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somthing personal that I need help with.

happyhappyjoy72
happyhappyjoy72 Posts: 71
edited September 2024 in Chit-Chat
How do you trust someone that you love so much and is your best friend after they have emotionally hurt you so bad? How do you get past the hurt to get back what you had? Oh and this is not about a cheating spouse.

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  • peytons_mommy82
    peytons_mommy82 Posts: 28 Member
    Only time can heal. I know thats cliche but you aren't going to jump past the hurt. This person will have to prove that they are trustworthy and that they aren't going to hurt you again and that takes time.
  • Kirsty_UK
    Kirsty_UK Posts: 964 Member
    time, and by being given smaller amounts of trust that they dont break
  • TheGoktor
    TheGoktor Posts: 1,138 Member
    Firstly, I am so sorry you are feeling like this - one of my very close friends in RL is going through similar, and it breaks my heart. Am sending virtual hugs to you.

    Secondly, is it a silly question to ask whether you've both had a talk about the situation? If you haven't then I think that you probably need to, if only so that s/he can explain they did whatever it was they did, and so you can explain how much it hurt you. I really do strongly believe that relationships, whichever form they take, are built upon trust, respect, and communication.

    I really and truly hope that you can both resolve this and rebuild the relationship. :flowerforyou:
  • bethrs
    bethrs Posts: 664 Member
    Through understanding (understanding we are all human, maybe their motivations for what they did, or their perspective), time, communication, space and a lot of hard work, and in truth, it is unlikely things will ever be exactly the same, but they can get back to a good place.

    I'm sorry this is happening to you, I know from experience how hard it can be when we are hurt by people we trusted.
  • marathonmom72
    marathonmom72 Posts: 191 Member
    For awhile, I don't think you can. You have to invest the time to re-build the relationship and give the other person opportunity to regain your trust. I think you also have to answer some important questions, like, does the other person acknowledge that they hurt you? Have they said they are sorry? Do they desire to take the time and effort to regain your trust? If the answer isn't yes to those questions, then I think you will never be able to get back what you had before. In the mean time, seek support from others to keep your perspective and sanity. Don't let your personal struggles sabotage the work you are doing on your health and fitness. If you do, you will just end up feeling worse than you do now. Hope things work out for you!
  • happyhappyjoy72
    happyhappyjoy72 Posts: 71
    She "my bff" is texting me she is sorry but i'm not ready to talk to her. This just all went down lastnight.
  • peytons_mommy82
    peytons_mommy82 Posts: 28 Member
    I think you need to have a face to face talk. Not over the phone, not thru texts. And again, it is only going to take time to build that trust back up. But the first step really is for you two to talk about it. *hugs*
  • T_R_A_V
    T_R_A_V Posts: 1,629 Member
    Trust is a delicate issue with me....and for me once you break it....there is no gaining it back....cause if you forgive them then it will just be a crack in the door for them to do it again

    by no means, am i telling you what to do, but this is just my outtake
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