How do you stay motivated when...

I havent dealt with that personally, but it sounds like your focus may be a little off-you've lost LOTS of weight, which you should be thankful for. May be you can look in to having the extra skin removed. I know realisticly that isnt affordable for most, so in the mean time work on may be toning it or seeking medical advice on what can be done with it until you can afford to have it removed. Congrats on the weight loss lady! Celebrate your achievements and how far you've come!

I havent gotten there yet, but that is exactly what I fear would happen to me. I am always afraid that even though I think that I will feel better about my looks when I lose weight, what would happen if I lose the weight and am still unhappy? I know it is hard to get through- but just focus on what you have accomplished and the other things that you have gained, like your health and energy and a better life for you and your children. As for the other things- why dont you talk to your doctor about ways to get rid of the extra skin? Even though it might take longer, I think there are ways to help your skin go back without surgery, or even with surgery if you would be ok with that. And, you can talk to your dr or try to find different exersizes that would focus on your hips and thighs to get them toned the way you want them to. Dont give up on yourself and the choices that youve made for yourself!:)

i seem to have the same problem, i have always had a eating disorder my whole life. When i starved myself in my teens i was underweight and sick alot, but i still saw a fat, ugly person staring back at me in the mirror. My self image was and still is terrible. No matter what i will always be that fat ugly person no one wants to be friends with. As an adult i am trying to figure it all out, but its hard still i am hard on myself, will never look the way i want and it is all in my head. It has everything to do with how i view myself and how my self worth level is at. Its all in your head you see the stuff no one else see's and pick apart your body until its nothing but all the bad stuff. I was told i focus on only the bad, and not see the good. So i am right there with you, except i havent lost all the weight you have lost and i know once i get there i will do the same..... I believe there is a deeper emotional issues to have to deal with on my journey that i hope i accomplish...

I am at the lowest weight since I got preggo with my 11 years old son. Why oh why do a feel like a fat whale? I have no idea but I really feel like I have never been that fat in my life!!! Maybe it's just the extra skin ( after 6 kids I have some) I am now trying to lose another 5 pounds. Hopefully I will know where to stop. Good luck

I am completely in the same place as you!!!! Granted, I still have about 10-15 pounds to lose to get in and under the healthy range for my height. I still see what I used to look like and even though I have lost significant weight... I pull at the hanging flab that hangs right above my pelvic bone. I had 2 kids back to back plus going up and down my whole life. I still wear larger clothes because I can't believe I fit in single digit clothes. I put on a pair of 8 jeans, they zipped, felt great (loose but fitted) and mentally, I told myself...this must not be a true 8 (must be an exaggerated size...vanity sizing or something like that).

If you come up with any ideas... let me know... I look at old photos of myself and photos of myself now. Sometimes... it actually takes looking at a picture without my face (from behind...neck down... to go oh hey, that person doesn't look too bad or that person looks good) and then realize that person is me.

However, I do know this... we have to accept ourselves and reward ourselves with positive expression and love... otherwise, if we keep seeing our old self... we may become that person again!