Just Need to Vent

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  • Suzmp88
    Suzmp88 Posts: 48 Member
    I totally get it. My bigger chest prevents me from fitting in clothes that fit my hips and waist.

    Could you arrange a night out with this same group of college friends and wear a more casual, going-out-dress that makes you feel as equally amazing?
  • devil_in_a_blue_dress
    devil_in_a_blue_dress Posts: 5,214 Member
    As somebody who has always had a shape that is difficult to dress off the rack (very hourglass, so nothing at the waist ever fits), all I can tell you is to find a good seamstress or tailor and realize you have to buy the size that fits the largest part of you. I know that doesn't help you in this situation. I think the best idea is to look for a gown with a A line skirt (if I had your bod, I'd even do a pencil, cause you have a nice shape on the lower half) with a fair amount of stretch to accommodate the ladies. When I look at your profile photo, you don't look top heavy, you actually look lovely and shapely.
  • stealthq
    stealthq Posts: 4,298 Member
    Not a woman, but I'm in the same boat as having unusual proportions.

    I'm 6', not out of the ordinary at all. However, I have legs the length of someone who should be 6'4" or taller. My arms are much the same.

    Going anywhere but mid-to-high-end clothing stores basically results in me spending 3-4 hours looking for something that might fit, just to end up being disappointed and walking out empty-handed.

    My only option for finding clothes that fit really well is to go to a place where shirts are $50 or more which is a big waste of money, seeing how I'm trying to lose weight.

    That's me, too, but on a small scale since I'm 5'3". I have an annoyingly short torso. Drives me nuts - I'll find a dress that looks great and initially appears to fit perfectly, but nooooo. The shoulders are at least an inch, if not two, elevated above my actual shoulders. The back of the neck, too.

    Point being, we get it, OP. It sucks to know that you're probably going to have to have clothes altered, or spend a stupid amount of time to find the oddball item that fits. As if just finding something that's flattering doesn't already take a stupid amount of time.
  • vixtris
    vixtris Posts: 688 Member
    edited July 2015
    If you have more weight to lose, there is the possibility that some of it could start coming off the breast area. We all lose weight differently, and it comes off where it wants to, when it wants to, so that area may be last on its list. theres no way of knowing until you get there though... However, me being small chested, I do sometimes wish I had bigger boobs lol. We all wish we have something we don't have. Love it, and flaunt it girl! heheh
  • PrincessWarior
    PrincessWarior Posts: 71 Member
    What about a different bra? I'm 36D and love all kind of clothing and I have learn with time that the bra really matter. Tuck those babies well you can be suprise !!!!
  • spikrgrl503
    spikrgrl503 Posts: 247 Member
    I totally get it. I'm a 36G on top but a us size 10 on the bottom. Shopping is tough for me, especially for dresses. I usually just get the bigger size. Sometimes I have it taken it, but honestly my real problem is the fact that I'm 6'1", so that everything is always too short anyway. So I get the bigger size because it's usually longer. Over the years I'm learning to love my body, and I hope you do too. I think you're beautiful!
  • cvstokke
    cvstokke Posts: 249 Member
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    Decided to go with this one I think
  • anglyn1
    anglyn1 Posts: 1,802 Member
    That dress is pretty and looks really great on you! Good choice! :)
  • Lizzles4Shizzles
    Lizzles4Shizzles Posts: 122 Member
    Love that dress! Color & fit looks great! Rock it, girl :)
  • slaite1
    slaite1 Posts: 1,307 Member
    See? I could never pull off that dress-you pull it off perfectly. I love the little belt!
  • kshama2001
    kshama2001 Posts: 28,052 Member
    You look fabulous! All your skinny friends will be jealous!
  • dawnsnarks
    dawnsnarks Posts: 101 Member
    Gorgeous! Awesome color and lines!
  • cvstokke
    cvstokke Posts: 249 Member
    Thanks so much for the support everyone.
  • LBuehrle8
    LBuehrle8 Posts: 4,044 Member
    That dress is gorgeous!! I wish I had a chest :( I'm shaped like a little boy.
  • LeanButNotMean44
    LeanButNotMean44 Posts: 852 Member
    cvstokke wrote: »
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    Decided to go with this one I think

    You look fabulous in this dress!

    I could NEVER wear a dress like that because I have NO boobs (36A, barely). We are so critical of ourselves; people see us so differently.

    I sincerely hope you feel good in the dress and have a wonderful time at the wedding!
  • cvstokke
    cvstokke Posts: 249 Member
    cvstokke wrote: »
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    Decided to go with this one I think

    You look fabulous in this dress!

    I could NEVER wear a dress like that because I have NO boobs (36A, barely). We are so critical of ourselves; people see us so differently.

    I sincerely hope you feel good in the dress and have a wonderful time at the wedding!

    Thank you so much for your nice words
  • robertf57
    robertf57 Posts: 560 Member
    cvstokke,

    You look great in the dress! Be happy you are blessed with a nice chest. There will be plenty of women wishing they were more like you.
  • whmscll
    whmscll Posts: 2,255 Member
    I LOVE you in that! Wish I had cleavage (another 36A girl here).
  • girlwithcurls2
    girlwithcurls2 Posts: 2,281 Member
    40A here. Talk about not filling anything up :( You, on the other hand, totally rock in that dress!! I hope you are reading all of these positive comments, because you need to see yourself as total strangers do: gorgeous! You worked hard to get where you are. Former fling be damned. You are awesome. Walk in there with the confidence you deserve and have a fantastic time. And know that all of us are in your corner!! :heart:
  • dmsl977
    dmsl977 Posts: 232 Member
    Damn, girl! You look amazing in that dress! Someone with a smaller chest wouldn't look nearly as good. You're going to knock that ex-fling on his butt.
  • Bshmerlie
    Bshmerlie Posts: 1,026 Member
    Honestly you look really good. I wouldn't be ashamed at all. Have fun at the event.
  • Queenmunchy
    Queenmunchy Posts: 3,380 Member
    That dress looks amazing on you!!
  • Psychgrrl
    Psychgrrl Posts: 3,177 Member
    You. Look. Awesome. Seriously--erase all doubt from your mind and go have a BLAST!!!! :smiley:
  • justrollme
    justrollme Posts: 802 Member
    You look so pretty! That dress looks fantastic on you~
  • cvstokke
    cvstokke Posts: 249 Member
    Thank you everyone - I appreciate the kind words.
  • TheVirgoddess
    TheVirgoddess Posts: 4,535 Member
    edited July 2015
    That looks fantastic on you!!!

    I have this issue, too, and an event coming up in August.

    I'm an 8, with 32G boobs. I went with this:

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    For $23.00 off of Amazon. I feel like I won the lotto because it doesn't even look terrible.
  • Glinda1971
    Glinda1971 Posts: 2,328 Member
    edited July 2015
    @cvstokke that dress looks beautiful on you. And I feel your pain. XXL or xl on top and even at my heaviest 14 on the bottom.

    My wedding dress was a 22W to fit them.

    @TheVirgoddess that dress looks beautiful as well.
  • cvstokke
    cvstokke Posts: 249 Member
    40A here. Talk about not filling anything up :( You, on the other hand, totally rock in that dress!! I hope you are reading all of these positive comments, because you need to see yourself as total strangers do: gorgeous! You worked hard to get where you are. Former fling be damned. You are awesome. Walk in there with the confidence you deserve and have a fantastic time. And know that all of us are in your corner!! :heart:

    You're so sweet. Everyone has been so nice but this resonated especially. I'll think of you all tomorrow at the event <3
  • BinaryPulsar
    BinaryPulsar Posts: 8,927 Member
    You look beautiful. The way I see it is that we should all focus on what we love and enjoy about our bodies, while working on the things we can with acceptance and respect for our own body type. And then also admire and enjoy the diversity of beauty in other women's bodies. Without comparison (unless in just a curiosity way). Woman sure are beautiful in all different ways. Taking a life drawing class with nude models (or being the model) is helpful as well. Don't let clothing get you down about your body. The problem is the clothes, not your body. As others said, go to a tailor. I hope you have fun!
  • Liftng4Lis
    Liftng4Lis Posts: 15,151 Member
    Rocking those girls woman!
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