non supportive people

I'm so sorry to hear that, unfortunately they say a lot of it stems from insecurity of change and sometimes jealousy because they can't or won't change to help themselves get healthy. Just keep your chin up and pressing on things will get better

999tigger wrote: »

I think its a waste of time and energy expecting other people to be into your diet, as long as they dont actively obstruct or discourage thats enough. Its your diet not theirs, so ignore them and focus your energies on yourself instead of worrying about others.

Yup, if they aren't physically knocking food out of your mouth keep doing what you're doing. Some people don't know how to support, they might think they are being helpful. Sometimes your successes make other people insecure in their efforts (if any!). There are so many different variables it is best to have a clear conversation with your family about your goals.

I'm sorry to hear that. This journey is much better with company. That's why I turn to social media. I have way more health minded friends online than in real life. It's not ideal, but it works for now. Once you've reached your goals it'll change from "why" to "how"!

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

I'm really hurt at the fact that some of my own family can't not be supportive on the way I'm losing weight apparently watching calories is starving my self and I am never gonna lose weight and that I should only eat meat and dairy no veggies fruits pastas or bread !! Why can't the people you love be as supportive as the strangers on here

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XavierNusum wrote: »

I'm sorry to hear that. This journey is much better with company. That's why I turn to social media. I have way more health minded friends online than in real life. It's not ideal, but it works for now. Once you've reached your goals it'll change from "why" to "how"!

My family is supportive. But I like folks on here because they all really "get it". One thing I really like is that it isn't very competitive. Meaning, I have yet to read where someone had written " oh, you only have 25# to lose, I have 100#. You don't know what it's like. ". Everyone is different but we're all here to support each other in a common goal. To be as fit and healthy as we can be, no matter where we each start.

There are saboteurs in the places we least expect it sometimes. I remember when I went from 190 to 115 it took me around a year and a half. I worked really hard and cut back my calories and started exercising almost every day. People would tell me I looked great and they couldn't believe how much I lost and other people would just stare at me and snicker out of jealousy. It wasn't until a few years later someone told me that the rumor was that I got so thin because I was using drugs. That hurt because it undermined all the hard work I put in, it hurt because I grew up with an alcohol and drug addicted parent so I have zero interest in partaking in either activity, and it hurt most of all because I found out that people I thought were good friends chose to believe the rumor instead of me saying it was my diet and exercise.

I don't understand why it's so hard for some people to believe that cutting calories and working out is all it takes to be healthier. I'm sorry your family isn't supportive. My mom has always been overweight and she constantly made hurtful remarks about my body. Coworkers have told me I look pregnant at 115 pounds because I had a food belly or have said "uh oh, you're getting fat again!" Some people are jealous, disgusting jerks. Keep on doing what you're doing and don't let anyone stand in the way of your success.

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

I'm going to continue doing what I'm doing staying at around 1100-1200 calories a day ((1630..target)) I have been full all day with what I'm eating !!

I've read about people who adjusted to 1200 calories and were able to maintain it. Me not so much. I started off at 1200 but did not find it sustainable. Most of my friends were the same. We had to up to at least 1350. Right now I am using around 1450 as a goal, plus eating back exercise calories. Just give yourself permission to up your intake if you find yourself hungry all the time. And, um, if you are struggling, try reducing your carbs (just a little) and upping your protein and fats.

Edit: I somehow read right past the 1630 target. Personally I think there is nothing wrong with being slightly more aggressive in the early days, but there is a reason MFP chose 1630 as a target for you. 1200 was my MFP calculated target.

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

I'm going to continue doing what I'm doing staying at around 1100-1200 calories a day ((1630..target)) I have been full all day with what I'm eating !!

Just because you are physically full doesn't mean you are getting enough nutrients to properly run your body.

williamsmommy0823 wrote: »

This was not a post to start drama . I'm just stating my issues I'll eat more if I need to but I am full now sure maybe later some friut but not now

I like to call the first few days (sometimes up to 2 weeks) the honeymoon period. You can coast calorie-wise for a while. No harm as far as I'm concerned. Enjoy. But just remember that it's not sustainable.

I feel your pain! I have family that rolls their eyes at me if I even mention weightloss or exercise...and this is after I've now lost almost 70 lbs very slowly...one of the other ladies on here nailed it, most people are jealous of your success, or even maybe intimidated by your efforts. But it's your life, your body, your diet...only you are going to be able to do this, with or without their support. Chin up, you CAN do it! xoxo

I know people in here are saying that she should eat more, but you also need to consider how she records her food. If she only uses measuring cups or eyeballs it, aiming for 1100 to 1200 isn't bad because she could actually be taking in more calories based on those estimations which will most likely end up putting her at her 1600 goal. However, if she weighs everything on a food scale to the gram, then yes, she should be consuming more calories. My allowance is 1200 and I think I've only been below that twice when I wasn't feeling very well. Food is fuel.

synacious wrote: »

I know people in here are saying that she should eat more, but you also need to consider how she records her food. If she only uses measuring cups or eyeballs it, aiming for 1100 to 1200 isn't bad because she could actually be taking in more calories based on those estimations which will most likely end up putting her at her 1600 goal. However, if she weighs everything on a food scale to the gram, then yes, she should be consuming more calories. My allowance is 1200 and I think I've only been below that twice when I wasn't feeling very well. Food is fuel.

Good point!

OP - are you weighing your food & logging it all? (whoah, can you see your family now, lol, that should send 'em over the edge....).