nothing can motivate me ..

hiraraeesi wrote: »

thanks to all.. i m really feeling better after reading all above posts and a bit motivatedn its just may be that no one motivated and ever understood what i really wanted.. i always wanted support which i never had..
if i 'd asked my family plz not to bring fatty foods they were always like .." its not our fault that u r fat.."
my friends always complimented that" ya u lookin good today if u were skinnnier u wd 've looked more beautiful"

and today i was so motivated to join a local gym.. when i informed my brother he was like.. " ya ya.. i ve been watchin u struggling to weight lose from my childhood u still the same"

Now, get him to go to the gym with you, at least for 10 sessions.
After 10 sessions, I would like to hope you will feel comfortable going to the gym alone, if you needed to

hiraraeesi wrote: »

i had.. i dont need to watch all these videos i 'd seen my Dad struggling with his life and.. my Dad was a food addict too and passed away just at the age of 49 bcoz of this.. he'd always warned me by sayin dont do what i ve done to myself .. He had diabetes, IBS and high b.p which led to stroke..

even

Azuriaz wrote: »

If the way you look isn't enough to get you going, learn everything you can about the health consequences of a bad diet. Lots of free info online, I think TED Talks have the greatest variety of short introductions to these topics from the most reputable speakers on diet, exercise, and just about everything else you might have an interest in.

Learn the struggles of people who get to the point of needing weight loss surgery, and how they still struggle and even fail and regain the weight afterward because it wasn't a magic fix.

Learn everything you can about metabolic syndrome and diabetes. Check out a photo of a diabetic gangrenous foot for some reasons besides appearance and self-esteem to make wiser food choices.

Check out lectures on the mental health and cognition benefits of an active lifestyle. (I just started watching some of the TED Talks on these myself.)

Lots and lots of reasons to be healthy at a good weight (as opposed to at a good weight but still not healthy) if you want to live a long, healthy life. If these resources had been available to me when I was young, I like to think I'd be much better off than I am now.

I'm sorry you went through that. I hope it motivates you soon. You know it's what he'd want. But I also understand how hard it is to put what you know into practice when you're fighting what you want at the moment. So I do get it.

Hi,
I have a dress that I brought that hangs up on my wardrobe and I see it everyday....it helped me to stay focused. I also had to find something to do that I enjoyed more than food so that I could stop thinking about what my next meal would be. I always blamed my husband for eating bad stuff around me and blamed him for my extra weight but I had to except that it was only ME who could change my weight issue. I think the key is to not cut anything out because you will want to eat it even more! One change I made was to cut out all low fat food as it contains more sugar and just eat more balanced meals with higher fats which are suppose to keep you fuller and I think that has really helped me. I also tried to be more active, just a 20min walk a day helped me. I have lost 4 stone in 8 months and all I have done is a bit of walking everyday, logged on every day and tried to stick to my calorie limit. If I have bad days I scroll down and look at before and after pictures that people have posted, it always helped me... Good luck!

I haven't read the whole thread. If you are really unmotivated and can't stop eating, you may be depressed. You sound like you are at least a little depressed. Its very difficult to lose weight when you are mildly depressed. Actually a lot of us tend to just keep putting it on in those circumstances.

You need to resolve your mental health issues and then you will find losing weight easier.

This is one of the fundamentals of successful long term weightloss.

To start getting yoru mental health in order, see your GP and look into getting some councilling. It may not happen over night but to get happier you need hope and you need to feel that your problems are starting to resolve. Its a lot easier to do this when you have support.



Note: another case of losing weight not being as simple as CICO.

mnmiranda05 wrote: »

It is a struggle to get started, but trust me you don't want your motivation to become mine. I'm not even 25 years old and I weigh over 300 lbs. I was just diagnosed with high blood pressure and type 2 diabetes. That is my motivation. If I don't change my life, I won't have one to live. My advice to you is to not think about how much you weigh or what you want to lose. Instead, think about what you want to gain. You want to gain confidence. You want to gain health. You want to keep your relationship. Don't do it just for your looks. Do it for everything else. And then take it one day at a time. When you find yourself wanting or reaching for something unhealthy, stop yourself and debate what would be a better alternative. Want a glass of soda? Reach for water instead. Want a chocolate chip cookie? Get your sugar fix from a serving of fruit. Moderation and proper serving sizes is keep to keeping a healthy life. Don't plan too far in advance and try not to get down when you have a setback because it will happen. But keep in mind what you want and put the work into and you'll get there.

Really nice post.

Correct: You have to want to change to change. if you don't, failure is imminent. bottom line

The point about this is, wanting to change is just the start. You have to take a lot of other steps to prepare before you are ready and able to start cutting back calories. You see when you are feeling well and happy, eating a bit less is easy. You do not have to struggle against yoruself all the time. The reason its like this is because your hormones when you are depressed make you hungry. The hormone in question is seratonin but there could be others involved. And on top of that, you are probably eating a lot of carby things which don't really satisfy you. and it becomes a vicious circle.

Incorrect: Motivation only takes you so far. Discipline is what enables you to push on even when you don't feel like it.

The latter one is not even logical. Behind discipline is motivation. That said, i do not believe discipolien is a particularly useful word here. I think restraint is a better one. But when you want something good for yourself more than you want something which is bad for yourself, it is quite easy to restrain yourself so discipline is not an issue.

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If your family brings over high fat foods why not weigh out 4oz and eat that? Then if there are left overs weight them out too and freeze them. Look up the calories in that food on MFP and record it. Once you start weighing your food and then only eating that portion, you'll start to take back control of not only your eating, but of your life. If your family doesn't like the weighing, tough luck.

They have a chance at life, their own, and you also have your one shot at life. I know they love you and you love them, but it's time to be an adult with them. Once they see you in action, weighing food and losing weight, they will have lots of respect for you, whether they admit it to you or not.

As for exercise, it will make your body and mind feel better and you'll gain confidence in and with your body. Just go slowly at first. We need to learn to crawl before we can walk type of thing.

Do you mind if I ask what your stats are and what your goals are?

i.e.:

Height / Weight / Age
total pounds you want to lose
current goal (i.e. lose 2 pounds a week; lose by x date; lose in a year... etc)

Do you log your food?
Do you weigh or measure it (scale and cups)?

What's your lifestyle? (work at a desk job? go to the gym? what kind of exercise)

Part of me wonders if the desire to eat and eat and the feeling of futility is tied to (or partially affected by) how you are going about trying to lose the weight.

slideaway1 wrote: »

Patttience wrote: »

slideaway1 wrote: »

You just need to start. Once you start exercising and paying attention to your calories/nutrition you will get into a rhythm. You will slowly see results which will encourage you to continue and form new habits. Hopefully by then it will turn into a lifestyle change. The hardest part is starting though and committing to it with purpose. Good luck.

You do not need to start exercising. This is utter crap. I lost about 40 pounds last year in about six months and i did not do any exercise. I only do veyr moderate exercise now and i do it for my health, not for weight loss.

Thinking you have to do a ton of exercise makes losing weight harder. Especially when you are depressed because the last thing you want to do when you are depressed is exercise. I remember very well how it feels.

I could not care less about how you lost weight. I was responding to the OP. I mentioned calories and nutrition too. Exercise was a suggestion to make her feel better about her self and help make creating a deficit easier. I have the opposite experience with how exercise helps tremendously with depression/anxiety/self confidence.

Is exercise required? no
Is exercise beneficial? Hell YES

exercise:
- allows you to eat more, so if you love to eat, exercise gives you more room
- it helps strengthen your body - muscles, bones, organs
- the actual act of exercising releases endorphins - feel good drugs into your system --- It's a natural high
- helps you feel powerful - as you get stronger, as you feel healthier
- sweat is good for your skin

Do you have to do a tonne of it? No! Keeping everything else the same (even eating habits), adding even a little more exercise to your life will help.

@Patttience - you have some good points, but I agree with @slideaway1

eta... when depressed the last thing you may WANT to do is exercise... but I am willing to bet that if you can force yourself to get up and do SOMETHING... even a fast paced walk... it WILL help. It's a great cure for depression. Exercise (intense exercise) kept me sane during my divorce.

hiraraeesi wrote: »

MireyGal76 wrote: »

Do you mind if I ask what your stats are and what your goals are?

i.e.:

Height / Weight / Age
total pounds you want to lose
current goal (i.e. lose 2 pounds a week; lose by x date; lose in a year... etc)

Do you log your food?
Do you weigh or measure it (scale and cups)?

What's your lifestyle? (work at a desk job? go to the gym? what kind of exercise)

Part of me wonders if the desire to eat and eat and the feeling of futility is tied to (or partially affected by) how you are going about trying to lose the weight.

Height / 5.6"
Weight / 207 lbs
Age / 27
total pounds you want to lose 70
current goal losing 1 kg a week
(i.e. lose 2 pounds a week; lose by x date; lose in a year... etc)

Do you log your food?
its been just 5 days that i ve started logging my food
Do you weigh or measure it (scale and cups)?
No. i ve never measured my food ever

What's your lifestyle? (work at a desk job? go to the gym? what kind of exercise)

i dont exercise .. and currently i am not working..

Ok... so here are some numbers...
According to your stats (pumped into this site http://www.shapesense.com/fitness-exercise/calculators/daily-caloric-expenditure-calculator.aspx) your current daily calorie expenditure is around 2090.

If you have your goal set to lose 1kg (aka 2.2 pounds a week) you're being told to only consume 1200 calories.

This corresponds to eating AT LEAST HALF of what you would normally be eating - and that won't even give you a 2lb a week loss!



My recommendation is this...
1) reset your goal to one that is less aggressive. Allow yourself to eat more food. Allow yourself to lose weight at a slower rate.

Yes I know you hate being overweight. Yes I know you want the weight gone. But I also know that you would have to be incredibly disciplined and motivated to be able to start eating HALF of what you normally eat! It's a lot to handle mentally, and if you turn to food when stressed, it's a solid indicator that your plan will fail.

2) start measuring your food out and LOG EVERYTHING.
Yes I know that this is a huge pain in the assy. Yes I know that it feels obsessive. But I also know (from experience) how easy it is to underestimate because you are hungry. I kill my day with dips and sauces. I used to LOVE ranch dressing... I'd have like 5 tbsp (conservative) at dinner - with my chicken, with my potatoes... at 70 cals a pop... BAM! There goes 350 calories!!!

3) start exercising. even a little.
You mentioned you aren't working. I recommend taking half an hour, put in some music, and go walking. Walk outside, walk inside, just walk. Walk fast. Maybe consider adding in a little jogging time. It's a great time to figure stuff out, and... if you walk for 45 mins at a moderate pace... you can add about 150 cals to your day.

4) take measurements and BEFORE pics (front, side back - relaxed), then put your scale away for a month.
This is hard. We are driven by numbers. But commit to the first three for a month and then when the month is over... Weigh again. Take another set of pics. Measure again. I am pretty sure that if you are honest with yourself for the month, you'll see changes.

and lastly...
Remember this is a lifetime solution. You want to find a lifestyle you can LIVE. One you can enjoy. 1200 cal diets may help you drop weight fast, but they don't teach you how to manage your calories. Often they lead to bingeing because you WANT FOOD... and when you finally cave in, you go batshiz crazy.

http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1318741/in-5-weeks-youll-lose-10lbs-why-is-it-not-working/p1
http://community.myfitnesspal.com/en/discussion/1343719/get-rich-quick/p1

I completely understand where you are coming from. Instead of fighting your love of food, why not embrace it, but in a healthier way?
-Count your calories (don't set your goal too low) and make the best use of them. If you're not really a big breakfast fan for instance, eat something low cal and save your calories fro the rest of the day. If you eat fairly healthy, you can eat every few hours. I know I do! You can even work in a little treat every day. I'm losing and I do this.

-Identify your eating habits. Can't resist junk food? Don't keep it in the house or in your sight. Eat when you're bored? Go read a book. Sad? Take up a hobby. By occupying yourself you will not only be too distracted to eat, you'll become happier in general and will no longer need to eat your emotions.

-Be proactive. Shop for the groceries and make the food yourself.

When you set yourself up for success and not failure, you will achieve your dreams. Good luck!