What am I doing wrong?!?

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  • stevencloser
    stevencloser Posts: 8,911 Member
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    I didn't read all the replies so I am going into this blind but i have some questions do you weight train or just doing cardio? Are you having a cheat day once a week and increasing your calories by about 500 one day a week? These are very important questions. I would like to help if need some advice.

    No cheat days. And no, the most I've gone over is 53 calories. And I did that once.
    Made up for it by doing extra workout. I am doing a mix of cardio 2 days a week, I do yoga 2 days a week and usually the days I do cardio I don strength along with another two days of just strength. Yoga is 90 minutes long. I usually have about 20-30 minutes of cardio and strength is about 45 minutes. When I get home I also work on abs for 15-20 minutes.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    Abs are NOT worked every day. Just to clarify. Maybe 3 days a week
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.
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  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.

    Judging by your responses, you are doing every thing as you should be and should be losing weight if you are in fact eating the correct calorie amount required. I'd give it a couple more weeks and see how you get on. There may be something medically going on here that is stalling weight loss (probably not but it's not something to rule out just yet). Patience and time and then re-assess.
  • Francl27
    Francl27 Posts: 26,371 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    You said you workout a lot, including lifting.
    Therefore, you are losing FAT but gaining MUSCLE - and this is why the scales are staying the same.
    It's a good thing.
    My advice would be to ditch the scales and measure your waist, hips, thighs etc each week instead and also take pictures regularly so you can see the amazing changes you are making - who cares what the scales say once you look hot? :)
    No, that isn't why the scales are staying the same.

    So what is your suggestion then?
    Be more patient.

    A woman eating in a deficit isn't putting on muscle at the same rate she's losing fat. That just isn't going to happen.

    When you say, "Two weeks ago my scale said 127" and "But.... After 5 weeks it's literally not moved at all" it's not clear at all what kind of timeframe you're really talking about here.

    What I'm saying is I started at 129. For 3 weeks the scale stayed at 129. Not an ounce more not an ounce less. I jumped on the scale two weeks ago it said 127. Today I weighed in again and it's up to 129 not an ounce more not an ounce less. I weigh at the same time in the morning before I have anything to eat/drink. My overall point was for the last 31 days I've weighed everything I've eaten and the scale is the Same today as it was 31 days ago.

    Probably water weight fluctuations due to your period. Going to assume you stayed at 129 for 3 weeks, got your period, lost 2 pounds... and now 2 weeks later your period is due in a week or two so you have gained weight.

    Totally normal. Weigh yourself the week after your period again and you'll be at 125 or something.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.

    Judging by your responses, you are doing every thing as you should be and should be losing weight if you are in fact eating the correct calorie amount required. I'd give it a couple more weeks and see how you get on. There may be something medically going on here that is stalling weight loss (probably not but it's not something to rule out just yet). Patience and time and then re-assess.

    Am I wrong to think I might be allowing myself too few calories? Is that possible? I've thought about that, but... Starvation mode will only last so long before weight does start dropping (if that's the case, and no I don't want my body to be in starvation mode of any kind.) I've battled with anorexia my entire teen/early adult life and that's not what I want. But, is it possible? My lifestyle is set to sedentary because I have an office job that I don't move around a lot throughout that portion of the day. I don't want my efforts to be counter productive.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    Francl27 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    You said you workout a lot, including lifting.
    Therefore, you are losing FAT but gaining MUSCLE - and this is why the scales are staying the same.
    It's a good thing.
    My advice would be to ditch the scales and measure your waist, hips, thighs etc each week instead and also take pictures regularly so you can see the amazing changes you are making - who cares what the scales say once you look hot? :)
    No, that isn't why the scales are staying the same.

    So what is your suggestion then?
    Be more patient.

    A woman eating in a deficit isn't putting on muscle at the same rate she's losing fat. That just isn't going to happen.

    When you say, "Two weeks ago my scale said 127" and "But.... After 5 weeks it's literally not moved at all" it's not clear at all what kind of timeframe you're really talking about here.

    What I'm saying is I started at 129. For 3 weeks the scale stayed at 129. Not an ounce more not an ounce less. I jumped on the scale two weeks ago it said 127. Today I weighed in again and it's up to 129 not an ounce more not an ounce less. I weigh at the same time in the morning before I have anything to eat/drink. My overall point was for the last 31 days I've weighed everything I've eaten and the scale is the Same today as it was 31 days ago.

    Probably water weight fluctuations due to your period. Going to assume you stayed at 129 for 3 weeks, got your period, lost 2 pounds... and now 2 weeks later your period is due in a week or two so you have gained weight.

    Totally normal. Weigh yourself the week after your period again and you'll be at 125 or something.

    Which is totally possible as well. I was googling about that yesterday because I do feel bloated and have been unreasonably hungry these last 2-3 days. I'll see what happens after I get my period.
    (Sorry guys, don't want to gross you out lol)
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.

    Judging by your responses, you are doing every thing as you should be and should be losing weight if you are in fact eating the correct calorie amount required. I'd give it a couple more weeks and see how you get on. There may be something medically going on here that is stalling weight loss (probably not but it's not something to rule out just yet). Patience and time and then re-assess.

    Am I wrong to think I might be allowing myself too few calories? Is that possible? I've thought about that, but... Starvation mode will only last so long before weight does start dropping (if that's the case, and no I don't want my body to be in starvation mode of any kind.) I've battled with anorexia my entire teen/early adult life and that's not what I want. But, is it possible? My lifestyle is set to sedentary because I have an office job that I don't move around a lot throughout that portion of the day. I don't want my efforts to be counter productive.

    If you are eating at a deficit, you should be losing weight. I'm not an expert but 'starvation mode' isn't really a thing. If you are eating too few calories, you most certainly would be losing weight. I don't think that's the issue at all. If it helps, I am also sedentary and spend most of the time sitting. For me to maintain my weight, I can have around 1750 calories. To lose 0.5lb per week, I eat around 1500. I'm losing weight.

    Again, give it some time - let your body adjust to whatever it needs to adjust to (be it hormonal, water retention - whatever) and revisit the issue in a few weeks time if you need to.Chances are you'll be absolutely fine.
  • Mariothegr66t
    Mariothegr66t Posts: 5 Member
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    I disagree completely.

    You can't 'trick' your body into burning fat and she isn't in starvation mode.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)
  • DeguelloTex
    DeguelloTex Posts: 6,652 Member
    edited October 2015
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.

    Judging by your responses, you are doing every thing as you should be and should be losing weight if you are in fact eating the correct calorie amount required. I'd give it a couple more weeks and see how you get on. There may be something medically going on here that is stalling weight loss (probably not but it's not something to rule out just yet). Patience and time and then re-assess.

    Am I wrong to think I might be allowing myself too few calories? Is that possible?
    Yes. No, not as a cause for not losing weight.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)

    What are your stats? 129 lbs and how tall? How active?
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    I have a sedentary job (I'm sitting for 8 hours all day everyday) and I work out 4 times a week (cardio and strength training for an hour). I lose weight on 1500 and I can maintain at around 1750. If I upped my calories to 2500 per day, I would MOST CERTAINLY gain weight. Without a shadow of a doubt.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)

    What are your stats? 129 lbs and how tall? How active?

    5'4- I sit about 8 hours a day. Work out 5-6 days a week. I do a mix between yoga, cardio and strength. Cardio I really try to make it a sweat fest.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)

    What are your stats? 129 lbs and how tall? How active?

    5'4- I sit about 8 hours a day. Work out 5-6 days a week. I do a mix between yoga, cardio and strength. Cardio I really try to make it a sweat fest.

    In which case 2500 calories will cause you to gain weight.

    This isn't related to the reasons for your weight loss stall - but after plugging your details in to a few calculators, you should be eating around 1500 per day and still be losing up to a 1lb or so a week.. (although this number includes your exercise calories - you won't need to eat those on top of 1500).

  • daniwilford
    daniwilford Posts: 1,030 Member
    . You are definitely in starvation mode

    No! Just No! Nothing will weigh less if you put more into it. Starvation is a real thing, if you eat to little, it can and does happen. Starvation Mode is a myth, eating more calories is never going to result in a lower weight than eating fewer calories in the long term. Eating to few calories effects health in negative ways, but will always result in weight loss. Just to be clear I am not advocating for a female to eat below 1200 calories.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)

    What are your stats? 129 lbs and how tall? How active?

    5'4- I sit about 8 hours a day. Work out 5-6 days a week. I do a mix between yoga, cardio and strength. Cardio I really try to make it a sweat fest.

    In which case 2500 calories will cause you to gain weight.

    This isn't related to the reasons for your weight loss stall - but after plugging your details in to a few calculators, you should be eating around 1500 per day and still be losing up to a 1lb or so a week.. (although this number includes your exercise calories - you won't need to eat those on top of 1500).

    I think I'll just give myself another couple weeks and see how I'm doing. I'm hoping when I meet with a trainer he can teach me some more about recomp as I am really eager to start a heavy lifting schedule. Recomp and eating to build muscle is something I'm perfectly fine admitting I have no experience on and it 100% confuses me. Thank you for all your great advice, you've been really helpful.
  • stevencloser
    stevencloser Posts: 8,911 Member
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    You can't definitely be in a mode that doesn't exist.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    Well I do agree I should up my weight and intensity. I honestly don't think I could even manage close to 2500 calories a day. Or are you saying zig zag calories? (which I've read can be very effective)

    What are your stats? 129 lbs and how tall? How active?

    5'4- I sit about 8 hours a day. Work out 5-6 days a week. I do a mix between yoga, cardio and strength. Cardio I really try to make it a sweat fest.

    In which case 2500 calories will cause you to gain weight.

    This isn't related to the reasons for your weight loss stall - but after plugging your details in to a few calculators, you should be eating around 1500 per day and still be losing up to a 1lb or so a week.. (although this number includes your exercise calories - you won't need to eat those on top of 1500).

    I think I'll just give myself another couple weeks and see how I'm doing. I'm hoping when I meet with a trainer he can teach me some more about recomp as I am really eager to start a heavy lifting schedule. Recomp and eating to build muscle is something I'm perfectly fine admitting I have no experience on and it 100% confuses me. Thank you for all your great advice, you've been really helpful.

    Exactly right - give yourself a little bit of time!

    You're very welcome :)
  • stevencloser
    stevencloser Posts: 8,911 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well, 2 things.
    You're eating a 250 kcal deficit to lose 0.5 pounds per week if I see that right. That's a very small deficit and easy to accidentally overshoot accidentally. That could be it.
    On the other hand, even if you're consistently hitting your deficit properly, you could be retaining water weight. That stuff can make your weight fluctuate a lot and hide you actually losing weight, something like 5 pounds difference from one day to the other isn't unheard of.

    I'd understand overshooting maybe once a week. And I'll concede to that because hey, accidents happen. On the other hand, I WEIGH everything I eat. I drink nothing with calories (except creamer which is weighed and added into logging). My meals are planned out Sunday's and proportioned evenly across the board. One day I felt I was low on sugar so I ate a quest bar. I adjusted my dinner to fit. But, that's once I did that. Other wise I haven't had a single snack that hasn't been accounted for.

    Another possibility is that your daily burn is lower than you think, but that's not too likely either at the low calories you're already eating. And you're also only eating back half the exercise calories which is good.
  • Mariothegr66t
    Mariothegr66t Posts: 5 Member
    I am not saying 2500 every day I am saying once a week 2500 calories and another day add 500 you need to trick your body I am not promoting their products but I take free advice anytime. When you have a sec read this and check out the video. I am looking for a specific article I read like 3 months ago for you to have a look at.
    http://www.biotrust.com/the-1-reason-people-fail-to-lose-weight/#.Vg0z5OxVhBc I have and currently using this comp[anies product but I am not promoting them at all just a nice eye opener
  • DeguelloTex
    DeguelloTex Posts: 6,652 Member
    I am not saying 2500 every day I am saying once a week 2500 calories and another day add 500 you need to trick your body I am not promoting their products but I take free advice anytime. When you have a sec read this and check out the video. I am looking for a specific article I read like 3 months ago for you to have a look at.
    http://www.biotrust.com/the-1-reason-people-fail-to-lose-weight/#.Vg0z5OxVhBc I have and currently using this comp[anies product but I am not promoting them at all just a nice eye opener

    Here's some free advice, then: You don't need to trick your body. I lost 122 pounds without tricking my body.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    I am not saying 2500 every day I am saying once a week 2500 calories and another day add 500 you need to trick your body I am not promoting their products but I take free advice anytime. When you have a sec read this and check out the video. I am looking for a specific article I read like 3 months ago for you to have a look at.
    http://www.biotrust.com/the-1-reason-people-fail-to-lose-weight/#.Vg0z5OxVhBc I have and currently using this comp[anies product but I am not promoting them at all just a nice eye opener

    There is no such thing as 'tricking' your body, metabolism or anything else people claim to 'trick'.
  • libby328
    libby328 Posts: 287 Member
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    You can't definitely be in a mode that doesn't exist.

    That's my thoughts. I was an anorexic. I struggled for a lot of years with it. I'm not going to give tips on how to lose an extreme amount of weight in a short time. But I will say when I was at the peak I NEVER struggled to lose weight when I was actually physically starving. It's a bad bad thing. Under eating will always result in loss.
  • PinkPixiexox
    PinkPixiexox Posts: 4,142 Member
    libby328 wrote: »
    Well I think your issue is that with your weight training you need to up the weight and intensity and you body has gone into starvation mode one day a week you need to increase your calories to 2500 per day have a slice and a beer and another day you should increase your total by 500 to trick your body to start burning fat. You are definitely in starvation mode

    You can't definitely be in a mode that doesn't exist.

    That's my thoughts. I was an anorexic. I struggled for a lot of years with it. I'm not going to give tips on how to lose an extreme amount of weight in a short time. But I will say when I was at the peak I NEVER struggled to lose weight when I was actually physically starving. It's a bad bad thing. Under eating will always result in loss.

    A loss that isn't limited to weight. You will also lose your hair, your skin quality, your health and your sanity.

    Glad to hear you've recovered - stay strong.