why are people congratulating this??

I haven't seen this (I have only been here a few days) but no, that doesn't sound right at all

I feel exactly the same, I don't congratulate people on their diary completion unless a. I can see what they ate and b. they ate well.

I wont call people up on their bad choices as sometimes we have the occasional bad day where we don't eat enough or the wrong things etc, but if they asked I'd tell them.

It might be a group of people who all have eating disorders? Then they would congratulate eachother for eating 300/400 calories.

Not very healthy though.

I try not to "congratulate" anyone who I know is not eating enough calories, especially if they are under 1000.

I try to make a point to encourage someone when they eat their calories plus daily exercise calories! It's how I lost and it's how many other people here have lost.

It's about half and half on my friends list. Some will workout ridiculously and only eat 1200 without eating their burnt calories back. Yes, they are losing quite a bit but I'm afraid for them. I know I don't eat 1200 net every single day but I get damn close to it. I too, have learned that slow and steady and eating most of my calories back, I'm losing the weight healthy. People want quick results but they forget that it took time to get the weight on.

I do try to look at all my friends diaries, not only to see what they ate, but to also get some food ideas.

unfortuantely event he website congratulates you when you are under on calories adn I mean even really under until it gets to a tipping point of you are not eating enough message that pops up.

I have had people look at my diary and tell me I am really not eating enough on some days and eating too much sodium on other days and I wappreciate their honesty where the website tells me congratulations keep eating like this and you will be X many lbs in 5 weeks and in a person's mind your think "hey that # looks really good and I got a congratulations so I can keep going with this"

I have written in to a moderator about this and I think it needs to be fixed but oh well.

You are right sometimes too many of us look too quickly at the bottom line and go wow that person was way under and we really should look at how much and what quality calories they get too.

What I'd much prefer to see would be a feature where instead of the report being "Completed their diary" or "Completed their diary and was under their goal" you got a report saying "Was within 10% of their goal.

Right now, you get "rewarded" if you've eaten dangerously little, and you lose the "under their goal" kudos even if you were only one calorie over.

this is a great suggestion. go gryffindors!

Welll.....

I think most people are doing the best they can do so I try not to be so judgmental. There was someone on my friend's list, who made it under their goal but drank 12 ounces of vodka. But this person keeps logging, every single day, and I give them credit for that. So I might say "Way to log it", but I'm simply happy people are on MFP.

Speaking of which, my friends have stopped saying nice things to me on MFP. I promise my diary looks pretty darned good. Anyone out there looking for new friends.

Best,

Debbie

I do not, by rule comment on anyone's diary.......Mostly because I don't have the time to actually check out the diary's.. Being under usually isn't a good thing, and being over isn't always a bad thing.......

To be honest i am one of these people that is constantly under my calorie goal. At the end of the day i will have 800 odd calories left. However im trying to eat more, but to be fair i eat breakfeast, lunch and dinner and have pieces of fruit, smoothies. so i wouldnt say that everyone is starving thereselves. Aswell as that, i dont see why people who are under shouldnt be offered some nice words... thats just my opinion

300-400 calories is extreme. I wouldn't congratulate death. A few months ago (and just last week), when I was also eating 300-500 calories a day, I hid my diary from my friends. I knew what I was doing was dangerous and wrong; I didn't want anybody to be congratulating my death too. Now, I'm eating 1450 calories a day with my diary open to all my pals.

im not saying congratulate death, but just because people are under their calorie goal does not mean there not trying.

That's true. If you know one of your friends is struggling with a certain goal, then you can certainly try to support their progress towards it. Unfortunately, some folks really are trying to adhere to dangerous calorie goals, but there is a difference between them and those who are trying to work their way back up into a normal range.

Yeah thats what i was saying, for some people trying to eat there calories is just as difficult as people trying not to over eat. i do understand people that are under eating on purpose should not be encouraged to do so.

At the end of the day i will have 800 odd calories left.

If you have 800 calories left because you've earned a lot through exercise and don't feel particularly hungry on that particular day that's not a disaster, nor is it dangerous to do that occasionally.

If you have 800 calories left because you've only eaten 400 that day, that's a really REALLY bad idea.

But I'm sure it's not the latter - as you say you're eating breakfast lunch and dinner, and fruit and smoothies, you can't possibly be doing that on 400 calories a day! Unless breakfast is one crispbread, and the fruit is one grape :bigsmile:

Hahaha no im not eating one grape lol... x

I honestly don't know how anyone can only eat 400 calories in a day. I would never be able to do it.

What I'd much prefer to see would be a feature where instead of the report being "Completed their diary" or "Completed their diary and was under their goal" you got a report saying "Was within 10% of their goal.

What a great idea! You should send a suggestion to the moderators, or whoever is in charge! That could really encourage people to stay close to their goal while discouraging under or over eating!

I have been de-friended because I told people that they ate too little, or they were eatting not so healthy. What good is being slimmer if you are not healthy enough to maintain and enjoy it?

I've actually "de-friended" people myself for not eating ENOUGH. (I'm talking about that 300-400 calories a day scenario here. 1100+ is fine. I know how hard it would be get exactly 1200 every day, lol.) I was looking through their diaries and for some reason, just seeing them eat so little... it made me want to eat even less too. I can't have people like that to trigger me. As for "not eating so healthy," I would never tell anybody that. I would never lose a friend over it either. Probably because I eat a bunch of junk! Haha.