hubby says he's tired of hearing about it

It is very hard for someone to support you 100% and always be on hand to listen, discuss, be your confident - especially if they do not share the same common goal.

That is what MFP is for...

I talk to my OH about losing weight a lot, because I need some support and I am proud of my loss so far BUT I do draw the line. My OH is naturally slim and has never had to worry about calories / portion control in his life. It is a different world to him LOL! So he listens, he tells me how good I look and how proud he is of me - he has bene fab - but he just doesn't "get it" like people here do!

I have learned over time that people don't want to hear it if they are not doing it. I try not to talk about it unless they ask. I am doing this for me and no one else.

great posting, it sounds like he may be suffering from WDO syndrome 'wifes diet overload'.

You need support, he needs some different form of stimulation through discussion! You can come on here and blab on to your hearts content leaving your hubby in peace, to soon be asking you, why dont we ever talk!!!

Life is so complicated LOL

good luck with your goals, MFP is 24 hour support

I'm kind of the same as your husband. I hear about a problem and offer unwanted solutions. It's just the way I am. I feel if you're going to offer up a problem, it's because you want a solution. Seems women don't want that. And that's where my confusion begins.

Let us listen, cos we do all understand!
I would be lost without the support I get on here.
Add me as a friend if you wish
Jules x

My Husband has been 100% behind me especially in my plateaus areas startin' at 157-160, 147-150, 137-140, 127-130...

I didn't stay to long in a plateau - sure I whined and complained but I didn't dwell on it - I did somethin' about it...! I changed up my diet, up my workouts.

My Husband now can't believe I drop 162 lbs to 120 lbs in 5 months & 10 Days...42 lbs gone!

Your Husband may be havin' a bad day or he may be tellin' you nicely - stop complainin' and do somethin' about it. He may feel he doesn't know what to do in these situations but listen.

Best wishes on gettin' out of you plateau

Ok so weightloss is a big focus of mine and I do talk about it a lot. Mostly because I have been stuck at a 2 month pateau and am baffled by it. <snip> But I guess I must talk about it more than my husband wants to hear. <snip> Yesterday he said......"I'm tired of talking about your weight"

Suggest that if he's fed up with hearing about it, he pays for you to visit a nutritionalist so you can show them your food diary and discuss it with them instead.

He gets to stop hearing you go on about your plateau, you might get the information you need to break it.

Win / Win! :bigsmile:

Yes - I would stop talking to your husband about it. Talk to us all you want...that is why this site is great. I decided not to talk to my guy about my weight loss and work outs.....I want to catch his eye one day....by having him look at me and say to himself she looks so good!!! LOL he thinks I look good now and when I say anything about how I need to lose weight or exercise more he says how can you improve something that is already great? He is a sweetie.... So this is for me to look good for me too feel good for me - and of course also for that look that he will have when one day out of the blue he will think to himself, man she really does look great and so sexy! I hope this helps. You can do it! But do it for you, to feel good, to feel healthy and sexy and then let the others notice someday when you least expect it and wonder how you did it.. Good Luck!!

i have to say i don't really talk to my husband about this at all...which is great because he keeps throwing out compliments which pleasantly surprise me try keeping quiet and he'll probably start asking you about it

I agree. Post here and let him start throwing the complements your way! next thing you know he'll want to talk about what your doing.

great posting, it sounds like he may be suffering from WDO syndrome 'wifes diet overload'.

:laugh: :laugh: :laugh: I think my hubbie is suffering too

Its nice to be able to vent here when you know most of us have or are going through the same thing

oh ohhhh I better learn from you. My hubby will be home in July. I already chat him to death about it via email. I can't imagine how I will be when he is home. I guess one thing that is going for me is that he is into exercise being in the military. Maybe it won't be so bad...maybe lol

Thanks for posting about your hubby. My husband is always saying to me that it's the basic calories in and calories out and says it's fine that this is consuming my routine right now, but soon it'll have to change. Ugh!! I guess we expect our husbands to react the way our girlfriends would or mfps would. My husband just has to cut our his cool ranch doritos and jog every other day (for about 1 month) and all of a sudden he has this defined 6 pack . He knows I'm proud of myself but doesn't undersand how hard it is for me to lose my lower baby belly. That's my goal and a little jogging isn't going to clear that up. That's when my mfp fiends step in and give the encouragement I NEED. Although, I must say that my husband does notice the difference, in my energy, in the bedroom, and that makes him VERY happy and verbally supportive. By the way, my boys 8,6 and 2 love watching me do my 30 Day Shred. They know that mommy wants to be healthy and exercise is a big part of a healthy heart, so when they see mommy putting on her running shoes they're right there to grab my weights, fill my water bottle, and press play on the dvd. Good luck on your venture and know that we're all here for you on mfp to keep you going. Hey, and who's to say that you're not going to be a bikini mom. No one knows what the future holds. Best wishes.