Mean Girls
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No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.0 -
finny11122 wrote: »You are who you associate with on a regular basis. Dont surround yourself with people like her.
Life really is to short to be dealing with people who add no value to your life.
Let them take their miserable path in life . Some people will never change their ways.
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ldrosophila wrote: »as the gorgeous and incomparable great RuPaul said or his mother said to her, "what other people think of you is none of your business."
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CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.0 -
Neversettle78 wrote: »sunn_lighter wrote: »jmho but the idea of 'mean girls' is just another way of women putting each other down. There are mean people altogether, no need to add gender into the label.
And most of the time people you think are mean are having a hard time. Try turning the other cheek.
I completely agree.
Also, the fact that the OP doesn't give any detail on what exactly was said by either party raises some red flags for me. I know she states it is because that isn't the point of the thread...but it is in the original post so it is fair game for discussion as it was used as an example (albeit a VERY vague one in which we were apparently all supposed to rally around her and offer condolences).
That is just my opinion as a self-appointed "mean girl".
It's just the way I am. I can be more specific about myself, but when discussing others, I tend to be a lot more vague.0 -
CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
It is not.
About her.
5th time:
The question was about:
The article.
Reminded me.
Of an incident.
The question was generally.
How you react.
When people.
Verbally put you down.
You do not know anything other than I said she was mean to me. Your judgement of our interaction reflects on you. Sounds like you had a rush to judgement. Because it wasn't and isn't about her OR me. It is a question about life in general. Hence the generalities.0 -
CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
And.....
I'd love to continue defending myself for asking how YOU react to people that verbally attack you BUT
I have better things to do.
http://nytimes.com/2015/08/09/fashion/im-too-old-for-this.html?referrer=&_r=0
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CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
It is not.
About her.
5th time:
The question was about:
The article.
Reminded me.
Of an incident.
The question was generally.
How you react.
When people.
Verbally put you down.
You do not know anything other than I said she was mean to me. Your judgement of our interaction reflects on you. Sounds like you had a rush to judgement. Because it wasn't and isn't about her OR me. It is a question about life in general. Hence the generalities.
Huh. I think we all can see where you get your tendency to overreact and see the people around you as the mean ones? My original comment was really intended to be a nice comment about seeing behind how people might react in general to something, and just a reminder to be nice. And yet, you've taken that original nice comment and attacked me over it. I wasn't 'judging' your interaction, I was responding to your report of it. I'm sorry that you see things so harshly. How sad.0 -
This will be done in a few in anyone wants some..
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Curiosity is killing me....PLEASE tell us what your "compliment" was to her at the very least!!0
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CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
It is not.
About her.
5th time:
The question was about:
The article.
Reminded me.
Of an incident.
The question was generally.
How you react.
When people.
Verbally put you down.
You do not know anything other than I said she was mean to me. Your judgement of our interaction reflects on you. Sounds like you had a rush to judgement. Because it wasn't and isn't about her OR me. It is a question about life in general. Hence the generalities.
Huh. I think we all can see where you get your tendency to overreact and see the people around you as the mean ones? My original comment was really intended to be a nice comment about seeing behind how people might react in general to something, and just a reminder to be nice. And yet, you've taken that original nice comment and attacked me over it. I wasn't 'judging' your interaction, I was responding to your report of it. I'm sorry that you see things so harshly. How sad.
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I'm sorry you're having such a hard time in your life, OP.0
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CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
It is not.
About her.
5th time:
The question was about:
The article.
Reminded me.
Of an incident.
The question was generally.
How you react.
When people.
Verbally put you down.
You do not know anything other than I said she was mean to me. Your judgement of our interaction reflects on you. Sounds like you had a rush to judgement. Because it wasn't and isn't about her OR me. It is a question about life in general. Hence the generalities.
Huh. I think we all can see where you get your tendency to overreact and see the people around you as the mean ones? My original comment was really intended to be a nice comment about seeing behind how people might react in general to something, and just a reminder to be nice. And yet, you've taken that original nice comment and attacked me over it. I wasn't 'judging' your interaction, I was responding to your report of it. I'm sorry that you see things so harshly. How sad.
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I feel really bad for you, to be honest.0
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Hey OP
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CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »No one knows anyone else's story, as evidenced above. Taking someone's behavior, in one moment, is a reflection of yourself, as well. Be the bigger person, and be kind, even when someone else is not.
You don't know what or how she said what she did. Or how I reacted to her. You only know I've chosen to protect her through anonymity and lack of specificity. And that the question was not about her, but generally speaking, when you buck up into people that want to tear you down for no reason.
Yet, in your estimation, that reflects on me.
Your thread title refers to 'Mean Girls' and your story is about this particular girl, and you refer to her speaking to you from 'her tall horse'. Those are your mental reactions to those five minutes of your interaction with her, as you are posting them here, to share with the forum readers. I'm simply saying you don't know why she reacted the way she did (without any details, I can only go off of your judgmental comments). That's what is a reflection of you. Your judgement of her reaction, as posted here, is what comes across as unkind, as you don't know why she reacted that way. Now reread my comment to which you responded.
It is not.
About her.
5th time:
The question was about:
The article.
Reminded me.
Of an incident.
The question was generally.
How you react.
When people.
Verbally put you down.
You do not know anything other than I said she was mean to me. Your judgement of our interaction reflects on you. Sounds like you had a rush to judgement. Because it wasn't and isn't about her OR me. It is a question about life in general. Hence the generalities.
Huh. I think we all can see where you get your tendency to overreact and see the people around you as the mean ones? My original comment was really intended to be a nice comment about seeing behind how people might react in general to something, and just a reminder to be nice. And yet, you've taken that original nice comment and attacked me over it. I wasn't 'judging' your interaction, I was responding to your report of it. I'm sorry that you see things so harshly. How sad.
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I feel really bad for you, to be honest.
And that's ok.
You've made your assumptions and you are comfortable with them.
I could tell you things, to refute your assumptions, but would you hear them?
I laugh, I make light-hearted jokes because I am on the end where I know what occurred.
I can tell you personal details about my life - the good and the bad, the sufferings and the joys. I could tell you of my accomplishments, of the bright spots of glory. I could tell you of the sacrifices I've made for others, and the ones others have made for me. I can tell you what I've endured to stand up for what I believe in. I can tell you of the glorious heights and the dark valleys. But what would be the point?0 -
Alluminati wrote: »
LMAO.0 -
CJisinShape wrote: »And that's ok.
You've made your assumptions and you are comfortable with them.
I could tell you things, to refute your assumptions, but would you hear them?
I laugh, I make light-hearted jokes because I am on the end where I know what occurred.
I can tell you personal details about my life - the good and the bad, the sufferings and the joys. I could tell you of my accomplishments, of the bright spots of glory. I could tell you of the sacrifices I've made for others, and the ones others have made for me. I can tell you what I've endured to stand up for what I believe in. I can tell you of the glorious heights and the dark valleys. But what would be the point?
You're a eagle CJ. Always remember that. Eagles don't fly with sea-gulls.0 -
CJisinShape wrote: »I feel really bad for you, to be honest.
And that's ok.
You've made your assumptions and you are comfortable with them.
I could tell you things, to refute your assumptions, but would you hear them?
I laugh, I make light-hearted jokes because I am on the end where I know what occurred.
I can tell you personal details about my life - the good and the bad, the sufferings and the joys. I could tell you of my accomplishments, of the bright spots of glory. I could tell you of the sacrifices I've made for others, and the ones others have made for me. I can tell you what I've endured to stand up for what I believe in. I can tell you of the glorious heights and the dark valleys. But what would be the point?
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was she regina george mean or cady heron mean?
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CJisinShape wrote: »I feel really bad for you, to be honest.
And that's ok.
You've made your assumptions and you are comfortable with them.
I could tell you things, to refute your assumptions, but would you hear them?
I laugh, I make light-hearted jokes because I am on the end where I know what occurred.
I can tell you personal details about my life - the good and the bad, the sufferings and the joys. I could tell you of my accomplishments, of the bright spots of glory. I could tell you of the sacrifices I've made for others, and the ones others have made for me. I can tell you what I've endured to stand up for what I believe in. I can tell you of the glorious heights and the dark valleys. But what would be the point?
Oh my gosh, even your comebacks are lame. If I were you, responding to the irony of my ironic post about you assuming I was assuming (see what you did there?). I'd go with:
I'm not mad at ya girl!
Have a great day and play nice
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Alluminati wrote: »CJisinShape wrote: »And that's ok.
You've made your assumptions and you are comfortable with them.
I could tell you things, to refute your assumptions, but would you hear them?
I laugh, I make light-hearted jokes because I am on the end where I know what occurred.
I can tell you personal details about my life - the good and the bad, the sufferings and the joys. I could tell you of my accomplishments, of the bright spots of glory. I could tell you of the sacrifices I've made for others, and the ones others have made for me. I can tell you what I've endured to stand up for what I believe in. I can tell you of the glorious heights and the dark valleys. But what would be the point?
You're a eagle CJ. Always remember that. Eagles don't fly with sea-gulls.
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Wait...so if the point of the article is her attitude change about walking away from mean people and being over it, why are you airing your grievance about your encounter in a public forum?
I know I missed the gif show, but seriously, I don't understand this post.0
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