I know it starts with me ... But I'm not scared to say I need you

Tell me about it. I'm a restarter from way back so can totally relate to what you're sayin. I am just starting to learn that it all starts in the mind and am now on a course called "mindful eating" which also includes meditation. I used to live in Oz. Add me if you want to

Another Aussie - what exactly do you struggle with? Diet?
And why do you want to change?

Oky doky. Do you know what it will take to get you to your goal weight?
What is your goal weight?

First step is changing your mindset and realising that the path won't be easy and will take dedication.
Controlling your diet is paramount - excuses will cause failure! It's a slippery slope.

I found changing my diet was difficult until I discovered food alternatives that weren't terrible. Egg is everywhere. Protein powders every day. Chicken breast is daily etc etc.

What have you changed with regards to your diet when you have tried? Simply not eating will almost always lead to failure.

Being depressed and in that mindset at that age is not great, but only you can do something about it!

I'm nearly 33 and from New Zealand. I've got 50kgs to lose. Have added you as a friend. We can help each other ☺

Hi there! I know the feeling. I was also a re- re- re starter as you said. But other times I did it to just look good and please other ppl NOW Iam doing it for myself, to feel better, to be happy with my body, to demonstrate to myself that I am not just a quiter, I can do it.
The journey will not be easy but c'mon we can do it! There's a phrase that helps me everytime I want to cheat: "What you eat in private, ypu wear in public". Hope it helps!

For me changing my focus was key.

'I'm not here to lose weight, but to get healthy.'

Reframing why I need to lose weight was important. When I thought I'd be happier, and more successful if I was thin, my motivation was very results driven, crazy workouts, and diet that weren't sustainable in the long term. When I started thinking about things as being making myself healthy and weight loss as the by-product of being healthy it made me realize that this isn't a short term fix that you can 'win' at. It's a life long change, that only works with small measured sustainable changes.

Good Luck!

This may sound crazy but I started realizing that with so many things not just food I created who I am by defining small things that added up to create a picture of who I saw myself as. For example anytime someone brought up the subject of beans I would say, "I hate beans except green beans". Announcing what they should know about me..who Lynn is. I really felt that was me. "I hate exercise. I have never liked it", "Oh no, not me. I have to have my steak and m&m's", "I can never stick with anything". ...All these things. Once I started really hearing myself I decided I don't have to be what I've always been. Lyn probably loves beans she just hasn't tried them since she was a kid. My new years resolution that year was to try all those healthy foods when they were offered or on a menu. Then one day I said, I , Lynn am going to be that person who gets up early and goes to the gym. Later I decided I am going to be the person who eats healthy and I will be that person I see doing triathlons. It is who I am. You can be the person who lives a healthy lifestyle. I slip up sometimes but I just start over the next meal or the next day. That restarting happens to everyone but the person you want to be keeps going. Restart every day if you have to. This whole thing may sound really Corny but WHO does tamstar really want to be? Forget who you've always been.