Grief and weight loss

Hi, I'm sorry for your loss. After the initial stress weight loss I gained about 16lbs. It was due to eating lots of calorie dense convenience foods. It took me 18 months to get my emotions under control enough to start home cooking again and pre- preparing my breakfasts and lunches and longer to get back to excersising. I've lost 26lbs in 27 weeks. Just put one foot infront of the other and don't think too hard and you'll get there when you're ready.

I'm so glad I found this thread. I've been dealing with the loss of my mother for over a year and now I'm losing my boyfriend to a terminal illness and I've been looking for some support on here.

But to answer your question, I did gain some weight back after losing my mom and I think the only thing that helped me get back on track was a group fitness class at my gym. After forcing myself to workout again, I realized how good I felt afterwards and I kept it going until I lost some more weight. Lately, I've been in a slump though. Realizing how little time my boyfriend has left has got me back off track and I'm looking for some friends to get me back on track, so add me if you want!

I have been in the same situation. I lost my Mom, September 19, 2014. Three days after I started a weight loss challenge at the gym. Those first 3-4 months were a blur. I lost 12 lbs those 3 months of the challenge. I was so sad and turned to alcohol after work to just get through the days. After the first of the year, I decided that I didn't want to live like that. I couldn't, so I became a gym rat as they say. Working out like crazy, and in March I started running. I now love it! It clears my mind, and it takes the stress of everything away while I'm running. I have lost 62 lbs since January. Mfp, and my fitness goals have got me through this most difficult time in my life. I have great support in my family and friend, but working out had been an outlet for my sadness that no one can give me. There are days that grief overcomes me, and I lost it. But I think about my Mom, and know, she wouldn't want me to be sad. I've changed my lifestyle so I don't end up like her. She was in a lot of pain, taking 30 pills a day, so many medical conditions. I told myself I had to change for myself, my kids, and for her. I am now running in my first half marathon in 34 days. Feel fee to add me as a friend, I know what you all are going through.

Amazing testimonials. I am so glad that this thread is here! Power &strength to you all, I know we can do this.

Wow...I'm sorry for everyone's losses. My husband unexpectedly passed away earlier this year. I stopped eating and living, losing about 20 pounds in the first 2-3 weeks after his death. I only existed enough to take care of my children. Then I started eating again....fast food. I didn't have to work at it. It was already cooked for us. The pounds came back and I realized that I didn't want to just exist anymore...I really want to live, even if I'm sad and cry while buying toilet paper. Grief is wacky. Now I'm eating more fruits and veggies and I'm really trying to stay focused on myself for my children's sake and my own. I'm still sad and cry whenever it hits, but I have nutrients in my body that seem to help minimize my headaches and other symptoms of grief. You'll figure it out!! You'll get to where you want to be!

Firstly, my sympathy to everyone here who has lost someone they love.

Not long after starting to try to lose weight my Mum passed away from Cancer....she 'lived' for 5 months after diagnosis and in that time with the amount of round-the-clock nursing and supervision she needed it was indeed too hard for me to maintain focus on myself.

It was many long months before I had the energy and inner reserves to get back on the wagon....during the time I ate terribly, slept fitfully and simply just getting through each day was chore enough.

Eventually though the adage of time healing does come to pass....I found myself wondering if this was what my Mother would have wanted me to live like, was my life honouring her or myself. Let alone those still alive in my family....my Husband and Kids did deserve a Mum who was at her healthiest and happiest.

So slowly I got back into logging, I found that soothing in a way. I knew that I would lose weight just by counting calories even if I didn't feel up to exercise. That logging then started me focusing on the nutrient side of things too....I quickly realised I was doing no-one any favours by consuming the majority of my calories via less nutrient dense foods....so there in lay another challenge....getting adequate good nutrition. Doing this really helped, it gave me a lot of strength and helped my sleep and stopped the highs and lows of blood sugar crashes I was getting.

Then came exercise....I LOVE walking, I always have, I find it freeing and very meditative so I started going for walks. Getting out in the fresh air, sunshine or not was so uplifting. I realised that life goes on regardless. There were flowers blooming and people to wave at and say a quick Hello on the trails....it helped with my feelings of isolation and stagnation.

I wish everyone all the best....take it slowly. Be kind to yourself and look after yourself as well as you can possibly manage.....The darkness does lift and time does heal.

{{{Hugs to you all}}}