body dysmorphic disorder and the weight photo issue was not just an avoidance of posting; it was an actual panic attack inducing make me sick to my stomach type feeling. In the mirror I see a monster

    I don’t know what that’s like, so if this advice doesn’t help, just ignore it. :)

    Like everyone else has been saying, you look great already. If you lose some weight, I bet you’ll look incredible.

    Strictly based on your current weight and height, you’re right that losing 60–80 lbs would be a good idea. Maybe less than that, if you gain some muscle mass. But I would suggest losing weight because you want to be healthy and look even better than you do now, not because you are some sort of “monster” when that obviously is not true.

    And if at all possible, try not to be too down on yourself. Some women are never content with their appearance no matter what they weigh. What if you lose 80 lbs and you still have this idea that you’re a monster? That isn’t true now and it won’t be true later. With your body dysmorphic disorder, maybe being happy about your appearance is easier said than done, but let me assure you that you have nothing to worry about.

    Thankyou.....that really made me think and will def keep that in mind. I think alongside the diet maybe therapy wouldn't be a bad idea. Just hope the process doesnt make me eat beef. Thankyou and good luck with your journey.
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    sunnydays851 wrote: »
    Deannjay wrote: »
    Good for you. I find that it's so freeing to just own your weight. But girl you dont even look 220. You're proportioned well and have a really nice shape and curves. Good luck to you on your journey to become fit. You can do this!

    This. You are seriously gorgeous! Don't even THINK about being ashamed! You would be beautiful at any weight! :-)
    Thankyou x
  • cdb604
    cdb604 Posts: 81 Member
    You look great
  • Looser47
    Looser47 Posts: 14 Member
    edited June 2015
    Wow I think you look bloody amazing you have curves in all the right places. You look in proportion and your a beautiful looking lady. You don't look to overweight to me!! Not sure about the boob pic's though? I think showing you're face would be more appropriate so we know who we're looking at. Best of luck with your weight loss journey
  • alysskea
    alysskea Posts: 1 Member
    Omg- you're drop dead gorgeous!!! I mean it!
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    Looser47 wrote: »
    Wow I think you look bloody amazing you have curves in all the right places. You look in proportion and your a beautiful looking lady. You don't look to overweight to me!! Not sure about the boob pic's though? I think showing you're face would be more appropriate so we know who we're looking at. Best of luck with your weight loss journey

    Don't tend to take whole pics if that makes sense because of how I am. Tend to take ones like this as in neck and above or below I know I'm weird lol. cdxfjc7bb3yz.jpg
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    tanny684 wrote: »
    Looser47 wrote: »
    Wow I think you look bloody amazing you have curves in all the right places. You look in proportion and your a beautiful looking lady. You don't look to overweight to me!! Not sure about the boob pic's though? I think showing you're face would be more appropriate so we know who we're looking at. Best of luck with your weight loss journey

    Don't tend to take whole pics if that makes sense because of how I am. Tend to take ones like this as in neck and above or below I know I'm weird lol. cdxfjc7bb3yz.jpg

    That's what I mean though when I say what I'd usually let the world see. In that kind of photo there is no clue that I'm overweight. So it's easier to hide to others and to myself. Forcing myself to post a body pic was like forcing myself to admit I am overweight. And the problem needs to be understood before it can be worked upon and changed....or at least that's my theory :p
  • RyuJinUK
    RyuJinUK Posts: 4 Member
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  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    RyuJinUK wrote: »
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    I don't know if this posted before so apologies if im posting twice!

    Is that your coming out photo? If so congrats although you don't even look overweight :)
  • Goooosfraba333
    Goooosfraba333 Posts: 51 Member
    Holy crap you're smokin'! Seriously, those curves...I'm a little jealous! But I know the feeling....I also want to lose about 60 pounds and can understand the anxiety that can come from BDD. I sometimes cant leave the house unless my clothes are baggy enough to hide everything.
  • susanJ1966
    susanJ1966 Posts: 6 Member
    Are you sure your scales are accurate? I'm 184lbs, same height and I am waaaay bigger than you.

    I wish all the jealous people would stop hating on OP's choice of/reasons for body photos. Sadly a lot of young people don't know how beautiful they are. I speak as a mum of teenage girls.
  • tanny684
    tanny684 Posts: 196 Member
    susanJ1966 wrote: »
    Are you sure your scales are accurate? I'm 184lbs, same height and I am waaaay bigger than you.

    I wish all the jealous people would stop hating on OP's choice of/reasons for body photos. Sadly a lot of young people don't know how beautiful they are. I speak as a mum of teenage girls.

    I'm actually bigger than 220lbs, I'm 222.....hehe my maths is bad. Thanks for your post. Ironically, my breasts are the cause of my weight gain. They were the same size when I was slim and 154lbs, and the attention I got was too much for me. I stopped leaving the house and started eating. I've always felt ridiculed and ashamed of my breasts. But they are real and part of me and made up of fat same as the fat on my thighs or my backside. I can't imagine people saying ''thinly veiled thigh shot''. It's not my fault I have a huge bust and I don't feel I should be ashamed of that. I can change my size but I can't change my shape....fat or thin I have always been curvy with very large breasts.

    It happens in real life also. This strange aggressive response to my breasts. I do wonder why they provoke such a reaction? I hand on heart honestly could not care what people dress like or how big their boobs/any other part of their body is. Frankly it's none of my business. I hope people realise before they comment however that your judgement does affect people. I spent years of my life afraid to leave the house because of comments and stares. I'm in my 30's and wasted my entire youth on being ashamed of a body shape I can't change even if I tried. It's a shame a lot of younger girls may have to go through what I did.
  • J383
    J383 Posts: 4,574 Member
    You are beautiful! Take it one day at a time with working on yourself. Do it for you and no one else. Little habit changes go a long way. At least it has in the past for me. Good luck on your journey, you got this!
  • kastephens11
    kastephens11 Posts: 57 Member
    I had the same mind set as you. I didn't believe how big I was truly getting. I had a different image in my mind and would ignore the proof in pictures that I was getting bigger. But now I came to terms that I need to drop this weight. I jumped to a whopping 245, but at 5'8' the weight was a little easier to hide. I'm looking to lose 100lbs now. I got a long journey ahead of me, but I'm ready for it! Good luck! :smile:
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