Anorexic? ME? How bizarre!!

I have purposely put back on some weight to stop all of the assumptions, but am not happy. I lost the weight by eating around 1500 cals and exercising...that simple, no starvation and no unhealthy actions. So, you have my sympathies...when you are tall, it is a lot more obvious when you lose weight. Now, to be honest, I do have disordered thoughts, but I fight very, very hard to not allow them to take hold of me physically. I know the consequences of eating poorly and treating your body poorly. People also get really threatened when others start to lose weight and do positive things for themselves...I am sorry that you have to experience that :flowerforyou:
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See, that's what I'm talking about. I'm NOT going to gain weight to make others feel better about themselves. If they want to do something about their weight, let them. If they want to eat the way they do and gain, let them. I lost weight for ME. No one else but me. I got to where I couldn't wear any of my clothes. I didn't want to start buying new sizes because I knew that if I started doing that, I'd just get use to buying bigger and bigger sizes and before I knew it, I'd be wearing a 16 or 18. I got to the point where I was ashamed to make love to my husband beause of my weight gain. I didn't want him seeing me that big when he was use to seeing me so much smaller. LIke he even cared how big I was getting. He's a sweetheart and never mentioned anything about my weightgain. He loves me unconditional and told me that plenty of times. But still, I wanted to make a change. So, I started dieting. I can wear my old clothes now. Some are too big and I've bought smaller but I wear size 6-8. Which in my book, last time I checked, was far from anorexic.

I think they have gotten use to seeing me @ almost 160, so to them, I may look sickly. I am almost 30 pounds lighter ya know. But, I still don't think that gives them the right to say such harsh things to me...even if they did say it in a kind way. It still hurt.

Congratulations on hitting your goal! Your stomach looks fantastic in your profile pic, i'm very jealous! I am also so sorry that comments from others have been so hurtful and have resulted in you putting weight back ON to satisfy them. I have recently just hit my goal and have found exactly the same problem. I am putting it down to their own insecurities in that everyone has a goal weight but by "accusing" us of becoming anorexic and getting to that goal by unrealistic measures its like an excuse for their own lack of motivation (because we're obviously not doing it the healthy way and they just won't do that!) Does that make sense??

Well done anyway, keep up that hard work an make them all feel guilty lol! x

OH, I have NOT put the weight back on and I DON't plan on it. I was trying to quote what someone had commented and I was gonna comment on their quote but it didn't work right!

I am NOT going to gain the weight that I've worked my tail to get off!