Binge Eating Disorder

rbfdac · August 2015

I have recently been diagnosed with this disorder. I guess I'm looking for some people who have some experience with this. Going through, in recovery, doesn't matter. If you might be one of those people, please add me as a friend and feel free to PM me if you want. I didn't feel like this belonged in the "introduce yourself" or any other category.

mbaker566 · August 2015

i just wanted to say welcome. i don't fall into a BED category but hi

rbfdac · August 2015

I suppose I should say that I didn't think this belonged in the "introduce yourself" category because I'm not new. I've been here almost a year now and have successfully lost weight, but finally was diagnosed, so it all makes more sense now!

Hi to you Moyer

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rbfdac · August 2015

I couldn't find it if there is one, shell. Can you assist?

mbaker566 · August 2015

if you think it's a good fit, there is an OA group here. Probably a lot of people there who can relate. I don't know if you are there are not. I'm not one of the cool kids

mrron2u · August 2015

I just had to finally confront my binge eating disorder a few months ago. I have since become active in an Overeaters Anonymous group that is here on MFP. It's really helping. It's a private group and the people on there are very good to talk with. Look it up if you feel comfortable doing so. I feel like I stand out as one of the few men there, but the women are really nice and I've really made progress with my BED because of them. It's an ugly addiction that is hard to break. If I was into drug or alcohol, I'd avoid bars and/or where ever one goes to get drugs, but you gotta eat and food is EVERYWHERE!!!

mrron2u · August 2015

Oh and if you want to - add me - I'm very active and try to be very supportive to my MFP friends.

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jgnatca · August 2015

Is this an active group?

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/100766-eating-disorder-support-group

I don't have BED myself, but I have sympathy.

mrron2u · August 2015

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/group/101992-overeaters-anonymous

Does this link work for you?

mbaker566 · August 2015

mrron2u wrote: »

I just had to finally confront my binge eating disorder a few months ago. I have since become active in an Overeaters Anonymous group that is here on MFP. It's really helping. It's a private group and the people on there are very good to talk with. Look it up if you feel comfortable doing so. I feel like I stand out as one of the few men there, but the women are really nice and I've really made progress with my BED because of them. It's an ugly addiction that is hard to break. If I was into drug or alcohol, I'd avoid bars and/or where ever one goes to get drugs, but you gotta eat and food is EVERYWHERE!!!

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rbfdac · August 2015

Thank you guys!

mrron2u wrote: »

I just had to finally confront my binge eating disorder a few months ago. I have since become active in an Overeaters Anonymous group that is here on MFP. It's really helping. It's a private group and the people on there are very good to talk with. Look it up if you feel comfortable doing so. I feel like I stand out as one of the few men there, but the women are really nice and I've really made progress with my BED because of them. It's an ugly addiction that is hard to break. If I was into drug or alcohol, I'd avoid bars and/or where ever one goes to get drugs, but you gotta eat and food is EVERYWHERE!!!

BED is definitely horrible. I never quite understood that what I was doing was not normal, so I'm glad I've finally been diagnosed and can finally begin to take control over it!

msharrington315 · August 2015

I have successfully lost over 200 pounds and been struggling to maintain. I too have a binge eating problem (undiagnosed). I would like to connect with others who are struggling with this disorder as it does not just go away after losing all of this weight. In fact, it just feels worse now that I have worked so hard to get here.

ixiHemlock · August 2015

I have struggled with disordered eating my entire adolescent and adult life. One thing that I find helps me personally is abandoning the idea of needed to be perfect in my diet, because that sets the stage for feeling deprived which quickly descends into binge eating. I am sure we've all heard it a million times, but eating regularly helps instead of getting in this crash cycle. Be kind to yourself. It's not the end of the world if one day you "need" to have a "bad" food, just work on moderation first.
That being said however, I also took baby steps to divorce myself from some foods that I seem to have no control over/a bad relationship with. For me, that's Taco Bell and pasta. Then after that it became a divorce from all fast food in general. For binging in my case this was a huge step because I used to just drive around in my car and stop at several fast food places to binge (making sure my car didn't smell of food/have trash because I was ashamed, lying to my partner about where I went) and so even if I was eating junk at home, it felt good to cut out the fast food. It's also nice to think about how much money I'm saving.
When I talk about the divorcing/having a bad relationship, I really mean it exactly like that...I have a bad relationship with some foods that makes me feel bad, so I dumped them. I literally think of cheating with one of these foods as having sex with an ex, and that stops me from going to get it. Recognize the negative emotional impact (highs and lows, obsessing, etc) this food has on you, and break up with them. Eventually you'll stop missing it. (Sounds crazy, I know)
Another huge tip I have is simply do not by binge items for your household...this one is hard when you have a family that eats junk, but by simply not having pasta, chips, ice cream, cereal, etc. around, it's not nagging on your mind that you have access to those foods. Having even the willpower to be on a huge binge on the stuff you do have at home, but stopping yourself from going to the store is a HUGE step. So just take baby steps. Make one tiny change at a time and build on it and be kind to yourself.

WBB55 · August 2015

msharrington315 wrote: »

I have successfully lost over 200 pounds and been struggling to maintain. I too have a binge eating problem (undiagnosed). I would like to connect with others who are struggling with this disorder as it does not just go away after losing all of this weight. In fact, it just feels worse now that I have worked so hard to get here.

I know your feels. Good job with your loss. Forgive yourself the days you go over, but just keep logging. Be honest about the binges BUT DON'T BEAT YOURSELF UP ABOUT THEM.

mrron2u · August 2015

msharrington315 wrote: »

I have successfully lost over 200 pounds and been struggling to maintain. I too have a binge eating problem (undiagnosed). I would like to connect with others who are struggling with this disorder as it does not just go away after losing all of this weight. In fact, it just feels worse now that I have worked so hard to get here.

I have this fear of gaining back what I've lost (I've already done this in fact). I am trying to tap in to every resource I can to keep me honest and to deal with my self diagnosed binge eating disorder. As I stated above, being a part of the OA group is helping me a lot. Feel free to reach out to me too!

kshama2001 · August 2015

ixiHemlock wrote: »

I have struggled with disordered eating my entire adolescent and adult life. One thing that I find helps me personally is abandoning the idea of needed to be perfect in my diet, because that sets the stage for feeling deprived which quickly descends into binge eating. I am sure we've all heard it a million times, but eating regularly helps instead of getting in this crash cycle. Be kind to yourself. It's not the end of the world if one day you "need" to have a "bad" food, just work on moderation first.
That being said however, I also took baby steps to divorce myself from some foods that I seem to have no control over/a bad relationship with. For me, that's Taco Bell and pasta. Then after that it became a divorce from all fast food in general. For binging in my case this was a huge step because I used to just drive around in my car and stop at several fast food places to binge (making sure my car didn't smell of food/have trash because I was ashamed, lying to my partner about where I went) and so even if I was eating junk at home, it felt good to cut out the fast food. It's also nice to think about how much money I'm saving.
When I talk about the divorcing/having a bad relationship, I really mean it exactly like that...I have a bad relationship with some foods that makes me feel bad, so I dumped them. I literally think of cheating with one of these foods as having sex with an ex, and that stops me from going to get it. Recognize the negative emotional impact (highs and lows, obsessing, etc) this food has on you, and break up with them. Eventually you'll stop missing it. (Sounds crazy, I know)
Another huge tip I have is simply do not by binge items for your household...this one is hard when you have a family that eats junk, but by simply not having pasta, chips, ice cream, cereal, etc. around, it's not nagging on your mind that you have access to those foods. Having even the willpower to be on a huge binge on the stuff you do have at home, but stopping yourself from going to the store is a HUGE step. So just take baby steps. Make one tiny change at a time and build on it and be kind to yourself.

I like the divorce concept. Thanks for sharing

MM1803 · August 2015

ixiHemlock wrote: »

I have struggled with disordered eating my entire adolescent and adult life. One thing that I find helps me personally is abandoning the idea of needed to be perfect in my diet, because that sets the stage for feeling deprived which quickly descends into binge eating. I am sure we've all heard it a million times, but eating regularly helps instead of getting in this crash cycle. Be kind to yourself. It's not the end of the world if one day you "need" to have a "bad" food, just work on moderation first.
That being said however, I also took baby steps to divorce myself from some foods that I seem to have no control over/a bad relationship with. For me, that's Taco Bell and pasta. Then after that it became a divorce from all fast food in general. For binging in my case this was a huge step because I used to just drive around in my car and stop at several fast food places to binge (making sure my car didn't smell of food/have trash because I was ashamed, lying to my partner about where I went) and so even if I was eating junk at home, it felt good to cut out the fast food. It's also nice to think about how much money I'm saving.
When I talk about the divorcing/having a bad relationship, I really mean it exactly like that...I have a bad relationship with some foods that makes me feel bad, so I dumped them. I literally think of cheating with one of these foods as having sex with an ex, and that stops me from going to get it. Recognize the negative emotional impact (highs and lows, obsessing, etc) this food has on you, and break up with them. Eventually you'll stop missing it. (Sounds crazy, I know)
Another huge tip I have is simply do not by binge items for your household...this one is hard when you have a family that eats junk, but by simply not having pasta, chips, ice cream, cereal, etc. around, it's not nagging on your mind that you have access to those foods. Having even the willpower to be on a huge binge on the stuff you do have at home, but stopping yourself from going to the store is a HUGE step. So just take baby steps. Make one tiny change at a time and build on it and be kind to yourself.

I really like that general advice! I have experienced the same with disordered and then binge eating. It might sound dramatic but it really has eclipsed the past five years of my life. I found that as my eating was out of control, I found it difficult to concentrate and began procrastinating a lot and also found it difficult to live a normal life.

Realising it's okay not to have perfect eating every day is really important! If one day is not perfect, it's okay and move on, don't feel like a failure.

rbfdac · August 2015

Thanks so much for the advice. I actually feel that just by finally being able to acknowledge this problem, it's already helping. For so long, I felt EVEN worse about the binge because I didnt talk about it. It was just this shameful thing that I did and led to even more shameful binges. I thought that these feelings were normal and experienced by everybody, but I was somehow different and unable to control things as well as others could. Now I know what's going on and it feels liberating.

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