Don't hate me because I am BEAUTIFUL

bloodyhonest
bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
edited November 20 in Chit-Chat

So the other day I was in a line up to get some treats, and I notice a work colleague of mine roll her eyes and say "bimbo" to her friend and they both laughed and agreed. I had a feeling that she was referring to a really pretty girl that was laughing with a bunch of guys. To confirm my suspicions, I had asked them who they were talking about and one of them pointed her out. They waited for me to say something negative, but instead I said, wow she is really pretty. The girls didn't like my response at all. I asked them if they knew the girl to see if they had any reason to brand her a bimbo, but they both said no.

This got me thinking...How often does this occur for Beautiful people? How often do they face negative interactions with haters? I know people can be jealous about anything and they can treat one another horribly for just about any reason, but I think it is overlooked when it is against beautiful people...it's like we think they are strong enough to take it or something.. ?

Anyways, my question is for the beautiful people or people who have witnessed this type of behavior, do you find that you/they get a lot of hate because of your/their beauty and do you/they have to act a certain way to avoid this type of behavior from certain girls?


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  • yopeeps025
    yopeeps025 Posts: 8,680 Member
    I think this is a problem that some women see and encounter more than men do.
  • suzreen
    suzreen Posts: 2,455 Member
    Good post! We could use more kindness, couldn't we?

    I think we all judge each other and make assumptions based on appearance. Sometimes that's all we have to go on, and we do it automatically, but it is unfortunate. I wouldn't class myself as beautiful, but I try to look nice and have makeup on, etc, and I think people do sometimes make a judgement about that -- they decide that you are superficial and possibly stupid, among other things. Even though I also make judgements about how someone might be/behave/believe, etc based on appearance, I have learned it's best to be open minded and form an opinion about someone based on action/truth and not appearance.
  • AJ_G
    AJ_G Posts: 4,158 Member
    Bimbo? What year is it?
  • _incogNEATo_
    _incogNEATo_ Posts: 4,537 Member
    AJ_G wrote: »
    Bimbo? What year is it?

    My thoughts exactly!

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  • big2strongCO
    big2strongCO Posts: 41 Member
    http://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6

    Any negative interactions are grossly outweighed by the advantages beautiful people have.
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  • 999tigger
    999tigger Posts: 5,235 Member
    big2strongCO wrote: »
    http://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6

    Any negative interactions are grossly outweighed by the advantages beautiful people have.

    I would go with this.
  • salembambi
    salembambi Posts: 5,585 Member
    everyone judges everyone on appearance to some degree and of course 'beautiful' people experience jealousy and hateful things like that towards them

  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Honestly, I would not be where I am today if not for my looks.

    Of course, I am just a technology geek at a community college, so that might say something about me. :/
  • RavenLibra
    RavenLibra Posts: 1,737 Member
    beautiful people earn more, and receive far more favours than "plain" or average people, and typically these advantages are bestowed upon them by average or "plain" people. SO? should it not be the prerogative of the optically disadvantaged to pass a disparaging remark at those more fortunate souls? personally? I am at peace with the world. People are people... If I believe someone more fortunate than I am, I simply visualize them with their pants down on a toilet with NO toilet paper.
  • TheRoadDog
    TheRoadDog Posts: 11,788 Member
    I don't judge based on appearance for the most part. I don't care what people say about me. I doubt they are saying anything about me. If they are, it's not to me.

  • vadersaysno
    vadersaysno Posts: 1,965 Member
    I get hated on all the time....usually it's by my wife... oh wait..wrong usage of hating...
  • Northernlight03
    Northernlight03 Posts: 1,980 Member
    Just because a really good looking girl is getting chatted up by a few lads is not her fault, a naturally good looking person does attract attention naturally from both sexes but that doesn't mean that they always want that attention and does not give people reason to call her a slag ect, people can get jealous because they wish they had it instead ....and just like someone with a disfiguring or who is fat and people whisper and call names , unfortunately we live in a world with a certain amount of narrow minded people and I truly believe you should never judge a book by its cover.
  • slideaway1
    slideaway1 Posts: 1,006 Member
    It's a cross I have to bear for being really, really, ridiculously good looking. :D
  • blueyellowhorse
    blueyellowhorse Posts: 708 Member
    edited June 2015
    I couldn't tell you, but some women will try to bring you down no matter what you look like, of course beautiful women will experience it a lot more. It's always a competition... :/
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  • JoRocka
    JoRocka Posts: 17,525 Member
    big2strongCO wrote: »
    http://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6

    Any negative interactions are grossly outweighed by the advantages beautiful people have.

    so it makes it okay to make fun of them?
  • bloodyhonest
    bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
    big2strongCO wrote: »
    http://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6

    Any negative interactions are grossly outweighed by the advantages beautiful people have.

    I would assume so, but I am not in the position to say that this is in fact true or false. Even if I was a knock out I don't even think I can state that my experiences or what I perceive as an advantage or disadvantage is the same for all. I don't believe a study can determine this with 100% certainty either.

  • bloodyhonest
    bloodyhonest Posts: 196 Member
    blueyellowhorse wrote: »
    I couldn't tell you, but some women will try to bring you down no matter what you look like, of course beautiful women will experience it a lot more. It's always a competition... :/

    Ironically, these women who tear other women up for their beauty are only making themselves look ugly.
  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    Not only Beauty but also style or classy I guess you could say! I met some People at my Brothers Wedding who actually told me that they were surprised that I was actually talking to them because People like me usually wouldn't give them the time of day and would always look down on them and be snobbish. I asked them what they meant by "People like me" and one of them responded by saying that I was of a higher class than they were. This saddens me deeply because I have always treated everybody equally and have never felt that I was better than anyone else! I admit that I have judged certain people my children have dated, but never because of how they looked or how much money they had and I have certainly never come out and made them feel bad nor have I felt that I was better than them, My judgements are based on a person's personality and their treatment of others around them and I am a harsh critic of that!!! Only because my children deserve the best and deserve to be treated with nothing but respect and honor!
  • Misshodge64
    Misshodge64 Posts: 8,588 Member
    Chaelaz wrote: »
    Honestly, I would not be where I am today if not for my looks.

    Of course, I am just a technology geek at a community college, so that might say something about me. :/

    NERD
  • blueyellowhorse
    blueyellowhorse Posts: 708 Member
    bloodyhonest wrote: »
    blueyellowhorse wrote: »
    I couldn't tell you, but some women will try to bring you down no matter what you look like, of course beautiful women will experience it a lot more. It's always a competition... :/

    Ironically, these women who tear other women up for their beauty are only making themselves look ugly.

    Yeah. I'll be the first to admit that I get jealous of beautiful women with nice bodies. :o But I would never make someone feel bad for looking a certain way. I know what it's like when other women tear you apart for your appearance, it's not a good feeling. I try to be a good, nice person, but I'm not perfect and I can't really help feeling jealous when a woman looks SO beautiful...I guess it's an insecurity on my part really. It's not their fault I feel that way.
  • Misshodge64
    Misshodge64 Posts: 8,588 Member
    I like this topic ,i have been told that people thought i was stuck up or thought i was better than people and a stuck up Bitc@.

    Both men and woman, once we talk and they get to know me than they are really impressed.

  • Gska17
    Gska17 Posts: 752 Member
    I can't look at myself and think, "yes, I'm beautiful" but I've been told I am. We'll just go with "decent looking".

    I will say I've been treated very rudely until I open my mouth. People then realize I'm friendly. Decent looking plus a healthy dose of "resting b*%ch face" renders me unapproachable sometimes I think!
  • GWehsling
    GWehsling Posts: 120 Member
    Every day, every time I meet somebody new I have to give them the "Hey, my eyes are up here" routine... ... to divert their attention from my ridiculously poor taste in fashion.

    The best thing about being over 40 - realising how fickle and temporary good looks are. I used to get taken in by that, but I don't care about that anymore; discipline, integrity and strength are were it has always been.
  • suzreen
    suzreen Posts: 2,455 Member
    big2strongCO wrote: »
    http://www.businessinsider.com/studies-show-the-advantages-of-being-beautiful-2013-6

    Any negative interactions are grossly outweighed by the advantages beautiful people have.

    Agreed.
  • CJisinShape
    CJisinShape Posts: 1,404 Member
    edited June 2015


    FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »
    Not only Beauty but also style or classy I guess you could say! I met some People at my Brothers Wedding who actually told me that they were surprised that I was actually talking to them because People like me usually wouldn't give them the time of day and would always look down on them and be snobbish. I asked them what they meant by "People like me" and one of them responded by saying that I was of a higher class than they were. This saddens me deeply because I have always treated everybody equally and have never felt that I was better than anyone else! I admit that I have judged certain people my children have dated, but never because of how they looked or how much money they had and I have certainly never come out and made them feel bad nor have I felt that I was better than them, My judgements are based on a person's personality and their treatment of others around them and I am a harsh critic of that!!! Only because my children deserve the best and deserve to be treated with nothing but respect and honor!

    Paragraph breaks please.
  • Timshel_
    Timshel_ Posts: 22,834 Member
    Misshodge64 wrote: »
    Chaelaz wrote: »
    Honestly, I would not be where I am today if not for my looks.

    Of course, I am just a technology geek at a community college, so that might say something about me. :/

    NERD

    Totally.

  • FabulousFantasticFifty
    FabulousFantasticFifty Posts: 195,832 Member
    CJisinShape wrote: »

    FabulousFantasticFifty wrote: »
    Not only Beauty but also style or classy I guess you could say! I met some People at my Brothers Wedding who actually told me that they were surprised that I was actually talking to them because People like me usually wouldn't give them the time of day and would always look down on them and be snobbish. I asked them what they meant by "People like me" and one of them responded by saying that I was of a higher class than they were. This saddens me deeply because I have always treated everybody equally and have never felt that I was better than anyone else! I admit that I have judged certain people my children have dated, but never because of how they looked or how much money they had and I have certainly never come out and made them feel bad nor have I felt that I was better than them, My judgements are based on a person's personality and their treatment of others around them and I am a harsh critic of that!!! Only because my children deserve the best and deserve to be treated with nothing but respect and honor!

    Paragraph breaks please.

    What is this, English Class???
  • autumn_skye
    autumn_skye Posts: 156 Member
    Good thread...it's a shame that people (and women in particular) can be so judgey
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