I just deleted a bunch of friends.

I am on a 10 day streak! My first 10 days on MFP :)I have an open diary and have logged every bite!

LOL....I don't need anyone to motivate me, as I am looking after my health and fitness for myself...And I don't want a bunch of needy people who needs a constant "you go girl" or they will blame their own failure on the lack thereof...

I only delete friends if they haven't been active for several months. Anyone can have a few bad weeks or a month, where they fall off the wagon, and then pull themselves together and get back on. That is one of the reasons of having friends on here, not only to support you when you are doing things right, but also so that when you have a rough time, they are there to provide support then as well.

I just deleted a bunch of people too - almost 60 people in fact. The only one's I have left are personal friends (some of whom are not good loggers but I keep them anyway), and a couple of really motivational MFP pals. That's it! I don't need or want pals to comment every single time I complete my diary, or workout, but come one - I've lost a bunch of weight and when I hit the 99 pound loss, I got 3 likes...that's it. No comments, no encouragement, nothing. So I deleted them. Now, don't get me wrong, I don't comment every time someone posts something either, but when one of my pals reaches a milestone or needs some encouragement, I step in and comment. I would rather have 4 or 5 people who are really motivational and take their health serious, than 100 people who rarely log, or people who talk about non-health related stuff or whine and complain (that's what Facebook is for).

I have a rule. If someone stops logging for a week or more they are gone. Only serious people allowed on my list. And you better be letting your friends into your diary too.

i delete once they hit 5 days of not logging!

newmeadow wrote: »

Imaginary friends on the internet really aren't there. They're just words on a screen.

Maybe to you. I happen to have friends on the net that have been great friends for a lot of years. Some of them, I have never met in person. One of those imaginary friends passed away last week. I cried real tears for the loss of a real person who had real feelings and who was a significant part of my life for over 10 years.

Personally I do grow to care for people that I call friends on the net. Those words on the screen have real people behind them who have real feelings and real lives. Many may come and go in your life and some will touch you in ways that may even change you. I think more people need to remember that.

Thanks for posting this. I was wondering how long is too long. Looks like I have some cleaning to do!

Those of you that delete after a couple of days, what is your system? Seriously, I find this fascinating. Do you go into each of their profiles and check up on them?

Man, that sounds like a lot of work and all because they do not post RAH RAH's often enough. There should be a robot rent-a-crowd option here on MFP - a bunch of fake folk that come in and make the right noises on cue, if that is all you look for. Robo-cheerleaders.

and deleting a person if they ever voice frustration or moan? That is hardcore. Can't we all just be ourselves, warts and all? Do we have to pretend our lives are perfect and that we are always motivated and never eat a cheese curl?

I can't control your deleting policies, but if you are that rigid, please for the love of the heavens, don't add me.

enterdanger wrote: »

I just lost my streak at 340 days, but I was kind of half assed logging anyway. I don't usually delete anyone. Sometimes, life kicks you in the *kitten* and weight loss/healthy lifestyle takes a back seat. I get that, and I'm happy to welcome them back. However, I will post my mistakes in addition to my triumphs. I was unfriended by someone recently for posting that I lost control and binged on jalapeno cheese curls. lol.

Jalapeno cheese curls!! I would friend you for that! They are worth every evil calorie.

lol. Honestly, I don't really understand the point of having "friends" on MFP when we can rely on the forums for motivation/questions/etc. I have a 100+ day logging streak, but other than what MFP posts automatically, I rarely comment on my feed, or anyone else's. I do enjoy the forums though.

Add me if you like!

Sometimes things happen in a persons life that they just don't feel like commenting on things. I logged my calories, but did not comment on posts because my mom passed away on June 20th. Do you think I could be any kind of motivation to anyone? You should at least consider asking them if something is going on in their lives. If they don't answer then maybe delete them

I do message the friends who haven't logged in for a few days, a lot of times they message me back saying they were glad I prodded them. Sometimes they were busy, but sometimes they just needed a little motivation. If I message someone two or three times & they haven't replied I delete them. I don't expect perfection or constant likes or comments, but I don't want my friend list bogged down with inactive people.