uh. hey.

ItsBreeBaby
ItsBreeBaby Posts: 4
edited September 2024 in Motivation and Support
I'm eighteen and I've been overweight since my sophomore year and I can't even look in the mirror without feeling gross and yet still I don't know why I don't start exercising and trying to lose weight. I just feel like I'm not worth it. Or is it laziness? I have everything I need here to do it. I have a treadmill and climbing machine and a complete library of fitness workouts on demand for free. I have a job so it's not like I don't have money to buy myself healthy food. I just don't. I guess I just don't feel like I deserve to feel happy or look good at least not anymore.


What is wrong with me? I'm so useless to myself.

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  • pinkgigi
    pinkgigi Posts: 693 Member
    You know you don't have to wait for the motivation to hit, just do it! I felt in a real slump before I started to, and I decided to 'fake it till I made it' and just acted like I was all motivated. It helped that I had a friend to go to the gym with me at first, maybe you can co-opt a friend so you can motivate yourselves?

    *hugs*
    Julie
  • ChantalGG
    ChantalGG Posts: 2,404 Member
    Your story is just like so many of ours on here. You just need to force yourself to do it. I seriously didnt move for over a year. I didnt care, i felt no one else cared so why bother but i decide a month ago that i want to look and feel good. I want to have fun and be around people. So I am making an effort to change things in my life so i can feel happy. And it really does make a difference. Set a mini goal and meet it. like for example see how long you can do on the treadmill and then tomorrow try to beat the time. Just little things like that.
  • Jorra
    Jorra Posts: 3,338 Member
    It may feel hopeless at times, it may feel like it's too hard, but you CAN do it. You completely deserve happiness and high self-esteem. There is nothing wrong with you, we've all been there.
  • heathermrls
    heathermrls Posts: 91
    hi. you just need to remember why you are here in the first place. no one really wants to do exercises or eat something healthy vs. something not so. but its what we have to do to get to the bodies that we want. if you keep waiting for a day to come that you will want to do something most likely it will never come. you just have to do it, and before long it will become a lifestyle change and you will just do it with no problem at all. good luck. you can do this!!!
  • mom_2_girls
    mom_2_girls Posts: 18 Member
    I find myself in the same position a lot. You just have to make yourself do it. When I first started my weight loss journey, I would post on Facebook and tell everyone how I did to keep myself accountable which now I do on here too. Also, when I don't feel like working out, I tell myself "just 5 or 10 min, then I can quit". Then when I hit those 5 or 10 min, I tell myself, "just 5 more minutes." I keep doing that until I can't go any more. Sometimes it is a 10 min workout, other times its 1 1/2 hours. I always try for at least 20 min though. Also, if you set a goal/ reward system, sometimes that helps. (lose 10 lbs do something fun you wouldn't normally do, etc). Good luck! Hope this helps!
  • Heatherbelle_87
    Heatherbelle_87 Posts: 1,078 Member
    *HUG*
    Coming from the girl who was always chubby (at a minimum!) HS is the worst time to be fat, you have your accepting friends, your supposively accepting friends, and the people who just put you down. The accepting friends may have tried to encourage you to lose weight but when you balked, they stopped, they supposively accepting friends may not have mentioend your weight directly but still said things that hurt, then there are the ones who put you down because of your weight.

    Now always being bigger I actually didnt have a hard time dating but this applies to whether you did or didnt. You felt/feel gross & icky and its portrayed in other things you do, especially your confidence around people you find attractive. Thus being another non-motivator because who you are with accepts you as you are, or you are in a mind set of "If I lose weight will he only want me because Im skinny now?"

    Weightloss is as much a physical battle as it is an emotional one. I of all people am very familiar with that aspect.

    Honestly take one step. get comfy then take another.

    IN ALL OF THIS YOU NEED TO COMMIT TO DOING IT FOR YOU, NO ONE ELSE.

    Take pictures if you need too (major spark for me) put them everywhere you can so you see them when you want to make a bad food decision. Pick your favorite excercise and just DO IT! The dont be afraid to try something new after the first 10 lbs come off.

    ADD SUPPORT ON HERE!

    The more support you have, the more people cheering you on, but also understanding the bad days, the easier it will feel.

    *kitten* me if you want, ask me questions. Im not shy!
  • BettyMargaret
    BettyMargaret Posts: 407 Member
    Well, honey, you did take a step in the right direction, you joined this site! Everyone on here that you reach out to will help you all they can. That has been my experience! They (we) really do care about everyone else on here!
    At first, you MAKE yourself do your program, soon it becomes habit. You'll get there! We'll help you! Feel free to add me! Good luck on your journey!
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