Taking this too seriously?

You're not taking anything too seriously. This is your body, health, and self image. Maybe try explaining to him that being a stay at home mom means you take care of everyone, but you'd like the support and understanding to take care of youself, too. You're doing it for you and a happy momma makes a happy family.

No idea. We are only getting one side of the story.

Have you stopped doing things with your family because of it? Is it interfering in any way with how your house functions? I ask this because it seems completely random for a husband to say right off the bat that you are taking it too seriously.

You say you have 20lbs to lose, but from your picture you don't seem to need to lose much, I know pictures can be deceptive, but we've no idea about your stats.

We only have part of the picture, and I will concede that perhaps you have made lifestyle changes that he perceives as "drastic." But everything needs context: are the changes that he notices drastic, or are they "drastic when compared to before?" I went from "not exercising" to "waking up at 3am in order to go to the gym." That can be considered "drastic," but it's also what was required for me to reach my goal. I needed to exercise, and there was no other time. This also led to me going to bed by 9pm, as opposed to laying around with my wife, falling asleep while watching tv until midnight. It could be argued that I was "taking it too seriously," and that it was "impacting my marriage" because we no longer had our "tv viewing time" in the evening. However, getting up in the morning and make strides toward being healthier meant more too mean that watching episodes of whatever.

That said, I could see the argument being made that:

"he cares more about exercising than he does about spending quality time with you."

As a wife yourself, which side would you land on if for 10 years of your marriage your husband would watch tv with you into the night, but began asking you to turn off the tv so that he could sleep because he had to get up early to go to the gym? I don't think there is a clear cut answer. One day my wife will give me grief over my lifestyle change, and the next day she will comment "I wish I had your commitment and dedication."

I hate to add, but this is something that I have experienced, as well as read several comments on here of others having the same experience; people sometimes become jealous and/or insecure when their partners begin "getting in shape." The fear being something along the lines of "now that he/she is looking better, they're going to leave/cheat on me." That may not be the case but again, I've gone through that (and still do from time to time), and I've seen a threads here on the forums of people whose partners were supportive in the beginning, but then became increasingly negative as time went on. He may simply need some subtle reassuring that you're not planning on running off with someone once you "reach your goal weight." I need to stress SUBTLE! I wouldn't come right out and ask "are you worried I'm going to leave you once I reach my goal?" Because you certainly don't want to plant that seed in his mind.

Good Luck.

Maybe you have a serious or addictive personality? Or maybe he's too happy-go-lucky?

1st, Mexican food is not "bad". Some recipes tend to be very calorically dense, since they rely a lot upon starches and grains, but like anything, you just have to eat in moderation and fit it in your macros.

2nd, there's nothing wrong with wanting to know what your putting into your body, or how much of it.

3rd, with only 19 lbs. to lose, you have to be careful about being too aggressive in your weight loss goals. Make sure the 1220 cal/day is enough for your stats. You probably shouldn't aim for more than 1 lb./week. And if your going to aim for that low of an intake, you need to assure that you get to it. You're eating right at the minimum recommended requirement for basic metabolic function for a female.

Lastly, sounds like you went from 0 to 60 in a relatively short time, and he made a knee jerk reaction to the change. Now, you've made a similar knee jerk reaction by blowing it out of proportion / not understanding the source. Give it some time for both of you to get used to your new routine ... if the negative input continues after a while, then you can be concerned.

No.

My husband isn't a jerk and thoroughly supports this. I'm averaging about the same, food-wise.

My husband always stays pretty fit, though. And he's asked me in the past to help with HIS weight maintenance (since I do food prep)--I routinely alter recipes to make them healthier and lower calorie for him already, so he's totally good with it.

jojo4everjq839 wrote: »

mwyvr wrote: »

jojo4everjq839 wrote: »

ok so apparently my husband thinks I'm taking this weight loss thing too seriously. [...] I need support and does anyone else think this is too much?

I'm just accepting that you have 20 pounds to lose - your calorie deficit and exercise plan is the tried and true method to lose weight and improve fitness, so no, that isn't too much. Assuming you get other exercise in (walking with your child) be sure to eat back your exercise calories.

I'm more curious why your husband thinks you are taking things too seriously. Is he overweight? Or does he have issues enjoying his meals when you appear to be denying yourself?

He's a little overweight and he does have insecurities about himself and in the beginning of our marriage especially he would verbalized that he was scared I would cheat on him and even with me starting school again to be a nurse he is scared of me cheating. But I haven't done anything to make him think that way and don't want to either so I always try to reassure him things are ok and are gonna be ok. Since he hasn't been around a lot since he works crazy hours to see me eat, I don't think it's that. But he has yet to watch me and now I'm curious to see how he'll take it haha

Sounds like more of an issue that he needs to work out, not something to do with you. Maybe talk to him about it and see if he wants to join what you do? That way, he can see you're taking it so seriously, and if he gets into better shape with you, that's something you can share together.

jojo4everjq839 wrote: »

ok so apparently my husband thinks I'm taking this weight loss thing too seriously. I'm not starving myself, not binging or anything like that, just trying to stay within my daily calorie goal which is 1,220 because I'm a stay at home mom and am just starting to exercise daily for 15 minutes intensely again since falling off the bandwagon and gaining 20 pounds. I need support and does anyone else think this is too much?

You're not taking anything seriously. Taking care of your body is like taking care of your car. You have to maintain and give the right amounts of fuel for it to last long. You're eating just the right amount of food at that level of exercise. Keep on doing what you're doing.