I'm tired of this

"Nothing tastes as good as thin feels."

I totally understand where you are coming from. I have been in the same boat for many years. To me it feels like if I don't calculate everything, then I don't have control. You can do it though....don't give up. Take baby steps every day!!

If you're eating healthy and sensibly, you don't have to worry so much about counting calories. Eventually, it'll become second nature. You'll be accustomed to eating the right amount and you'll kind of know you've eaten more/worse than you should. Just do some extra exercise that day.

OMG... I understand. I just went to NY this past weekend and I honestly didn't behave myself. But you can always take a walk after and talk with your friend. At least that way you can burn a little bit of what you ate. You can have it all really just have half and take a walk is my routine.

Have you thought about changing your planned rate of loss to 1/2 pound a week? That's what I do! I've lost 15 pounds since April 10th, without ever feeling deprived or like I'm 'dieting'. To tell the truth, I eat ice cream several times a week with any battling! It just fits easily into my nutritional plan. (as do cheeseburgers, pizza and cupcakes!)

Maybe if you choose a slower path, it will be easier to stick with it and make a permanent lifestyle change.

You need to reward yourself ! Don't get down on yourself, you can always get back on track, don't beat yourself up about what you may have done or not done in the past, one step in front of the other and look ahead. Have your week with your friends and just stay on track the days you can, then commit and get back into it when you are able to. We all have setbacks.......we all get discouraged, but looking back can't change anything..........you must look forward. You can do it......... !

An occasional meal or even day of just eating whatever is fine. I do that occasionally, and have even been known to do a whole week like that. Sure I put on weight when I do that, but it keeps me sane and allows me to enjoy birthdays, anniversaries, and the like.

Don't become defeated. It’s all about moderation. On a day you know you might indulge in foods that are higher in calorie content go for 30 minutes longer at the gym. Or maybe split a really sumptuous meal with a friend. There are ways to still enjoy things you love and stay on track. The worst thing you can do is completely deprive yourself. I feel like that is when people completely fall off the wagon and binge out on everything they are missing.
It’s so easy to get tired of the same boring meals. There are so many amazing recipes that taste like a gourmet meal with ½ the fat. Keep your eyes open and you’ll be pleasantly surprised with what you may find.
Good Luck! If you ever need some extra support you can always feel free to message me! I have felt the same exact way before.

Find healthier versions of what you eat. My favorite "ice cream" recipe is 2 frozen bananas, 1/4c frozen juice concentrate (Pick one that compliments banana flavor), 1/4c almond milk (you can use milk if you can eat it, I can't) blend in a blender. It's the best feeling soft serve icecream ever. It makes 4 servings each serving is very generous, it's a fruit serving and it's only 78 calories. No guilt, no stress, very satisfying. I made gluten free thin mints this past weekend. normal sized cookies dipped in minty chocolate less than 70 calories a cookie. Even my picky husband begged me for a second batch and told me it tastes just like the real thing only softer, which is a bonus to him because he hates hard cookies but adores thin mints.

No stress involved. Be creative and find ways to make what you love without the caloric load of their overbloated commercial counterparts. It is totally doable. As for the restaurant start by dividing your plate in half and putting one half in a take home bag. Order something that isn't loaded with fat, start with your veggies and you'll do fine. Good luck and enjoy your dinner with your friend.

My advice for what it is worth

Be as good as you can all day then, Eat It, Enjoy It, and Forget It.

But make sure you are back on track by the morning.

This is only for special occassions, the type you don't get every week.

If it is something you do all the time you wlll have to compensate with exercise and cutting back elsewhere.

I know exactly how you feel. Counting calories and weighing and measuring things is probably the most aggravating thing about trying to lose weight. I'd exercise all day every day (if I had the time) if it meant that I didn't have to stress out about the nutrient contents of everything I put in my mouth.

It's times like your having that I tend to fall of the wagon and kudos to you for coming to the forums for support.

Perhaps take a short break from the weighing and measuring and counting. Continue to make good food decisions and exercise.




Also for the "Nothing tastes as good as skinny feels." people out there. Please with all due respect for love of my sanity knock it off. A good portion of us have NO idea what it's like to be skinny, we can imagine but that's not really good enough. A big ol cookie or brownie is instant gratification and most of us didn't get this way by saying no to instant satisfaction. It's a tough battle to say no to something you know will feel good right NOW instead of something that you imagine will feel good months or years down the road.

i had a big message wrote out but it has to be inside of you. none of us can change that. I am prefer to have the MFP mindset rather than missing out on life because I feel to fat and fogged out to do anything.

I can't really add anything more than what everyone has already said and they are all right. Just remember that you are NEVER the only one going through this. I can't tell you how many times I've moaned and *****ed on MFP about calorie counting and exercising. Actually, here, for a good laugh, read about my last ranting session...

http://www.myfitnesspal.com/blog/petithamu/view/warning-this-is-a-post-where-i-will-be-*****ing-a-lot-if-you-do-read-read-at-your-own-peril-tiff-is-in-a-bad-mood-90288

You started this on your own and that is something to be proud of. Like everyone had said, you have to give yourself a break from time to time. I only just learned that 6 months into this journey. Sometimes it takes people years to learn so I'm considering myself lucky it only took me six months. I used to stress out so much...to the point I'd get tummy aches and lose sleep over it...but for what? Just so I can lose 20lbs? Not worth it.

Go out with your friends, enjoy your meals. Don't stuff yourself, eat until you are both physically and mentally satisfied. Love yourself and be happy with whatever decision you make. One or two days is not going to ruin your progress. Don't give up

I've been skinny. The cookie is better. :laugh:

But it's best when you're strong and fit and eat well 90% of the time, so you can still enjoy the cookie when you really want it.

^^ THIS!!

As I told my father-in-law after I took time out to use the treadmill at the hotel this weekend "I work out so I can drink beer". :laugh:

This is just a lifestyle decision. Making better choices about what you take in and put out. The numbers don't mean anything. Once you get into the groove and are aware it doesn't matter if your number goes up and down. You will regulate your healthy lifestyle as a matter of habit.