Why am I failing

I'm not seeing much logging in your diary, and what is there isn't especially accurate. If you're estimating, that may have worked before, but clearly isn't working now.

Get a food scale and weigh everything you can. Log it so you know exactly how much you've eaten. Stick to your calories and you'll lose weight.

Your diary is empty/incomplete which shows a lack of discipline. If you are gaining weight at 2k then the obvious answer to lower your calories or exercise more. Since your logging is nonexistent I doubt you are eating 2k calories. Go back to the drawing boards, come up with a plan and stick to it.

^^^All this

Just accpet without arguing that if you are gaining its because you are in surplus. As pointed out you have no effecive means of measuring, so you really dont know how much you are eating with any accuracy.

If you lost a lot of weight and then gained it back again, the method you used was unsustainable. You can't keep the weight off unless the changes you make are permanent. If you can't make them permanent you need examine why and try to find different ways of eating that are sustainable for you. If you try to lose the weight again don't be tempted to do it the same way you did the first time. Accept that the method doesn't work and try something else.

I started off losing weight eating nothing but junk food but still maintaining a calorie deficit. It worked great but It required a massive amount of personal restraint and I couldn't keep it up. I lost 50lb but within 2 years it came back plus more (leaving me at 235lb).

Second time around I worked on making small changes that I could happily live with forever. It's possible to find healthy foods that you love, you just have keep searching. I lost 65lb the second time and have kept it off 5 years. Im still eating the exact same food I did while losing weight. I've never stopped trying new foods and I am still always looking for changes I can make to my diet that taste awesome and are marginally better than what I am doing already. Every change no matter how small, make a difference.

If your diet doesn't taste good enough to keep you coming back for years to come, keep changing it until it does. Never stop! Pick yourself up, start again and continue the research :-)

qubetha wrote: »

If you lost a lot of weight and then gained it back again, the method you used was unsustainable. You can't keep the weight off unless the changes you make are permanent. If you can't make them permanent you need examine why and try to find different ways of eating that are sustainable for you. If you try to lose the weight again don't be tempted to do it the same way you did the first time. Accept that the method doesn't work and try something else.

I started off losing weight eating nothing but junk food but still maintaining a calorie deficit. It worked great but It required a massive amount of personal restraint and I couldn't keep it up. I lost 50lb but within 2 years it came back plus more (leaving me at 235lb).

Second time around I worked on making small changes that I could happily live with forever. It's possible to find healthy foods that you love, you just have keep searching. I lost 65lb the second time and have kept it off 5 years. Im still eating the exact same food I did while losing weight. I've never stopped trying new foods and I am still always looking for changes I can make to my diet that taste awesome and are marginally better than what I am doing already. Every change no matter how small, make a difference.

If your diet doesn't taste good enough to keep you coming back for years to come, keep changing it until it does. Never stop! Pick yourself up, start again and continue the research :-)

Right here!!! This is one of the best comments I've ever read on this forum!

Forget everything else until you can come to terms with this. Most folks "yo-yo" diet because they go too extreme with the newest fad diet, calorie deficit or cardio program and it's just not sustainable for a happy life. You worrry about family functions, holiday parties or the occassional dinner out. Or just flat out binge at the first good stresser of life. Or best case you make your goal weight then try to eat "normally" and gain the weight back anyway. The worst part is if you don't emphasize strength training to preserve lean muscle you burn that with the fat, then whe you regain the weight, the majority of it is fat so know you have a higher body fat % and it's now harder the next time you commit to losing.

You have to find a regimine of healthy eating and exercise that preserves sanity and lean muscle.

Log all of your food and make sure you are eating at a correct deficit. Your weight gain suggests you are eating more than you should - are you weighing your food? :]

Tighten up your logging. Make it religious. I usually plan what I am going to eat the whole day the night before, and pre log. It lets me know where I am at through out the day if temptation sneaks in, I know what I can wiggle in. Soda's aren't a problem if you fit them in your deficit.

The elliptical is a feminine machine? What? WHO CARES! Exercise is for fitness, health, and fun. Do cardio you enjoy doing. That's the only way you will stick to it. If you hate the treadmill, go on walks outside. I got a couple high energy dogs. It doesn't matter what day I had, how I'm feeling, if they don't get walked, I don't sleep. If I don't want to take them on a leisurely 4 mile walk to tucker them out, we better run half that or I don't sleep. Find something that motivates you to move and do it!

Abram86 wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who responded. When I first began I cut out sugar and flour. I was drinking tea without sugar, gave up the stupid sodas. I was eating chicken breast, fish and pork chops and hamburgers cooked on the George foreman. If I did use oil to cook it was coconut. I rotated the above daily and I'd eat out once a week. I used to walk on the treadmill for 1 mile a day or until i burned between 100 t0 150 calories.
Now i drink 1 or 2 sodas a day especially when i feel stressed with my job. I don't get on the treadmill or elliptical like i used to because when i think about it after strength training i tell myself tommorow but it never happens. Idk why i hate the treadmill now. As for the elliptical i was told that was a feminine machine. As for logging I try to do that but some days I forget lol

Lol! (not at you, at the person who told you this) I do see a lot of women on the elliptical, but I have seen guys on it too - trucking like beasts. My bf uses it too.

I wasn't aware they were girly machines. X)

Abram86 wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who responded. When I first began I cut out sugar and flour. I was drinking tea without sugar, gave up the stupid sodas. I was eating chicken breast, fish and pork chops and hamburgers cooked on the George foreman. If I did use oil to cook it was coconut. I rotated the above daily and I'd eat out once a week. I used to walk on the treadmill for 1 mile a day or until i burned between 100 t0 150 calories.
Now i drink 1 or 2 sodas a day especially when i feel stressed with my job. I don't get on the treadmill or elliptical like i used to because when i think about it after strength training i tell myself tommorow but it never happens. Idk why i hate the treadmill now. As for the elliptical i was told that was a feminine machine. As for logging I try to do that but some days I forget lol

You could do cardio first or for a few minutes in between sets.

The reason why people gain their weight back is too much calories, so eating Surplus.

the cause can be different from person to person.

But most of the time it is that the period that they lose weight they eat "skinny" products or go different than how they will sub-stain their weight in the future when they reached their goal weight.
In other words they go crash dieting...go vegetarian, low sugar, low carb, pills, shakes whatever. But this is not the way they will eat for the rest of their lives. So when you want to eat low carb or be a vegetarian oke. When not than dont start it to lose weight.
When reaching their goal weight at a certain point, they go back to eating what they really like or want to eat.
Result most of the time ( not always) weight gain.

Now to avoid this...
Eat how you want to eat your whole life. But to lose the excess weight eat less calories than you burn.
How?.....Create a deficit. Know by weighing all your food on a scale your calorie intake and log honestly.

Now exercise, so moving will help also. But weight loss starts in the kitchen

When you reach your gaol weight this way you only have to up the calories you take in. To maintainence level.
No change in foods at all. Just more and some more snacks etc. So you dont lose weight anymore. But also not to gain afterwards


hope that helps OP

Abram86 wrote: »

Thanks to everyone who responded. When I first began I cut out sugar and flour. I was drinking tea without sugar, gave up the stupid sodas. I was eating chicken breast, fish and pork chops and hamburgers cooked on the George foreman. If I did use oil to cook it was coconut. I rotated the above daily and I'd eat out once a week. I used to walk on the treadmill for 1 mile a day or until i burned between 100 t0 150 calories.
Now i drink 1 or 2 sodas a day especially when i feel stressed with my job. I don't get on the treadmill or elliptical like i used to because when i think about it after strength training i tell myself tommorow but it never happens. Idk why i hate the treadmill now. As for the elliptical i was told that was a feminine machine. As for logging I try to do that but some days I forget lol

So you're consuming more calories and exercising less. That definitely equals weight gain.

If you don't like the treadmill or the elliptical then don't do them. There's no need to if you don't want to but I've seen some pretty beefy men using the elliptical machines at my gym. I'm a big proponent of doing the things you like because you'll want to do them and not put them off to a tomorrow that never comes. If you don't do cardio, though, you have to consume less calories but 100-150 isn't really that much to worry about anyway.

I usually lift with a partner but on the occasions that I've lifted alone after I've finished a set I'll do a lap around the inside of the gym. It both gets me some extra steps (over a mile) and kills the time that I'd be sitting there just twiddling my thumbs.

To me the logging that you do is not accurate
cup of this cup of that etc etc
Weighing your food is important specially oats

Here a short video about hundreds of difference in weighing or measuring oats.

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=JVjWPclrWVY

and for the frying. Well when i use oil unfortunately i do the whole spoon So i log the spoon full and dont subtract what is left in the pan.
Which you can btw

But i use a spray much more accurate for me. I put my pan (cold) on the scale. Zero the scale out. spray the pan and put it back on the scale...now it will give you some grams ( or a lot lol depends on how much you use)
And there you have your amount you use for frying. Now when i take the fish you i am not going to weigh again. It is logged and that is it.
Because i dont use much of it, i really dont going to subtract what is left over in the pan.

Looking at your dairy, you better tighten up some other things like weighing everything else instead of worrying about the left over oil in the pan.

Abram86 wrote: »

Ok thanks

yvw good luck!