DH Isn't HELPING! *** VENT ***

I'm sorry you're having a hard time with him!! Maybe you should make the dinner YOU want to eat and then if he wants something different, he can make it himself. Make yourself the priority!!
Unfortunately I think men sometimes have a better metabolism than we do!
Keep up the great work!

Brooke

Amen Brooke! That's what I do here! My hubby is trying to eat better too but I find it is easier sometimes to make me something and let him fend for himself and that works out great! That way I don't crave what he is eating!

My family eat whatever I cook, if they don't like it, they can make their own - it's as simple as that - I won't run myself ragged to cook a unhealthy meal that I would crave, and not be satisfied until I ate!

It was hard at first, and we had a few arguments - my family told me I was being selfish !!!!! :noway:
So I pointed out the obvious, that I refuse to slowly kill myself just so they can have pizza or burgers every night, if they have so little respect for their own lives, then they have to cook the food themselves, I won't participate in something that will slowly kill them.

Worked for me hun :bigsmile: :flowerforyou:

I agree, cook one meal, make it healthy, if he doesn't like it, oh well......
My DH has agreed to WW meals for a month to give me a jump start, but he will eat anything as long as he doesn't have to cook it, you may have to have a heart to heart with your DH, I did, my DH loves me the way I am, but I'm not happy or healthy....
So he understands more, he wants me around longer
hope he comes around soon

I agree with everybody else. I would even take it a step further and tell your kids if they don't eat what you make, you'll "send them to bed without supper" like in the 1940's. It will be healthier for them in the long run. My Mom can eat whatever she wants and not gain a pound. I used to think I was like that till I hit 24 and it turns out, I was wrong. It's better to learn young.

And for the husband, I'd consider asking if the situation were that you were smokers and you were trying to quit, wouldn't he want to be supportive and not smoke around you? If he says no, hit him or something--if he says yes, point out the health risks of a poor diet and make him realize his lack of support is hurting you.

Good luck and stay strong--I understand--my live in boyfriend eats Nachos at three in the morning all the time! that's why we women have to stick together!

no time like the present to change things!!

Completely understand, m'dear. :bigsmile:

DH LOVES my cooking. He will do anything I ask if I promise to make a dinner he likes. So we worked it like this. I cook for myself, if he wants to eat what I'm eating, he can. If not, he can go make himself something. He has taken to going to Trader Joe's and stocking up on their mini pizzas and orange chicken. :laugh:

Sometimes he eats with me, sometimes he has pizza. We don't sit down and eat together (we don't even have a dining table) so I don't have to watch him eat. :flowerforyou:

I cook what I cook. They always trade back and forth and make it work. I don't care if they leave something on their plate, but they KNOW better than to complain about what's in front of them.
But I'm not always the one cooking. Hubby was dificult at first because he wasn't taking me seriously. After my first weigh in and I had dropped 6 pounds, then he started to pitch in. Now he's more conscious of his cooking decisions. He's very supportive of my ideas and recipe quriks. He's even my willpower at times....like last night when the kids had pizza and I soooo wanted a tiny tiny slice at like 9 o clock last night. But he said No and I snapped out of it.

What do you guys do with children who know unhealthy cooking and getting them to eat new foods that aren't nuggets, pizza, mac and cheese, hot dogs, etc.. My kids are 2, 4, 7 and they are use to bad foods.

You can make your own heathy versions of nuggets, pizza and mac and cheese. IMHO, you are going to have to find some willpower, unless you never plan on leaving your house there are tempations everywhere.

very good point...I agree.. there will always be TV commercials, fast food places to drive by, store ads, old cravings, well getting a proper mind set and sticking to it no matter what!!! That is how we become successful at any change we need/want to make for ourselves.

Some folks will never understand, we can't make them, they are entitled to make their own choices just as we are... but perhaps if educated better they will truly understand this isn't just something that tastes better but food that will nourish our body and help us live healthy and longer lives.

Someone mentioned the BL cookbook, or how about crockpot meals..that way you can set it up the night before put it in the fridge and turn it on in the morning before leaving for work. Lots of healthy, fun and great recipes to be had from the crockpot.

Kids need healthy guidance on what is right and wrong, healthy food will make them grow up knowing that healthier choices are better. We all adjust even some on here that are confessed fast food eaters that have never in their lives eaten any veggies or fruit.

If we can do it surely a 2, 4 and 7 year old child can be taught to enjoy healthier versions. HG as well as many other healthy eating cooking sites have some great chicken nugget recipes, healthier mac an cheese, how about some steamed broccoli with a healthier cheese drizzled over it. Kids adapt. What about many on here that have eaten junk for 20-40 years? They are adapting, we are responsible to teach our children the right way when they are young so they know what is right and wrong surely food fits in among that?

You hubby? Well, kindness and understanding of how difficult it is to change habits in the beginning might help him out... someone shared sitting down and talking it out with him. Finding what his favorite food are and incorporating them in healthy ways can go along ways in saving squabbles.

if your the main cook in the house
its up to you
dont buy foods you cant eat
when i changed my lifestyle my husband and kids did also
(was married at the time)
i do the shopping and cooking
so they eat what i make or do not eat at all
everything in my house is mostly raw foods and organic
i know it must be hard with the lack of support
but dont buy that kind of food for your family!

It can be a challenge but it is a real challenge that we have to face when we walk out our doors. I am sure strangers are not gonna stop eating pizza in front of us or corn dogs we have to learn to say no when we have pizza I have one slice and a salad " a big salad". It seems to work because I feel like I am still getting a treat too. Or another suggestion cook pr order your special food on your day off.

What do you guys do with children who know unhealthy cooking and getting them to eat new foods that aren't nuggets, pizza, mac and cheese, hot dogs, etc.. My kids are 2, 4, 7 and they are use to bad foods.

just like a lot of people here, maybe try replacing one or two things at a time? make a list of all the not healthy foods you buy. write each one on a note card.
made a list of healthy alternatives write them on a different color note card. each week when you do the shopping list have the kids each pick one unhealthy thing they are willing to give up and let them choose an alternative that is healthy. maybe you can reward the kids when you get all the unheathy things out by allowing them "treats" of there 2 favorites every so often. but not untill all the junk is gone?

it might work and be fun too:bigsmile: