Tried everything! tired & close to break down!
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Profile picture is from 2005- its my goal to look again like that! I was 43kg!!! ( i dont want to be 43 but 47)I want to look the same but i dont care about the scale, i just want to get rid of the belly fat & arms.
EDIT- I a not about the scale! I am only only about the areas!! only arm and hips! exercise them daily for 30min! Agin, not a scale is my goal but areas, okey?
I know there are going to be comments that this is not healthy etc. but this is not the point! I am 158 and got 50kg which is absolutely healthy and normal weight but I do struggle with self acceptance. I am trying to lose since May. It go down do 47, next day to be 50 again. I am exercising, eating healthy. I totally ditched white bread& potatoes. I have pretty bad ''love handles'' or whatever the area is called and fatty arms. No exercise or diet is helping to get rid of it. even if one week I am happy the next it all comes back! I know for some people I am ok, but I can't accept that. I feel like a little fatty thing on the beach. I am comparing myself to other all the time.Whatever anyone says- is just doesn't wok. Is inside my head. People who says im ok only just p*** me off because I know how I look like. There is nothing I can do.
How come girls are on diet for 2 months and lose weight and I cant work areas since May??
I do strenght exrecise 30min a day 2-3 times a week and walk to work fast 5km a day.
I cant d anymore exercise neither eat less. If i go on strict diet I do for 2 weeks, im miserable & hungry. If I eat normal ( heatlhy porrigge, fruits veg - no fasts food, smoothies & water) im feeling ok, but I look bloated no matter what!
I geunine dont have time to exercise everyday day as I work 12h a day and im tired! I also had bad hand breakge and I cant lift heavy.
I dont want to ''just accept myself'' and live with fat hips and big arms! It looks aweful!
I wear size 6 tops and 8 trousers. My fat & belly sticked out of trousers always!! and top with long sleeve are very tight. If i buy size bigger trousers then fall off or top look ''to big'' but arm wis is ok.
I am thining to cancel my holiday as i cant stand the fact that i tried for soo many months and i still have fat around my belly & hips.
I know some of you will say perfect.. but funny enough... only girls who are 'bigger'' than me saying im ok, and slimmer girls agree.
I dont want to accept my fat, its not looking good! if you look at me you ''can tell i dont exercise'' but i do exercise!
You can abuse me now. yes im stupid, role models all that... but why on earth no one want to accept the fact I just want to have healthy skinny body?? how come the fitness girls can do and this is acceptable but with normal girl it ''must be something wrong with her''??
EDIT- I a not about the scale! I am only only about the areas!! only arm and hips! exercise them daily for 30min! Agin, not a scale is my goal but areas, okey?
I know there are going to be comments that this is not healthy etc. but this is not the point! I am 158 and got 50kg which is absolutely healthy and normal weight but I do struggle with self acceptance. I am trying to lose since May. It go down do 47, next day to be 50 again. I am exercising, eating healthy. I totally ditched white bread& potatoes. I have pretty bad ''love handles'' or whatever the area is called and fatty arms. No exercise or diet is helping to get rid of it. even if one week I am happy the next it all comes back! I know for some people I am ok, but I can't accept that. I feel like a little fatty thing on the beach. I am comparing myself to other all the time.Whatever anyone says- is just doesn't wok. Is inside my head. People who says im ok only just p*** me off because I know how I look like. There is nothing I can do.
How come girls are on diet for 2 months and lose weight and I cant work areas since May??
I do strenght exrecise 30min a day 2-3 times a week and walk to work fast 5km a day.
I cant d anymore exercise neither eat less. If i go on strict diet I do for 2 weeks, im miserable & hungry. If I eat normal ( heatlhy porrigge, fruits veg - no fasts food, smoothies & water) im feeling ok, but I look bloated no matter what!
I geunine dont have time to exercise everyday day as I work 12h a day and im tired! I also had bad hand breakge and I cant lift heavy.
I dont want to ''just accept myself'' and live with fat hips and big arms! It looks aweful!
I wear size 6 tops and 8 trousers. My fat & belly sticked out of trousers always!! and top with long sleeve are very tight. If i buy size bigger trousers then fall off or top look ''to big'' but arm wis is ok.
I am thining to cancel my holiday as i cant stand the fact that i tried for soo many months and i still have fat around my belly & hips.
I know some of you will say perfect.. but funny enough... only girls who are 'bigger'' than me saying im ok, and slimmer girls agree.
I dont want to accept my fat, its not looking good! if you look at me you ''can tell i dont exercise'' but i do exercise!
You can abuse me now. yes im stupid, role models all that... but why on earth no one want to accept the fact I just want to have healthy skinny body?? how come the fitness girls can do and this is acceptable but with normal girl it ''must be something wrong with her''??
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Search the term "recomposition". I think you're focusing on the wrong goals. You should focus on lowering your Body Fat%, not your scale weight.0
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i am not even looking at the scale. I am all about the areas, scale is only kind of ''telling me'' if there has been progress or not. I mentioned mutile times in text I am all about the arms & huge hips as this just look ridicolous, rest o my body is ok, i have oke legs etc.0
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I dont think you need to lose weight. If you want to be toned up you need to increase your lean body mass and reduce your body fat %. the number on the scales is not the significant factor here. it's the lean body mass to body fat ratio. (Just advice, however I dont think you need to change as you look good as you are).0
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ok, recomposition is still probably what you want to do, though. Please search/google that term.0
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Ermygawd! You look beautiful if that's your profile pic. The most sexy thing a woman can have is self confidence. No ones looking at small fat rolls or anything like that. I'm Telling you, everyone loves confidence and it doesn't matter how great you look, without it everyone can see your weak self esteem, which comes off as needy for attention which is not sexy. Find out how to give that a boost. Cancelling a holiday over how "fat" you are is no way to live a life. A tad obsessive. I hope you can get over that attitude because it ain't healthy.0
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If really does sound like you should recomp not lose weight.0
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I don't see anything unhealthy looking in your profile pic. Maybe you are just being too impatient. If it took you 10 years to gain this weight, why would you think you can take it off quickly and look the same. With an overly agressive diet you are going to lose quite a bit of muscle along with the fat and you will not look the same as if you lost more slowly.
If you really want to get that look back, then you need to do some type of resistance training and keep a smaller calorie deficit. You need to lose fat and maintain muscle. If you can't lift, then talk to the doctor treating your injury about what type of resistance work would be saft for you.0 -
lovellm122 wrote: »I dont think you need to lose weight. If you want to be toned up you need to increase your lean body mass and reduce your body fat %. the number on the scales is not the significant factor here. it's the lean body mass to body fat ratio. (Just advice, however I dont think you need to change as you look good as you are).
How do you know I look good? if you see girl on street with crop top and her belly stcks out- do you think she sill look good even she is overall normal weight?
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wow, three whole months huh?
in my experience, when people are "trying everything" they tend to lack consistency over time and patience...all of which are requisites.
a fitness body doesn't come from working out for a couple of months and dieting...it is a bi-product of living that lifestyle over time...three months is nothing.0 -
jessica22222 wrote: »Ermygawd! You look beautiful if that's your profile pic. The most sexy thing a woman can have is self confidence. No ones looking at small fat rolls or anything like that. I'm Telling you, everyone loves confidence and it doesn't matter how great you look, without it everyone can see your weak self esteem, which comes off as needy for attention which is not sexy. Find out how to give that a boost. Cancelling a holiday over how "fat" you are is no way to live a life. A tad obsessive. I hope you can get over that attitude because it ain't healthy.
this is 2005 picture 10 years ago.. i was 43kg kilo's then...
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You haven't tried "everything" it's just that whatever you're doing currently isn't achieving your expectations.
Consistent reasonable calorie deficit (don't go for 2lbs a week).
Patience.
You cannot dictate how fat comes off. If you hold fat in your arms and hips more than anywhere else, it's because of genetics and you can't change that. However you can control your overall body fat % and it's based on the formula above.
Unfortunately how you view yourself versus others is an issue you need to address on your own. All I can tell you is that nobody really cares about how you look because they are all just at worried about how they look to everyone else.
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GirlyNonsense wrote: »lovellm122 wrote: »I dont think you need to lose weight. If you want to be toned up you need to increase your lean body mass and reduce your body fat %. the number on the scales is not the significant factor here. it's the lean body mass to body fat ratio. (Just advice, however I dont think you need to change as you look good as you are).
How do you know I look good? if you see girl on street with crop top and her belly stcks out- do you think she sill look good even she is overall normal weight?
Thought that was a recent pic. And yeah I prefer curves than toned on a woman.0 -
Sounds like you need to recomp, there is a good thread about it here: Recomposition Thread
You sound like you have a lot of fat and not much muscle (sometimes called skinnyfat but the term is pretty board). Your ticker says you need to loose 3kg, I think best to forget about dropping weight and focus on building muscle.
Start a proper lifting programme where the aim is to lift heavier each week.0 -
I would suggest that having a goal to look exactly like your 21 year old self is unrealistic. Some women are still developing at that age.
You are already a healthy weight and as others have said, it sounds like fat loss / recomposition should be your goal.0 -
You haven't tried "everything" it's just that whatever you're doing currently isn't achieving your expectations.
Unfortunately how you view yourself versus others is an issue you need to address on your own. All I can tell you is that nobody really cares about how you look because they are all just at worried about how they look to everyone else.
A.C.E. Certified Personal and Group Fitness Trainer
IDEA Fitness member
Kickboxing Certified Instructor
Been in fitness for 30 years and have studied kinesiology and nutrition
make sens.. you made me feel slight better, only tiny bit...;)0 -
cwolfman13 wrote: »wow, three whole months huh?
in my experience, when people are "trying everything" they tend to lack consistency over time and patience...all of which are requisites.
a fitness body doesn't come from working out for a couple of months and dieting...it is a bi-product of living that lifestyle over time...three months is nothing.
that made me cry... so..now i need 10 yhears to lose weight, no hope for me?0 -
I am 31 yr old like you. The only way I was able to get the body I wanted (tight and toned, visible abs, no bulges, etc) was through intensive exercise. It's the only way. With diet you can loose weight but when you start getting down to lower weights you will just be skinny fat. If it matters to you, you have to find the time for exercise. I work up to 12 hr per day, often flying to other cities for the day for work and have to look after a family, but my health is also a priority so I make time for exercise. It also gives me more energy, makes me feel super happy and accomplished and helps me sleep better. I also exercise at home, no gym because i don't have time to waste getting there etc. A quick HITT routine with plyometrics and body weight exercises would likely give you the results you are after. If you want to look like those fitness girls you have to work like those fitness girls.0
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lovellm122 wrote: »GirlyNonsense wrote: »lovellm122 wrote: »I dont think you need to lose weight. If you want to be toned up you need to increase your lean body mass and reduce your body fat %. the number on the scales is not the significant factor here. it's the lean body mass to body fat ratio. (Just advice, however I dont think you need to change as you look good as you are).
How do you know I look good? if you see girl on street with crop top and her belly stcks out- do you think she sill look good even she is overall normal weight?
Thought that was a recent pic. And yeah I prefer curves than toned on a woman.
I wish that as well! this is my goal picture only. I know guys does.. but i dont like myself at all.0 -
I am 31 yr old like you. The only way I was able to get the body I wanted (tight and toned, visible abs, no bulges, etc) was through intensive exercise. It's the only way. With diet you can loose weight but when you start getting down to lower weights you will just be skinny fat. If it matters to you, you have to find the time for exercise. I work up to 12 hr per day, often flying to other cities for the day for work and have to look after a family, but my health is also a priority so I make time for exercise. It also gives me more energy, makes me feel super happy and accomplished and helps me sleep better. I also exercise at home, no gym because i don't have time to waste getting there etc. A quick HITT routine with plyometrics and body weight exercises would likely give you the results you are after. If you want to look like those fitness girls you have to work like those fitness girls.
now we talking... whats HITT & plymotrcis before I google that & gives me 1000 different answers...0 -
If you are unhappy where you are at...then THE LAST THING YOU SHOULD DO IS GIVE UP! You need to have patience... It took me 1 year to lose 35 lbs...but doing it in a sustainable way makes it a lifestyle change. Hang in there. We are all in the same boat.0
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GirlyNonsense wrote: »cwolfman13 wrote: »wow, three whole months huh?
in my experience, when people are "trying everything" they tend to lack consistency over time and patience...all of which are requisites.
a fitness body doesn't come from working out for a couple of months and dieting...it is a bi-product of living that lifestyle over time...three months is nothing.
that made me cry... so..now i need 10 yhears to lose weight, no hope for me?
There is a lot of time between 3 months and 10 years. I'm betting you could do it in one year, if you really apply yourself.0 -
i know but i have been trying for years, losing patience and next year starting again...jessicarobinson00 wrote: »If you are unhappy where you are at...then THE LAST THING YOU SHOULD DO IS GIVE UP! You need to have patience... It took me 1 year to lose 35 lbs...but doing it in a sustainable way makes it a lifestyle change. Hang in there. We are all in the same boat.
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GirlyNonsense wrote: »cwolfman13 wrote: »wow, three whole months huh?
in my experience, when people are "trying everything" they tend to lack consistency over time and patience...all of which are requisites.
a fitness body doesn't come from working out for a couple of months and dieting...it is a bi-product of living that lifestyle over time...three months is nothing.
that made me cry... so..now i need 10 yhears to lose weight, no hope for me?
Nobody can put a clear timeline on what you can achieve. 3 months can make a massive difference, particularly with you being not being over weight to start with. I lost 49 pounds of fat in the last 5 months and put 7 pounds of muscle on. You just need to focus on resistance training, keep doing some cardio, and getting a clean diet. In 3 months you could have made a massive change
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GirlyNonsense wrote: »You can abuse me now. yes im stupid, role models all that... but why on earth no one want to accept the fact I just want to have healthy skinny body?? how come the fitness girls can do and this is acceptable but with normal girl it ''must be something wrong with her''??
If you're talking about fitness models, most will have an 'off season' when their body fat is higher. Aspiring to look like them is another unrealisitic goal.
I recommend reading this: https://gokaleo.com/2012/03/27/im-calling-for-a-new-paradigm/0 -
KarenJanine wrote: »GirlyNonsense wrote: »You can abuse me now. yes im stupid, role models all that... but why on earth no one want to accept the fact I just want to have healthy skinny body?? how come the fitness girls can do and this is acceptable but with normal girl it ''must be something wrong with her''??
If you're talking about fitness models, most will have an 'off season' when their body fat is higher. Aspiring to look like them is another unrealisitic goal.
I recommend reading this: https://gokaleo.com/2012/03/27/im-calling-for-a-new-paradigm/
Yeah. basically fitness model look that way only a couple of times a year for photo shoots. In real life they are not perfect all year round. Some of the ones who become obsessed with looking that good every day end up becoming ill, or worse.0 -
You have to want it enough to stick with it. If you give up you are guaranteed not to succeed. Whereas if you keep trying, you at least have the chance of getting there. Plus, just the act of trying will make you feel better about your weight ("yes, I'm overweight, but I'm doing something about it.")0
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GirlyNonsense wrote: »cwolfman13 wrote: »wow, three whole months huh?
in my experience, when people are "trying everything" they tend to lack consistency over time and patience...all of which are requisites.
a fitness body doesn't come from working out for a couple of months and dieting...it is a bi-product of living that lifestyle over time...three months is nothing.
that made me cry... so..now i need 10 yhears to lose weight, no hope for me?
you're missing the point entirely. the betterment of yourself in all aspects is a result of doing things over time, not just doing things for a couple of months. I live a fitness centric and nutritionally driven lifestyle...thus I'm fit and healthy and maintain a healthy weight.
It took me almost a year to lose about 40 Lbs...that was almost 3 years ago...since then I've been training and eating right...two years later I'm the same weight, but I'm down to 12% BF vs 15%...so same weight on the scale, but leaner...but yeah...time and patience...this isn't some t.v. show.0 -
LoGirlyNonsense wrote: »jessica22222 wrote: »Ermygawd! You look beautiful if that's your profile pic. The most sexy thing a woman can have is self confidence. No ones looking at small fat rolls or anything like that. I'm Telling you, everyone loves confidence and it doesn't matter how great you look, without it everyone can see your weak self esteem, which comes off as needy for attention which is not sexy. Find out how to give that a boost. Cancelling a holiday over how "fat" you are is no way to live a life. A tad obsessive. I hope you can get over that attitude because it ain't healthy.
this is 2005 picture 10 years ago.. i was 43kg kilo's then...
lol! K I had 2 kids and my body will never be the same. I'm not crying over the stretch marks on my belly, my saggy boobs or my hoohoo. I won't ever be 10 years ago. You can't turn back time. Like I said being happy with who you are is the best thing for your mind and spirit. Patience and perseverance like many people you see on here will get you where you want to be.0 -
HITT stands for High Intensity Interval Training, it is an effective cardio method for weight loss. You can find some simple HITT routines online. If you don't have any equipment the best thing to do is lace up your sneakers and run ( I run). Essentially you want to intersperse high intensity bursts (all out sprints) with recovery. Ex, 5 minute warm up, 30 second sprint, one minute recovery X 10, 5 minute cool down. Plyometrics are explosive body weight exercises (jump squats, burps, jump lunges, power push-ups, etc). You can find good plyometric routines on-line. You only need running shoes and an open space to do it in. HITT and plyometrics are intense forms of exercise and you should work at your own level and progress slowly because if you do too much too soon you can injure yourself. Oxygen Magazine, FitnessRX for Her, fitness blender and pop sugar all have home routines. Combine with diet (I used to be 40-45% carb, 40-45% protein, 15% fat before pregnancy....now I eat 45-50% carb, 30-35% protein, 25% fat... I'm 20 weeks pregnant) and it's a good way to start. You won't see changes over night but with time and dedication you should start to see changes in your body composition.0
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