Wedding blues

Buy a food scale, weigh and measure your food to put in the diary. After we week or two you will get used to the diary. Set your goals to about one to one and a half pounds a week. Aqua exercises are good.
Focus on being happy and in good spirits on your wedding day.

You could lose some weight in 3 months. 10-20 lbs is probably more realistic. 30 lbs is pretty aggresive for 3 months and you might not be looking or feeling your best. Be patient and create a lasting healthy change.
Set a goal of 1 lb a week. Eat the calories MFP gives you. Measure and weigh food and drinks and log everything as accurately as you can. If you haven't lost then you are probably not logging accurately.

It's so unfortunate that you've had such a terrible thing happen so close to your wedding. Everyone here has given you great advice, but I just wanted to add that I've seen very skinny/fit brides, very large brides, very in-between brides... and all of them are equally gorgeous because the happiness of getting married radiates from them.
I totally understand wanting to look perfect for your wedding... I'm not even engaged, but that's why I started growing my hair out 3 years ago (before I'd even had my first boyfriend), that's why I finally decided to start losing weight (I want to be READY when the day comes), etc. But we could honestly show up to the wedding in our pjs with messy hair and a massive food baby, and that man would still want to marry us. That's the beautiful thing about love. You don't have to worry about how anyone else feels about the way you look except him, and he thinks your beautiful no matter what. And if it's the pictures you're worried about, remember that you can always get super cute anniversary pictures done when you get where you want to be. Congratulations, and good luck!

To lose weight it's Calories In < Calories Out

The calories in is what you eat, that much should be obvious.

The calories out is everything your body burns which includes your BMR (what your body burns just to stay alive), your motion throughout the day, and your intentional exercise. This is called your TDEE.

**Keep it simple. Put your stats into MFP, choose 1lb a week and whatever your activity level is before exercise. Then eat the number of calories it tells you to. If you do intentional exercise add that in and eat those calories back. Your deficit to lose 1lb a week is already calculated. If you net what MFP tells you to, you should lose steadily.**

30 lbs is a lot to lose in 3 months, especially if you only have 30 lbs to lose. Please set more realistic expectations. If you only have 30lbs to lose, you will probably only lose 0.5 to 1lb a week.

zebrablueyes wrote: »

Thanks everyone! But what I think confuses me the most is calorie on should be less than calories out as Orphia was explaining. When I do water therapy on average I burn 200 calories wearing my polar. If I did that ip to 5 days a week that's only 1000 calories. Are you including calories burned as in TOTAL calories burned per day without excersises? My fit but says I burn 1500 on average without exercising and I don't believe that. If if was true 1500+ 200 is 1700 minus the 200 for workout is 1500 calories burned per day? How is this possible? So then I'd be burning around 7500 calories a week averaging to 2 lbs a week? I'm so confused

How long have you had your Fitbit? If you've had it a while, it's your TDEE and yes, it's fairly accurate, but that's not what you should be eating to lose weight. Remember that your body burns calories just keeping you alive, so YES! believe it.

As for what the polar is recording for your burn... maybe it's accurate, depending on how steady your exercise is. Are there are lot of stops and starts?

Would it be possible to add more water exercising at all, or are you limited to just the two aqua therapy sessions? There are other ways of exercising in the water, if you are able to access the pool, that have no impact on the joints. I water jog and love it. It's a great calorie burner, with zero impact on the joints. Talk to your doctor about it.

Back to what your burning.... your fitbit calculates your TDEE at 1500. That means eating at 1200 creates a 300 calorie deficit. Over a week, that will be 2100 calories or .6 pounds a week, without exercise.

If you'd like to ask me more involved questions, feel free to PM me.

zebrablueyes wrote: »

My fit but says I burn 1500 on average without exercising and I don't believe that

Your Fitbit burn is TDEE (total daily energy expenditure), the calories necessary to maintain your current weight. If you eat less than that, you will lose weight. But you must log everything you eat & drink accurately and honestly. Logging works.

Connect your accounts at http://www.myfitnesspal.com/fitbit

Set your goal to .5 lb. for every 25 lbs. you're overweight: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/account/change_goals_guided

Enable negative calorie adjustments: http://www.myfitnesspal.com/account/diary_settings

Ignore your Fitbit calorie goal and follow MFP's, eating back your adjustments.

You can learn more in the Fitbit Users group: http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/1290-fitbit-users

zebrablueyes wrote: »

Because I want to lose 30 pounds in three months, I have been limited to a 1200 calorie intake because I am short and the weight I currently am (would rather not say). I also cannot workout due to my condition.

A healthy, sustainable loss is .5 lb. per week for every 25 lbs. you're overweight. You will not lose 30 lbs. in 12 weeks.

To understand how weight loss works, please read the Sexypants post: https://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1080242/a-guide-to-get-you-started-on-your-path-to-sexypants/p1

zebrablueyes wrote: »

Also, I am mainly trying to lose inches in my arms. I have heard and read that you shouldn't really do major lifting because it will just keep your fat and build it into muscle/ I have read that it is better to lose weight first before trying to tone your arms? Thoughts? Also I have heard that you can burn fat without gaining muscle if you use ight 2-3 dumbbells and do arms?

Thanks

Your body doesn't turn fat into muscle. Losing inches in your arms will require losing fat, but your body chooses where that fat comes off. You also really can't build muscle while you're eating in a deficit. If you're interested in a "toned" look you absolutely should lift more than 2-3 lbs if you are physically able to and make sure you eat enough protein to maintain as much lean muscle as possible while trying to lose weight (i.e. so that most of your weight loss comes from fat and not muscle).

@zebrablueyes , @editorgrrl was not calling you overweight.

This sentence "A healthy, sustainable loss is .5 lb. per week for every 25 lbs. you're overweight."

is actually: "A healthy, sustainable loss is .5 lb per week for every 25 lbs that you're overweight."

Can you see the difference?

Kind regards

Orph.

zebrablueyes wrote: »

Ok thanks I guess she could of made that more clear, my apologies. When you deal with negative people or society you always expect the worse.

I'm ok with losing 10-20 if possible!! Just hoping I lose from arms, I generally do from there and face, we shall see!

I'm sorry you misunderstood what I said. The less you have to lose, the more slowly it comes off—that's just the way the human body works. If you have 25 lbs. to lose, a healthy, sustainable loss is .5 lb. per week. So in three months, you could safely lose 6 lbs. Maybe even 10. But not the 30 you said in your original post.

And you cannot control where the weight will come off. That's entirely determined by genetics. If you eat fewer calories than you burn, your arms and face will eventually get smaller along with the rest of you.

zebrablueyes wrote: »

Thank you I really appreciate the advice. In addition, I realize I have gained some weight due to my injury but I thought this forum was supposed to be about positivity. I don't need anyone calling me overweight repeatedly, it's immature. Why do you think I am trying to lose weight? So please don't comment on here because I don't need any more negativity from anyone on here.

Also, I am mainly trying to lose inches in my arms. I have heard and read that you shouldn't really do major lifting because it will just keep your fat and build it into muscle/ I have read that it is better to lose weight first before trying to tone your arms? Thoughts? Also I have heard that you can burn fat without gaining muscle if you use ight 2-3 dumbbells and do arms?

Thanks

Zebrablueyes,

Sorry about your injury.

Editor girl is not being negative, she is saying the truth. You can't spot reduce, and unfortunately we don't get to choose where we take the weight off. Saying the truth is not negative at all, and I even see it as supportive.

Your information about weight lifting is incorrect. Fat does not turn into muscle--you lose fat and you build muscle. When you eat at a deficit, the goal is to lose fat; when you eat at maintenance or at a slight surplus and do heavy weight lifting, the goal is to build muscle. Also, with muscle women do not bulk, they generally look smaller.

Weight lifting while in a calorie deficit helps you to maintain the muscle mass you already have. If you lose weight too quickly, you risk losing lean muscle mass. That is not a good thing.

I have been weight lifting for years (even did so when I was fat! ), and I really got into heavy weight lifting the first few months when I started on my weight loss journey. I can't tell you the amazing changes I have seen in my body. My arms are toned, way smaller than they were, and people comment on the muscle definition (especially the beau, which makes me very happy). I weigh 139/140 pounds on 5 ft 5 frame and wear a size 4 to 6. I feel great about how I look, and I feel fantastic.

I encourage you to lose your weight in a slow sustainable way and to give some weight lifting a try. It does wonders.

In your mid-section and your hips Great Job!!